My wife has certainly done it this year. Everytime i have tried to find out what to get her for she tells me she has ordered it for me. I have no idea what she has ordered. For the past week we have been getting deliveries twice daily. She confesses that she has done all her shopping on line and bought one or two things for her self. Yesterday she received a delivery of hair products 9 bottles in total, on asking the price i was told close to a hundred pounds but you can give it to me for christmas. Why i always thought a gift was from the heart but i have picked nothing for her. I am slowly resenting her and christmas as i have no idea what she has bought family members for presents and i don't want them saying "thanks for the present" if i don't know. I asked her and she just shrugs and tells me it is her business. Tonight was the final straw she told me she had ordered something else for christmas from me. So i told her i hadn't got a card so she may as well buy and write it herself
2006-12-12 09:54:57 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Well, give 'em an inch and they take a mile. I think you are doing the right thing saying you have not bought her a card, stick to that and don't get her one or anything else.She is treating you like a cash cow, and has probably been watching the television programmes about how clever women are. We know they are not. Put your foot down and demand to see what she has spent your money on. As for shrugging off your questions. That is just not on- tell her.
2006-12-12 10:04:07 · answer #1 · answered by Tracker 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Shame ... this is definately taking the pleasure of christmas away from you! I suggest you sit her down and tell her she is missing the point of christmas all together! Tell her how you are feeling and tell her since you are a couple, buying gifts for others should be a joint decission! She is being horribly selfish, as Christmas is definately not her business alone .... doesn't she want a nice suprise to open?? If I were you, I would have it out with her ... this is definately not acceptable behaviour. I consult with my entire family as to gifts for others, and definately don't expect to buy my own!!! She is using this as an excuse to buy herself expensive hair treatments etc ... hundred pounds for hair products!! I would be very careful if I were you! You need to take stock of you marriage and all that it stands for. Christmas time is about family,giving and receiving! She is definately taking!!
2006-12-12 10:05:28 · answer #2 · answered by lynne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is terrible. Maybe you need to have a little talk with her. Explain to her the point of Christmas is to do things together. I know that my husband always suprises me at Christmas time and I don't know any other of my friends that buy there own presents. I know that we may hint to something but being suprised is better. You need to stress to your wife that it would be best from now on at Christmas if you pick out things for her and that it really makes you upset the way she has gone and done this without you!! Hope everything works out for you!
2006-12-12 10:00:09 · answer #3 · answered by momdadand4kids 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you told her how you feel? If not you should, how will she know otherwise? If you have told her, tell her this is the last year she will do it and next year you will both be setting aside the same weekend and you will BOTH shop together for all the family presents. And for your wifes presents she can show you some things she likes and YOU will choose which one to buy her.
Be firm, not aggressive. Tell, explain and smile sweetly and say "But dear, it's such a burden for you to do this all on your own, I INSIST next year we do it together"
If all this fails cite the reason in your divorce paper. Maybe she will take the hint then.
2006-12-12 10:02:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe without her knowing, you should go and get her a present. Make sure that it is something that will really WOW her. If you do a good job this may be that last year that she will want to buy her own presents. As far as the family members go. My dad and step-mom each do their own shopping every year. I get presents from the both of them. Maybe you guys should try something like that. Don't let her ruin your Christmas. Be the man and step up and do what you feel is right. Merry Christmas!
2006-12-12 10:03:03 · answer #5 · answered by Heather B 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
provide me a spoil will ya? psychological challenge myass!! sounds like she is purely mucked up and doesn't care about all people yet herself. What you need to do is tell her that your relations is going to rejoice Christmas on the twenty sixth and birthdays 2 days after the chuffed get at the same time that she does no longer get invited to. purely be certain to take a digital camera and go away some images laying around the abode the position she will finally locate them. If she doesn't get the hint then she in no way will, yet something of your relations will be more effective off.
2016-11-25 23:29:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Christmas time a whole lot of shoite
bamming the weans up from morning 'till night
but there's no logs for fires traditions all gone
but still with this bullshoite we all go along
buying Christmas gifts a whole lot of crap
hustle and bustle for this and for that
fighting for Turkey, tatties and sprouts
so this bullshoite at Christmas we could all do without
2006-12-12 10:03:41 · answer #7 · answered by amyirmanmamansoaam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be upset too! My husband and I love shopping together that is the fun of Christmas. She is taking to giving joy of Christmas away from you. I really think you need to sit her down and tell her how you feel. You need to be involved in the process this is not HER Christmas it is every ones and she is sucking the joy. She is being a joy sucker.
2006-12-12 09:59:26 · answer #8 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1st talk to her and tell her it has to stop marriage is about sharing all the good and bad stuff and that this isn't fare on you but if your wife is paying for all this stuff off her own back enjoy not having to bother this year, if your paying for this too then stop all cards and joint accounts, this will get her to see its not all going her way hope you have a good Christmas its nearly over remember that and it is only once a year thankfully
2006-12-12 10:03:07 · answer #9 · answered by upyafartpipe 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why don't you go out and buy yourself something that you really want and then tell your wife you have just bought yourself a ............ and she can give you it for Christmas. as for a present for your wife - get her an adoption certificate for a camel or something and say "well you seem to have bought yourself everything else". she won't do the same next year.
2006-12-12 09:59:01 · answer #10 · answered by magicalle 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋