Yup...here I am without an aim in life, I simply live....and...well....live. I mean live...just going to school, back home, homeworks, internet, sleep....quite monotone. Sometimes I make it more spicey with acool book...but still...I have no idea what am I doing here....breathing and stealing your air. and I don't really like to think ogf my future because I know for sure that I'll be a homeless jobless dirty stinky beggar who will be drunk always, alcoholist->depressive->suicide->end
So what do you think....what should I do?
only as details: no brothers/sisters, no bf/gf, no friends at all, no pets (but I was thinking to buy a guineea pig), no religion, no feelings (ok...a bit way too atheistic...I think I'll have to change this first).
Any suggestions?
2006-12-12 09:07:03 · 11 answers · asked by whateverlala 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I'm not really too worried about you...
because
1) You're intelligent. You write great questions.
2) You have a good sense of humor. I love the guinea pig.
3) You have the ability to reflect on your life from a certain distance
and most of all:
4) You are already searching for your purpose.
This all leads me to conclude that you will find something bigger than most people do, and will end up leading a more purposeful life than most other people.
You're not getting mislead by a religion. You are already on your own path. I mean wow!
Wow, what a gift you are! Enjoy your life. Depression can be a good start. I know from experience. LOL.
All the best to you and your guinea pig! And to all the other people and beautiful things that will fill your life as time goes by - you'll just have to be selective in order not to get your home too crowded...
2006-12-12 09:27:59 · answer #1 · answered by charmme 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't go off the deep end. There are many happy atheists, agnostics and spiritual people in many genre's, so while enlightenment may very well be what you need, it's not the be-al & end-all, dispite what some people are going to suggest.
Psycology on the other hand might be a good place to start. I once had a shrink who's favorite question was "why are you choosing to feel this way?" so, Why ARE you choosing to feel this way. People are going to answer that you sound depressed--indeed you could be--check it out with a professional--and while you're at it, get physically checked out. Strive to be happy, surely there are things that spark a bit of interest for you. When you find one, pursue it. Look up that unknown word, smile at that stranger passing by, read books of different topics. Get some sun light on your face & fresh air in your lungs. Life can be lots of fun, or a big drag--it IS what we make of it.
2006-12-12 09:32:45 · answer #2 · answered by Clycs 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not that unusual to have no life aims at this age. I'm 19 and I don't either. I do almost the exact things you do (minus school) and it get's boring and depressing But there's several things I think of:
1. most people never act like they did when they were young when they're older. 2. I haven't found anything I want to do but I expect something. 3. Keep in mind that you can do anything, not the way you're thinking but there's always the opporutnity to do something different. Until you find your niche, do something different. Like now, I bet you're sad and bored. Not even thinking about doing a cartwheel. Try it, trust me, you'll feel better. Just keep in mind that you can do anything at any time.
2006-12-12 09:22:04 · answer #3 · answered by David H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a hobby that involves leaving your house. Even if you don't like that hobby, fake it till you make it or fake it till something else catches your attention that you like more. Examples would be running, flying kites, basketball, take a class like dance or pottery, look for groups in your area that juggle, bird watch, book clubs. Try going to different churches even if at first it's for social purposes. Don't just go to the local church, find a Buddhist temple or zen center, a Unitarian church, or find a church where there are a lot of people around your age group. If you need more ideas, message me and I'll make an even longer list. Get out, meet people. You may never figure out who you are but maybe it will be fun trying (its the journey, right?). Try things that seem silly or out of your character, you may like them.
2006-12-12 09:27:04 · answer #4 · answered by Mirlane 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look man, just do not despair. Go get yourself a hobby or start playing tennis. Join a club, when you have the money and you will make friends. What goes goes up must come down, but there is nothing stopping you going back up. I have done it a few times, it is hard, but it is worth it. Get an aim..like some job..go for it, then make another etc...don't give up!
Good luck..and Merry Xmas!
cheers
2006-12-12 09:20:26 · answer #5 · answered by Gary H 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Passion is the key, it will be in an art form (which is expression of emotion) paint, act, music etc....or helping the planet evolve into a more joyful, compassionate place, (protecting the environment, helping children) etc....find your passion it is in there, we all have it and it is unique to everyone, find yours,,,,,,,,trust me.....when you do you will be someone that people love,,,,,also be a pure person,,,,,no lies or stealing etc......
2006-12-12 09:17:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop feeling sorry for yourself life is what you make of it. first of all get some respect for yourself, start thinking better of yourself, and go out and meet new people. find a part time job, help people who needs help. you can't expect others to like you if you don't like yourself so thats what you need to work on first is you. good luck.
2006-12-12 09:17:26 · answer #7 · answered by misty blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every area has a community mental health clinic, give them a call.
2006-12-12 09:20:19 · answer #8 · answered by Clown Knows 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound serious!
If you want to have a dialog about your situation, I would suggest you email me at: parklikenbeth@yahoo.com (unless you don't want a Christian's perspective).
Kidd
2006-12-13 15:21:42 · answer #9 · answered by Kidd! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give glory to God! That's what we were all made for.
Get the guinea pig. He'll keep you company.
2006-12-12 10:10:48 · answer #10 · answered by mtngrl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋