Hes 15yo and hes been acting diffrent. Lately hes been eating less, he crys alot for teenage boy, hes starting to wear black eye liner. I dont thinks hes gay but he has this friend tht comes over and i think something might b goin on between them(i dont care if hes gay i'll love him no matter what) but he talks about suicide alot and hes grades have been slipping and i do care about tht. Me and his mom searched his room the other day and found nothing bad/illegal. but i still have my doubts and worries about him. Is this normal or is something serious going on?
2006-12-12 08:52:37 · 27 answers · asked by James 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
i dont think u should worry bout it. to mde it just sounds like hes gothic/emo
2006-12-12 09:37:21 · answer #1 · answered by Christine B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay, the eyeliner thing ... that's called 'emo'. Ask him if that's what he's gotten into. Not being accusatory ... there's nothing bad about it.
To the person who said it could also be 'punk' or 'goth', maybe if this was 1986. Punks and goths do not generally wear eyeliner anymore.
Being emo has nothing to do with being gay. You should ask straight out about that, too.
He should see a therapist about the suicide thing. Honestly, if he kills himself, will you care then whether he had an A or a D in Chemistry? Deal with the suicidal talk for now. Ignore the grades and the eyeliner. They are the least of your worries.
Oh, and he knows you searched his room. Trust me. He's not stupid. I doubt he will talk to you about either the suicide or the gayness now, since you violated his privacy and trust. Call a therapist.
Also, some people who claim to be emo also talk about suicide a lot, but they are generally just trying to fit in with a group. Those who are truly part of that subculture aren't any more sad or suicidal than anyone else. That's just a stereotype. If that's the case, then the therapist who talks to him will let you know that he's not really suicidal.
2006-12-12 17:52:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hi. I'm a 15yo girl and I went/ and still am going through the same thing I think your son is. You need to take him to see a psychologist or some type of therapist. He may be hanging out with the wrong type of people. If he's gay I hope that it won't matter to you or your husband b/c if he is and he were to find out that either of his parents didn't accept it he may do something stupid. But please take him to a psychologist. It is helping me, it should help him. :) I hope this helps.
~Melissa
p.s. about the suicide thing, if anything were going on, say if he were cutting himself, you probably wouldn't know it because kids who do that kind of stuff like i did, know how to hide stuff.
2006-12-12 18:45:28 · answer #3 · answered by himnbamluvr 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is time to find a counselor. Any time a kid says anything about suicide it is time for professional help. The make up thing is pretty normal, it is called Goth. Maybe he is gay and has not accepted it himself. He may need some help to come to grips with all of this. 15 is young, and if he has feelings for another guy he is not really old enough to handle this all by himself.
2006-12-12 17:36:03 · answer #4 · answered by Jinny E 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps he is trans, although I think signs would ahve come up from the very begining. Perhaps he is depressed, although the eyeliner does not fit in with that.
Maybe tell him you love him no matter what, and ask him whats wrong if you sit down with him, and thatyou are worried about him.
Or you could try calling the school/asking his old friends/asking his new friend who comes over
There isn't a definition of normal, but I think something is going on, and there is no harm in trying
2006-12-12 16:58:35 · answer #5 · answered by Ashley 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well talk to him and ask him questions and when he answers them try and understand everything he says if you don't understand what he is saying than ask him what he means and comfort him tell his teachers and pricinple what is going on and ask them to help figure out what is going on and comfort him but it may be his teachers that are making him act like this. He may have done something that you don't want him to do and is afriad to tell you so the first question you should ask him is, " Is there anything that you did that you know your mom and I wouldn't like? if you did please tell us so we will understand why you are so sad, we will understand but you may get punished a little but not much. If that is not the problem please tell us what is making you so sad because we want you to be happy and we love you." I am sure that will make him tell you. But if he did do something bad than don't get mad and start yelling, but chuckle a little bit and say, "Now you see it is that easy just to tell us." but he should still get a little bit punished like grounded for a day or two. If it is something else chuckle and say the same thing but figure out a way to help him with it.
2006-12-13 12:55:13 · answer #6 · answered by Autumn B. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mmmm, something is happening at both school and in his head as well. He probably needs a vacation from school, or needs to go to a new school entirely - even private school or home schooling may be better.
He may be being bullied in school and unable to talk about it. He may be being bullied because he is gay and he doesnt want anyone else to find out.
It's time to talk to him. Go away for a weekend somewhere. Ask him if he wants to bring a friend or not. Enjoy yourselves. While away from home, and in a hotel room, tell him you want to help him with anything thats bothering him and that you will do anything for him, even if it means moving to someplace new.
2006-12-12 16:59:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's being "emo." Most people would tell you to talk to him but he's not going to tell you anything if you try, and sending him to a shrink will piss him off, although it may be a good idea. The best thing you could do would be to try and get him involved in some kind of activity or help find him some new friends. Watch him and make sure he doesn't cut himself or do anything like that.
2006-12-12 18:54:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe hes being bullied at school, which explains his grades slipping, his depression with suicide, eye-liner, goth/punk attitude, either way, i'll bet all my money hes suffering some sort of depression at school.
2006-12-12 22:18:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am 14 and i had a phase like that, but i had a good reason for it. he might be gay. its definetely possible. cause i didnt wear any eyeliner or anything. but my grades did slip alot and i cried often. he might be gay, let events unfold. take him on a vacation or something. since u posted this twice, i'll answer the other one too.
2006-12-12 18:22:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like hes actin emo. the only bad things are suicide, eating, and grades, i would disregard the rest.for many people this is a phase but sum stick. just support him. see if anyhting at home is bothering him and fix that but if its school theres really nuthin u can do
2006-12-12 17:00:31 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋