2006-12-12 08:50:17 · 39 answers · asked by rowebaby 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It is not normal, but it is not uncommon. Some of us have been raised to think that sex is wrong, dirty, bad, etc. It is hard to let go of those feelings when we marry.
You need to convince yourself that it is OK to have sex now. He is your husband and you should actually enjoy having sex with him. You may want to talk to a counselor before things get too bad.
2006-12-12 08:53:56 · answer #1 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No this is not normal at all. You have a very bad body image and that is a bad thing for marriage.
Your husband loves every inch of you but because you think there is something gross about it you are cheating him out of one of the most intimate times you should be sharing. i would think as a result you never enjoy sex and it is only a pain for you. What a shame.
You should seek help with this. Something in your past has made you feel this way and it is not something you can talk yourself out of. And no matter how much your husband tells you he loves you you will not change that image.
You need to find out what caused this. Only then may you have some peace from it. If not for yourself please do it for your husband.
A woman's body is truly one of the most wonderful gifts a man can have. But only if you know it is and are willing to share all of it with him.
2006-12-12 09:52:09 · answer #2 · answered by John B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Were you a virgin when you married him?
HAd someone forced you to have sex.
Sex takes place more in the brain than in the body.
Feel free to read many of my answers and realize I have a very conservative point of view. REalize that sometimes the more conservative ideas are most helpful because they often help you focus.
Feel free to email me seperately. If you use the inhouse system here it is harder becasue thye limit the number of cahratcters in response and I have lots of informatio abotu this and related topis form years of doing this. ( answering questions)
I can help you if you are really looking for help and not just being a prankster.
email em and go into much more detail. How long married? pre marital sexual activities if any? Why you htink you might be getting disgusted withthe idea of having sex with your husband.
Whatis ytour coultural background, religion, how many siblings do you have? HOw is your relationship with parents and others
what is your social life like?
YOu can be honest because I do not know you and never will. Yet sometime it helps to harte ones soul.
Just for your satifaction I am a virgin I am over 30 and I intend to remain a virgin until I find the perosn who God created to be my wife. It may be that I am a eunuch ( some one God never intended to see married. IF that is so then I will be happy serving other human biengs during this life and beleive that GOd has a way to show appreciation to me for doing that in Heaven.
To straightel this out ( you rdimlema) is goign to take figuring out why and then knowing how to fix it.
If you want my assistance please feel free to eamil me answwwerman@yahoo.com I will try to help. God Bless.
2006-12-12 09:43:42 · answer #3 · answered by Answer M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No this is not normal. Seek professional help. Sex is normal and natural, and something you should NOT feel guilty over. Even the most devout moralist would agree this isn't the way you should feel.
Kinky stuff aside, if your having regular vaginal to penile sex it should be a happy occasion and an expression of your love for/with your husband.
2006-12-12 09:40:11 · answer #4 · answered by Poppet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sure you know why you stop your husband from making love to you, but maybe you don't understand why you feel that way. Some one has hurt you and you need to talk to a professional about what happen to you in the past. And when you ready, talk to your husband, don't leave him in the dark about how you feel. He loves you, and is worried about you. If he didn't he would have left ed already. Love him back as much as you can, it doesn't always have to be about the sex in a relationship.
2006-12-12 08:59:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No definately not. Seek professional help to deal with the root cause of those feelings. You need to learn that sex is a normal healthy activity and not something to get a weak stomach over. Eventually those feelings will drive a wedge between you and your husband if you don't overcome them.
2006-12-12 08:57:01 · answer #6 · answered by aiguyaiguy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No that is not normal. Your husband is the one you should be having sex with. You might need to get some counseling because somewhere down the line you were told that it was dirty and not right. When really this is the way God intended it to be with your husband only. You might need to talk to your husband about your feelings and suggest that he take it nice and slow. Good luck.
2006-12-12 08:54:02 · answer #7 · answered by kitcat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wouldn't say normal, but since you are married there is no going back. you need to sit down with your husband and explain your problem. If you all can not come to a common ground then maybe you should step out side of you boundaries and see a s*e*x* therapist. Get someone you feel comfortable with. They will help you and your husband 's bedroom relationship blossom.
I wish you the Best of Luck
2006-12-12 08:59:42 · answer #8 · answered by sadiebabe81 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it isn't normal. Were you raised in a home which portrayed sex as dirty? Have you been raped or molested in your lifetime? Is it possible the way your husband approaches sex that makes you feel this way? Ask yourself these questions and consider some counseling for yourself. Sorry to hear your having this problem.
2006-12-12 08:54:22 · answer #9 · answered by kandekizzez 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not normal at all. You should not feel guilty or gross while having sex. Maybe you should see a therapist.
2006-12-12 08:52:59 · answer #10 · answered by Lotus 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋