What can I do about my ***** bashing uncle?

Question

I was born & raised by my uncle but he's always bashin em black folk. I told him he's a f-ing racist and he smashed me in the jaw and told me to marry a n*gger if i love them so much. but i am only 15, what can i do?

Answer 1

First of all, be glad that his opinions and views did not rub off on you. Second, do your best to avoid the subject with him in the future. Avoidance is not often the best strategy in life, but when you are a minor, your rights and therefore your options are limited.

Also, understand that however misguided and ignorant his views may be, he has the right to hold them, and express them. It's one of the things that makes this country great, imagine if some 'higher power" or "state" had discretion over what people could or could not say or believe. Think about his long and hard, because our PC culture is moving more and more towards censorship and fascism, and this would be our downfall.

So the next time he goes mouthing off about anything you disagree with, just keep your thoughts to yourself and remember, he's not going anywhere, but you have a long life ahead of you free of his foolishness.

Answer 2

Well you should be polite to your uncle, if he really smashed you in the jaw like you say, then you should tell someone at school so something can be done. As for racist people, all you can do is pray that the Lord will open their eyes. And if you want start hanging out with all black folks...
I went through all that when I was younger as well because most of my friends were and are black and my father was racist. I talked to him the other night and told him I was going to marry a black man, he is over it now, and he encourages me to find the one that the Lord has for me whether he be black, white, purple, or yellow.
Be nice though, the Bible says bless those who do all evil manner against you.
With you in prayers
merry Christmas

Answer 3

It takes a lot to change a person's point of view. However, even at the point of death, many people do not and will never be able to change their natures. It may or may not be all his fault. It could have been his childhood or perhaps other influences. All you can really do towards his racist behavior is to tolerate it. Out of respect for your elder you should not cause conflict. If he is your sole source of income then I doubt you have much of an advantage and should try not to rock the boat. Think of yourself first. If he becomes too hard to bare or if he is in fact a danger towards your health then you should seek help. However, that can also be dangerous. The system is limited in how it is allowed to handle cases of child or domestic abuses. Check out your state laws prior to making a possible horrible mistake. Try to talk things out. If not, then use other forms of communication that targets his interest and allows him to make a less hard opinion towards other races or sexes. Be patient. It takes a long time for a person, only if they are willing, to change their perception of the word. Life is changing and views of culture and society continually shift. Maybe your uncle will too.

Answer 4

Well, there's an old saying that you catch more flies with honey than you ever will with vinegar.

You'll probably never change him, but insulting him by calling him a f-ing racist is the wrong way to go about telling him that racial slurs offend you.

A simple, "Unc, I love you but those kinds of words are offensive to me. You've brought up right, and I try not to offend others, but you are offending me. Please try to not use those words around me."

Praise him a little and than ASK, don't demand.

Answer 5

First do not ever expect that you deserve to be smashed in the face by what he says. Make sure you tell a real person not internet connected about this incident.

Second, just live your beliefs out. Unfortunatly we can not change people. He can learn by your example though. If it is a spot that causes violence I would avoid talking about it unless there is a nutral third party.

Answer 6

ok ace n 8's whats good with all the negativety? i mean this is a vital issue and how can you ,im pretty sure an adult advise a child to be subordanate to such an atrocity? wheter what race or nationality you may be promoting hatred towards others is not: 1) godly like 2) intellegent or wiseand 3) appealing to the ear or eye..so please by all means introduce your self to some called god and ask him to deliver from your ways,thoughts and theories of othern human biengs

Answer 7

Sure he is an ****, and a scumbag for hitting you. But when you get older and see the world from an adults eyes you will realize the wisdom in his thinking. For god sakes, don't hook up with any ******. And if you want to experiment and fool around with them fine, but don't make the tragic mistake of letting them get you pregnant.

Answer 8

The best thing to do is refuse to take part in his bashing but accept him for who he is, warts and all. He is who he is; be who you are. Don't avoid having black friends because of him, but be sure to warn them if it's ever unavoidable that they will come in his presence. Just say, "Please, don't hold me responsible for what my uncle believes." Chances are, they have a family member with a similar attitude problem and will understand.

Answer 9

well your uncle unfortunatly sounds racists actually sounds alot like my grandma....she racist to everybody even her own race blacks and when i try to tell her shes wrong i get the same treatment....from my experience it seems they'll never change its just bad when your in public with them and it makes you look racist too......but hopefully our generation will continue to rebell and not listen to the negative comments our elders give us so over the years when you become a parent you'll hopefully tell your kids that racism is bad like everyone else your our age should plan on doin.....but for now try to keep your head up and bare with it for 3 mo years and please please don't let him hit you if he do kick em square in da nutts...you may be laughing but im serius goodluck and KEEPFAITH

Answer 10

um you should use every opportunity to defend black people and any other race that he opposes. and if he continues to smack you around you should get help. he's obviously a lot older than you and you are only 15. you can say what you want, but you just can go beating up on people when you want.