Hi. Husband & I are debating this & I want another opinion. I select clothes for comfort first, colors second and style third. He gets me clothes style, colors, then comfort. Which means I have clothes that are uncomfortable, too showy/revealing, not warm enough for winter & that I hate to wear. I have a lot of cute sweaters, that are too thin for the winter, too tight to wear a warm shirt underneath, and are too short.(does not go past my waist) He wants me to wear heels all the time ( can someone explain how I am to walk the dog in heels?) because it makes my legs look longer & swings my hips. But they ruin my stride and it takes me longer to get anywhere and is very difficult to go up & down stairs. When I wear his choices, people stare. a lot, mostly at my chest. This makes me very uncomfortable & uneasy. He thinks it should booster my self confidence. So is this a guy thing? He also thinks that I should get "dressed up" (slacks/skirt) to go to the mall/stores. This is not going
2006-12-12 10:00:04 · 10 answers · asked by speranzacampbell 5 in Beauty & Style ➔ Fashion & Accessories
out to me & so I don't see why I should wear my dinner clothes when my normal clothes (with out rips & stains) should be fine.
And to explain the problem further in inches I have a 26 inseam, a 38 hip, 19 waist and an a 42 D. Most clothes I buy have to be modified
2006-12-12 10:03:01 · update #1
In case the measurements are confusing. My hips need a size 14-16, my waist can fit a 10-12.
2006-12-12 10:23:27 · update #2
You have a 42DD bust, 38 inches hips and 19 inch waist! Oh I hate you! lol
Seriously, there is no point your husband encouraging you to wear all the latest trends and fashions, regardless of whether they fit comfortably or not. That sounds very selfish on his part and you are not going to look your very best if you don't feel good inside. He is not really taking your feelings into account and he needs to understand this is a big issue for you.
You should wear what makes you feel happy, not what makes him feel happy. Take care : )
2006-12-12 14:33:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
His behavior is very unusual and somewhat alarming; neither I nor any of my friends put these kinds of demands on our wives. My first instinct upon reading that your husband actually puts style before comfort (the opposite of what most guys do) made me wonder if he was gay and still in the closet. But upon reading the remainder of your paragraph, it sounds like he's a control freak who wants you to look like some kind of barbie doll so he can feel that he is envied by other men. If his sense of success in life is tied up in always needing constant verification that he "won" by "marrying a hottie", then he has real self-esteem issues that he should talk to someone about, preferably a professional. I won't dive any deeper than that, other than to say that if he really loves you, he won't have any issue with letting you wear what you feel comfortable with.
2006-12-12 10:18:17 · answer #2 · answered by Austin W 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He should first like the way you dress just because it is your opinion. And second it is a guy thing. He likes to see you all dressed up and all that. There is a time and place for that. But usually guys do not like you wearing clothes like that once you have gotten married because you are his and most don't like for others to stare. I know I dress modestly which is comfortable for me and my boyfriend loves it.
2006-12-12 10:05:25 · answer #3 · answered by meandyou4lif 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your husband should not tell you what to wear. it is your clothing, your style, your body. If you dont want to wear heels, then dont! His opion is diffrent than yours, and kindly tell him that you would like to wear somthing more comfy. if he takes it bad, well, maybe your husband likes to see you more stylish and revealing, maybe he thinks if he dressed you, you would look more pretty than the other ladies. and you would be his. all you have to do is say "no." that is the first step.
2006-12-12 10:09:08 · answer #4 · answered by *Cherry* 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not that hard to find comforatable and trendy clothes. Ask yourself this: is it possible to look decent(or really pretty) without being too showy, unwarm, etc.? And the heels, he should respect your wanting to be comforatable. Talk to him. Maybe get shorter heels?
2006-12-12 10:03:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i attempt to locate the acceptable mix. I settle on what type i choose, than locate ones that are mushy in it. I have a tendency to in problem-free words positioned on the painful footwear at the same time as going out and eating, because then they dont problem me! lol
2016-11-25 23:31:08 · answer #6 · answered by hellyer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its definetely a guy thing! admit it. hes a guy. all guys want all the girl goodies they can possibly get. You shoul defineetly pick stylish comfort. theres plenty of clothes out there that are super cute but ot slutty or trashy!
2006-12-12 10:15:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Style hands down!!
2006-12-12 10:05:19 · answer #8 · answered by I Am Jack's Wasted Life 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Both are important !!!
2006-12-12 10:14:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
style all the way!
2006-12-12 10:03:55 · answer #10 · answered by LOVE♥ 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋