I have SAD (not sad as in not happy) and I some times have a hard time dealing with what people think and how they look at me. I love to be myself but when meeting new people(hardly ever) it's very hard for me to do. Most of the time I keep my mind on something else and try to say as little as possible. I just want to know how to deal with it better so I can quit feeling embarrased about myself when I'm around big crowds and so I can talk more and worry less. Plus I'd love to hear comments from people who actually have it too.
2006-12-12 09:58:37 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Yes, I have it also. It is hard to live with especially the times it gets so bad you don't want to go out at all. I have been that bad and since it really isn't in my nature to be that way, it's a big mystery to me. I would say more but I'll tell you that if you want to form a two person support group - email me from here and we'll try to stay in contact if you want.
2006-12-12 10:04:26 · answer #1 · answered by A B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I am a sufferer of social anxiety and it seems to be getting worse as I get older. I was on paxil when they first diagnosed me but since I moved for some reason the therapist doesnt want to give it too me. I think with something like social anxiety you have to be sure not to overpush yourself. Do what feels comfortable for you. I tried to start working to get some kind of normalcy in my life and what a mistake it was. The job I had forced me to be around people work with customers and do things like talk on a loud speaker which made me want to just die. I tried to push past my fears because I wanted to do normal things like everyone else and I guess I overdid it because after a month I had to quit and since then haven't left my house and that was feb of last yr except to go to doctors who can't seem to help me. So don't over due it. Before this episode the thing that use to help me was having what I called a safe person to focus on when I had to be in situations where there would be alot of people that I wouln't know. Some one that I could use to block out the other people or the thoughts that start to go through your head.
2006-12-12 19:19:03 · answer #2 · answered by babeejazzy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi..
My answer may bite.. but it's not intended to.. hope you glean something from it..
OK.. I personally have experienced SAD personally in small doses.. and overcame it easily.. perhaps I realised that when my personal expectations and even personal image dominated my socialising.. at that point life crashed.
I am a total misfit of society now.. and unlike my youth, where I would try so hard ot fit in, now.. I am just myself.. and ironically you'll note from my title.. I'm also very successful too.. where I was once the poorest kid on the block who rarely even got invited to a house party.. let alone a wedding or even dinner.. i didn't even go to my school formals.. and never dated a girl from school..
YET.. I never suffered stress or depression or any kind of social problems apart from being agressive and quite hateful towards people at times.. I never got into an trouble and have many social outlets now..
The trick for me.. was to accept who I was.. if i was different.. then I felt it was also OK to choose a different path ot others.. since everyone made me feel different.. I accepted!!
and so I used the negativity of others to drive me.. and now they all kiss my butt.. I am still odd and different.. but I do things ranging from painting canvas to designing clothing to devloping software.. I am so different i have no limits.. in fact.. I just registered a recording studio and recording label.. so who knows you might even be buying my recording procuctions one day..
so I actually am grateful now that at first everyone pushed me away.. and I became very SAD.. it gave me time to work out that I could use that to my benefit.. by learning how to avoid confrontations or any kind of stress when dealing with people.. even if that meant BEING the clown or BEING the outcast or BEING the looser even.. I laughed and happily accepted..
and now I coast through life.. while most of those "social critics" probably slave away still trying to outdo their best friend.. wasting energy on an image that they probably moulded over years of exposure to television and over-commercialised music..
I am still the same old me.. and everyone knows it.. it's kinda cool..
So dont be SAD.. be different ; -)
2006-12-12 18:17:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes i think things are made to complecated i think sad is a fancy term for being shy and its not uncommon some people are more shy than others i use to be alot more shy than now i remember when i went on my first date [blind date of course ]i was absolutley petrefied so much that i couldnt look at her i couldnt talk to her i was completley PARANOID all i could do was sit there many years later the girl who set up the blind date was amazed to find out how i felt she thought i didnt like the girl but i did the point is that alot of people go through this [i thought i was the only one ha ha]and the best way to overcome it is to get out there and force yourself to talk its a fact the more that you do this the easier it becomes tell people your a little shy and your trying to overcome it its not a bad thing and most people overcome it i still have moments when i get that way but i haqve come so much more outgoing since then and i am a little shy still many people consider that a good thing good luck to you
2006-12-12 18:18:38 · answer #4 · answered by marwinstonboro 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sorry dont have this disorder. Maybe you can try to remember that no one knows you have this disorder and try to just go with the flow. Accept who you are and stand in those crowds with your head held high with confidence. Honestly though, im no dr. so I have no idea how you should deal with this. Good Luck to you.
2006-12-13 17:21:24 · answer #5 · answered by Sweet96 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just keep in mind how many people don't know you have it. So when you are in crowds to them you are just one more person. You'd be surprised to know how many people walk around feeling strange themselves but just keep quiet about it.
2006-12-12 18:08:20 · answer #6 · answered by Gustav 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry you have to deal with this. I can hardly get out of my house because of it. I hope you find and answer that you will share with me.
2006-12-12 18:02:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Behavioral therapy.....DO IT ANYWAY....i began by going to dance clubs and dancing with people.....this was terrifying....but with enough alcohol i could do it......i slowly used less alcohol and faced fears.......now i can dance without it, even if there is no one else dancing,,,,,,,,this spills over into other areas of my life.......i am stronger,,,,,,in other social areas
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2006-12-17 15:07:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I STRUGGLED WITH THIS FOR YEARS. PRAYER HAS HELPED BUT AT TIMES I JUST HAVE TO WALK THROUGH THE FEAR
2006-12-12 18:06:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋