We've been married for about 6 months.
2006-12-12 09:19:11 · 29 answers · asked by Michelle 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
I married at 18 and then we had our first baby at 19, and now we have 2 boys and are trying for another. I wouldn't change it for the world! You have to ask yourself if you are ready for it. I know that you will never be 100% ready, but just follow your heart. Things like will you have room [we are having to upgrade our car for something bigger to fit everyone in] Are you mentally, physically, emotionally and most important financially stable [And will the new baby get all this too?] Having children is a huge sacrifice, are you ready to make that sacrifice? I hope this helps and best of luck to you!
2006-12-12 09:26:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I have wanted a baby ever since I myself was one. I know how your heart tugs at you when you see a baby out somewhere or when you daydream about holding your own child. Let me also tell you that I have been married for 5 years to the most wonderful man and we have not yet had our first child. I would not trade one day of these last five years of being with him and really establishing our relationship. I know that when we do have our first child that the foundation will be strong and we will be better parents because we have learned so much about each other and we can work well as a team. I'm not saying that 5 years is the "magic number" but it worked beautifully for us. Being married is quite an adjustment and learning to "become one" with someone else can be difficult and even painful at times. Having a child so soon will likely take the focus off of forming your marital relationship and put the focus on the child. This may cause problems for you in the future because you haven't had the time to establish the roots of your relationship. Your age isn't really the point it's the youth of your marriage that is the concern. Try to allow yourselves some time to grow together before growing your family.
2006-12-12 11:07:06 · answer #2 · answered by tallgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. WAY TOO SOON! I am almost 30 and have been married for over a year and I cannot wait for a baby, but you have to make sure that you live your life first....you change SO much in your 20's!!! There is a difference in being pregnant and raising a child. ENJOY your spouse right now.
2006-12-12 10:53:56 · answer #3 · answered by sk 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that is too soon, cause i'm in the same position here, well almost 19, married for 1 1/2 years.
But you have to be really sure, your life will change quite a bit, and you both have to be ready to give up half your life for it. That's the fun part! Good Luck convincing your husband!
2006-12-12 09:45:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes. my husband and i got married when we were 20. i found out 6 months later that i was pregnant. i had always wanted kids so i was excited. but it caused a huge strain on our relationship. we didn't get to spend enough time as a "married couple" before all the sudden we were a family. we got lucky that my mom is a great grandma and took the baby overnight like once a month so we could "date" and it saved our marriage. i would wait till you have been married atleast a year and both agree you are ready.
2006-12-12 09:59:36 · answer #5 · answered by ravinskye 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to ask if it is too soon. It probably is. There is no right or wrong time, but I suggest that you make a list of things that you want to do or accomplish before having a baby. The only reason why I suggest this is because once you have a baby it is no longer about you, its just about providing for your baby. I am 28 and have many friends that have children. Though I am jealous and would love to have a baby, my friends are jealous of my freedom. It would be good to take to a planned parenthood counciler to help you understand the true responsibility having a baby entails. If you do understand these responsibilities and feel you can provide a good childhood for a baby. Go for it.
Good luck!
2006-12-12 09:26:33 · answer #6 · answered by Shmesh 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wait till you have lived a little bit of life with your husband just you and him alone and I would wait till you are at least 23 or 24 so you can at least enjoy your 20's a little cause I believe the 20's are the best time of your life. I am in my early 30's and now starting to think about having a child with my husband of 6 years. But do what you feel is right.
2006-12-12 09:24:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
The most important person to ask this question to is your spouse.I would enjoy each other for at least a year or so and save some money as raising a baby is expensive.Many young married couples have problems if they have a baby too soon into their marriage.What ever you kids decide the best of luck to you.
2006-12-12 09:27:49 · answer #8 · answered by sasyone 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My grandmother told me when I got married to wait at least one year after being married before getting pregnant. Marriage changes the relationship that you once had and it takes some time to adjust to those changes.
After adjusting and building a firm foundation, you'll be able to cope better with the ENORMOUS changes that having children brings to the relationship. The more you can work on your relationship before having children, the stronger your relationship will be and the more likely it will be to survive.
You're 19 and you have plenty of time to have children. Give your marriage the time it deserves while you still can.
But, this is just my opinion. Live your life the way that you want.
Best of luck.
2006-12-12 09:23:16 · answer #9 · answered by hill_amandalynn 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
No, is not to soon if your married and you both want a baby why not just make sure you have what it takes to be parents and to raise that child good and always be there for him/her.
Do what is best for both of you never regret anything or any choice you make in life it is to short to regret anything live life to the fullest!!!
Best Wishes and Good Luck in your decision.
2006-12-12 09:39:46 · answer #10 · answered by Help? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋