Troubled Relationship, what to do?

Question

I have been with my Fiance for 2 and half years and we both love each other. We have lived together pretty much the whole time. I have been faithful and loyal to her. I betrayed her trust by installing a key logger software on the computer and I found out that she was flirting with an ex-boyfriend on the internet as well as asking a co-worker out to lunch. She thinks that I cheated on her so for the last 4-5 months we have been trying to work through everything which has been a constant battle and I have been trying to do everything possible to show her ho much she means to me and how much I love her but nothing seems to work. It seems to me that at this point, she wants to end the relationship. I don't want this
because I love and care for her very much. Please help.

Answer 1

You nasty spy!!!! But you had a feeling something wasn't right. Good for listening to your feelings!
Wow your gf seems busy. I don't know anyone who still talks to their ex.
Whatever happened to the ex's that have nasty breakups where no one ever wants to speak or see the other again?
Did you ask her why see is even talking or emailing him? Exactly how is she flirting with him?
Does she suggest that they meet? If so, I'd suggest ending it with her.
As for asking the co-worker out to lunch what was said in that email? Does your gf work? If so, what can you do?

Why on earth does your gf think you cheated on
her?
Did you ever tell her sincerely that you never
cheated? If not, ouch!

Counselling? Thats what you 2 should be doing
right now, if your not already.

You say you've done everything possible. How
about just asking her straight out if she even
wants to be in a committed relationship?
If she answers no, I wouldn't be surprised at
all. More than likely thats exactly what her
answer is going to be. So please be prepared.

Your best step would be to ask her. You have to
let her be honest with herself & you. If she
wants to break up, just think of this as a new
beginning, an adventure for you. You get to
have alone time! Its so scary. Just writing it
I couldn't imagine it myself.

Good luck,
Nicole...

Answer 2

Nothing you try doesnt work because she doesnt want it to work. It sounds like she has grown bored with this relationship and is searching other options, like old boyfriends and guys at work, etc. If she is the reason for not getting married after 2 1/2 yrs, then this is the reason or if youre to blame then she thinks you just dont want to get married to her. Either way it sounds like you two need a vacation away from each other for awhile or just call it quits and move on. Youre in a one sided relationship by the way you explain but seriousily doubt she feels the same way towards you and you may just have to admit this as fact. She doesnt have the guts to tell you thats its over so shes trying to find a way to force you into leaving. So now you have to decide whether youre better off with or without her and whether you want to continue this game and still end up losing in the long run. Basically you two have gone seperate ways here for whatever reason and time has come for you to move on. Sorry, and good luck with whatever you decide.

Answer 3

Sorry to say this but you can't be good enough to keep her from doing foolish things. IF you keep the relationship alive, you'll be connected with a woman who flirts with exes and takes guys out to lunch. That's not a very good recommendation for a relationship. If she did that to "punish" you for cheating, that's a childish way for her to act and you are still no better off. Ask her what it will take for her to be true and stop the playing around. If you can do what she needs, do it. If you can't, you know what you need to do.

Answer 4

ok first of all i think that was a great idea ad that you did the right thing and it wasnt cheating first of all you both need to sit down and ask each other what you really want and ask her if she still wants you and if shell be happy with you youve talked but you need to keep talking that the best thing to do and to figure out what you want and whats best for both of you also point out how you feel about what you found and that you were just making sure she was loyal to you as you have been to her
i wish you luck

Answer 5

you need to work on your trust issues, if you had trust in her to begin with then you wouldnt have installed the key logger to keep track of what she does on the computer, at this point in the relationship neither of you trust each other so its best to be apart because there is no relationship without trust...

Answer 6

She should end it, you don't trust her.