My husband does not forget anything that doesn't have to do with me but anything that comes out of my mouth is obviously not important. Does this man love me?
2006-12-12 09:23:56 · 27 answers · asked by question asker 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Just because he doesnt remember things you say, doesnt mean he doesnt love you. Maybe its your communication style is different from his. Most men like to get to the point right away. If my wife needs me to get something from the store that night, I dont want to hear about the last time she was there, the coupon she used, and the annoying cashier that took too long.
If she goes into all of that, I will have checked out of the conversation and wont remember to pick up the bread. It does not mean I dont love her or that Im not interested in her. It means that I could care less about the cashier at the store or the coupon. Its the same reason my wife doesnt remember what I told her about the flashing light on the dash of her car. She isnt interested in cars, so she doesnt understand them. It bores her and she doesnt pay attention when I talk about cars. But i know she still loves me
2006-12-12 09:30:15 · answer #1 · answered by davi1033 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to get his attention; give him information when he's relaxed and isn't doing other things. I know when I've got things on my mind and someone tells me something, unless it's a real interesting subject, I can forget. I don't believe that this is any indication that your husband doesn't love you. If you have doubts, try talking to him about how you feel; if that doesn't work you may need a counselor. Please take care of this issue because it will only make you insecure in your relationship, which is not a good thing. You need to find a way to share your feelings with each other in a comfortable way. Try making a "date" with him. Pick a certain time when the two of you can give each other your undivided attention and work on your communication. Good luck!
2006-12-12 17:33:45 · answer #2 · answered by Kyra 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem with my fiancee, in my case I am the one that does not listen. She rants too much and compains about everything. She hates everything that is young and pretty so after a few years i just stop listening entirely. I mean, I love her to death but sometimes i wish she was mute. And every now and then she does actually say something useful or tells me to get something done but since I am used to not care of what she says, my memory blocks it all out
2006-12-12 17:29:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The ability of a husband to listen to his wife and remember everything she tells him has no bearing on his love for her.
We just have a limited attention span and if what is being said doesn't fall into something we are currently thinking about of even can relate to we are not liable to remember it.
Of course only he can tell you for sure if he loves you. But just the fact he does not hear does not mean he does not love.
2006-12-12 17:32:15 · answer #4 · answered by John B 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He may love you, but he's taking you for granted. I've went thru this with my husband. I can say something & 2 seconds later he has no idea what I just said. BUT I know he loves me. Men just sometimes get to where they aren't focused as much as they should be. Talk to him about it if it bothers you this much. Tell him that it hurts when he doesn't listen to you & ask him to try to do better.
2006-12-12 17:27:05 · answer #5 · answered by Jaysangl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably loves you, some men are just idiots like that. My husband has told me on many occasions, if he didn't ask me something, he probably ain't listening. The best time to talk to him is when you all are hanging out together just enjoying yourselves. Just you and him because it's then about you and him.
2006-12-12 17:26:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have the same problem with my bf of 10 years...It doesn't matter how many times I tell him something, like we have to go to your parents next saturday, saturday will roll around & he will have NO idea about it...I've also noticed the same thing with my mom & dad...I think ALL men are like this!! I'm sure he loves you, but maybe you should tell him that it hurts your feelings & makes you feel insecure about the relationship when he never remembers things that are important to you.
Good Luck...
2006-12-12 17:26:58 · answer #7 · answered by Sugar Magnolia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He in most cases does, but you might have to talk to him in a different manner. Get someone to talk to the two of you and help get some understanding on why he is not listening to you.
It does not make him right though.
2006-12-12 17:30:17 · answer #8 · answered by stbill 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem, my husband forgets everything so that is why as a wife I have to be is schedule coordinator
2006-12-12 17:29:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has selective hearing!! Just like some kids I know- love probably- attentive no-D
2006-12-12 17:26:30 · answer #10 · answered by Debby B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋