When is the right time to move out?
I'm living with my parents. I'm the last of my siblings in the house, i have the run of the place. in order to move out i'll need a part time job for financial stability. the parents don't want me to go. my friends say the part time job would be a bad deal. my full time employer doesn't think i should need a part time job. but if i'm not moving towards independence and goals, what am i working towards?
My other options: don’t take the security job. Don’t ask the girl out. Stay at my parents house; keep them happy. Work the full time job, work the uscg reserves. Put some energy towards a masters. Wait on some raises. Wait on a gal. Wait on moving out. Patience is the route that I’ll be looking at. Patience sucks.
2006-12-12 09:14:52 · 12 answers · asked by steveo 1 in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment
If you can not afford to move out, do not rush it. Enjoy your stay with your parents, love them.
2006-12-12 09:21:20 · answer #1 · answered by tobak 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know, after moving out of your parents house there will not no other kind of freedom. Unfortunatly with freedom comes a lot more responsibility. Paying your own bills, going to school, working, not haven't much of a social life because of the last three things I mentioned etc etc. Looking back now, I wish I would have stayed at home a bit longer to get more financially and educationally stable. If your parents are willing to support you while you work on some goals, I say stay. Good luck!
2006-12-12 17:19:21 · answer #2 · answered by Bobbie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, Patience sucks but its helpful because you don't want to rush into anything that you can't get out or your parent might have to.
That's what happen to me. I was trying so quickly to gets out I took the first place that would take me and then the rent went up after the management change and then i had to move back home for money-wise.
I have gone out then HAD to come back for some reason or other and every time I came back I was feeling smaller and smaller of a person who couldn't be a Big successful independent adult.
I'm still waiting... lol.. ;-)
You should do your homework and cover anything that MIGHT goes wrong so that you don't have to feel like you have fail in front of your parent and your sibling for which you can talk to them ask the same question gets some of their experience of LIFE.
And good luck. :-)
2006-12-12 17:26:33 · answer #3 · answered by bottom dollar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your lucky most parents kick their kids out of the house.
If you have good full time job aren't you saving your money or you giving all the check to your folks? maybe that is why they don't want you to move?
It's okay to give them some money but tell them you need to save X amount of dollars in 2007.. also start up a 401K, retirement account so you have something for later in your life.
Save up enough for a first and last months rent, and enough to pay your bills for at least 6 months. Then don't find a fancy place get a nice one bedroom, modest, in a decent neighborhood so your not ripped off when you walk out the door.
It's okay to ask the girl out but only for a movie and lunch. Your not ready for dinners yet.
Patience is a virtue and in the long run of if you do it right you wont' be running back to your folks in 2008!
2006-12-12 17:22:42 · answer #4 · answered by Tapestry6 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have a lot going on your mind, and before you make any step forward, you should think whats the most important thing you want to do first, if you want to do em all at once you are going to waste time and end up by not doing any, whats ur priority right now?? what do u need to have to be able to make it on ur own?? maybe a car?? (god forbidds u end up on the street u can still use ur car to sleep in it), a good salary and a stable job, u need a calculator for you to sit down and calculate all the expenses and see if u'll be able to make it?? thats exactly what i did and i am moving january 1st, but guess what i wanted to move out looooooooooooooooong time ago :), but i'm happy that i didn't then because i would've end up on the street since i didn't have what it takes to do it on my own, expect the unexpected. and good luck, and please don't seek any advices, no one knows u better than U. =)
2006-12-12 17:25:37 · answer #5 · answered by ssoussa22 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, there appears to be alot of unresolved issues in that paragraph. I will just answer your question about whether you should continue to live at home. I lived at home for too long. But in today's economy, it is getting harder and harder to get out of the parents house. The American dream has all but slipped away here in Florida. Rents are super super high and the average cost of a home in this area is $269,000. Thanks alot, speculators! And the wages here are quite low. So living at home (at least if you live in Florida anyways) for a while may not be the most exciting option, but it may be necessary.
2006-12-12 17:20:00 · answer #6 · answered by cannonball 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are questioning is their quilt on your part for staying.
Sound like you want to try it on your own....do it!
Your parents would always tell you to come back if you can't make it.
Just don't get some one pregnant or sign a long term lease cause this is exactly what you THINK you want.
2006-12-12 17:25:40 · answer #7 · answered by gofer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Our culture pushes young people to move out too young. It is to both your advantage and your parents for you to live there longer, unless they are interfering in your lifestyle or you argue with them a lot.
2006-12-12 17:20:00 · answer #8 · answered by Skepticalist 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the right time to move out is when you can feel that you can take the big world out on by yourself and pay your rent or whatever you live in.
2006-12-12 17:22:33 · answer #9 · answered by daniela j 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes you sound like a wimp. study to be an accountant. work eat crap and die. Dont forget to find a lame woman so she can leave you when she gets bored to death.
2006-12-12 17:17:39 · answer #10 · answered by b-overit 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋