2006-12-12 08:49:38 · 62 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I didn't know he was married until yesterday!! For all you people calling me a whore and a loser F**K YA!!
2006-12-12 09:21:55 · update #1
We were together for 2 years and when i told him about how i felt, He didn't call me for a whole week. He just admitted to me that he has been married for 2 years.. what should i do?
2006-12-12 09:36:43 · update #2
find out if you are pregnant for sure before you tell the guy - and yes if you are you should tell him.
2006-12-12 08:51:01 · answer #1 · answered by Caitlin 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Well more than likely you'll be raising the baby alone. In answer to your question I would think the natural only honest answer would be stop having sex with married men. You are just as guilty as him. I can't believe how so many people can break the vows of marriage. Now that you're pregnant his marriage will be destroyed if you ask for child support which you have every right to. I feel for you and his wife and esp that little baby. Does he have other kids? Did you know he was married? This is so wrong. You should have used some self control at the very least used protection! Lets be honest here, you're in this situation and it's your fault too along with him. His wife is going to be hurt, if they have kids those poor kids will be very hurt. And your child will be raised without a father. Bravo!
2006-12-12 09:01:27 · answer #2 · answered by musicpanther67 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you need to find out for sure if you're pregnant or not. If you aren't, then you don't have to worry about informing him and possibly breaking up a marriage. If you are, you have a few options, and they hinge on your personal feelings toward abortion/adoption.
You could-
1) terminate and not tell the husband.
2)tell the husband and make the decision to terminate as a team
3) tell the husband and decide to keep the baby, opening up a HUGE can of worms
4) not tell the husband, and give the child to the state.
5) not tell the husband and raise the child alone
If you end up not being pregnant, it might be prudent to re-evaluate your current birth control measures so that this doesn't happen in the future
2006-12-12 09:00:12 · answer #3 · answered by steve d 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell him . . . let's be honest it's his right to know and whatever he decides you should kinda go with it.
if you knew he was married before you doodled around then you are both in the wrong and you have no right to ruin his marriage over a stupid mistake you both knowingly made (even if you were wasted or stoned).
if you didn't know then tell him and tell him you'll set up a child support sytem, NOT A BLACKMAIL THING!!, so that he can be in his marriage and you can have your baby and it won't be quite so hard.
you have one more choice and i'm pretty sure you know what it is.
i don't know if you are pro choice or pro life but i'd imagine this is the type of thing that changes people into one or the other.
those are your choices but remember that worse comes to worse and he tries to force you into an abortion type thing. if you start to get the feeling that it's a bad idea then stop right there and turn back, you can raise a child on your own but it will be very tough
i grew up in a single parent situation and i remember some of the hard times and they divorced when i was nine and didn't require diapers or 24/7 supervision
make your choice and be prepared for the consequences
next time someone doesn't pull out go to the pharmacy and get the morning after pill.
2006-12-12 08:57:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Nobody is perfect in this world we all make our mistakes and hopefully learn from it. First off did you know he was married or you find out after the fact? If so you have a lot of thinking to do and especially about the pregnancy,I don't believe in abortions but you know everything happen for a reason. Maker sure you are really pregnant and then tell him,but whatever the out come is just be strong and keep the faith.And you guys need to stop judging this young lady because none of you are GOD so stop it!!
2006-12-12 09:02:19 · answer #5 · answered by Vilady5 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A Mom's point of view...and someone who dated a married guy
First, find out if your pregnant.
If you are you have to weigh the following decisions.
1. Keep the baby
2. Give the baby up for adoption --best bet if you are a teen or young single adult
3. Abortion
I am going to tell it to you straight ..In 99 % of the cases
This guy will not leave is wife nor will he be there for you.
You will be a struggling single parent -- a lifetime commitment.
If you are pregnant and decide to keep this baby enlist the help of your family and organizations devoted to single mom's.
Make sure you stay in school and get your education.
File for child support when baby is born.
See if the law will make him pay for your hospital and prenatal care as well.
ADOPTION would be the best alternative for both you and your baby. NO ONE will think less of you. It is a courageous act of love.
If you turn out not to be pregnant Please see your OB-GYN for birthcontrol and find yourself a nice single guy -- there out there.
Good Luck Hon
2006-12-12 09:05:15 · answer #6 · answered by That_ blue_ eyed_ Irish_ lass 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all you shouldn't be sleeping with married men. They made commitments before G-d and their families. Besides for that there will always be complications and in general men don't leave their wives for women they have affairs with. They just use the other women and go back to their wives. I don't know how you're going to sort this out. I wish you the best of luck and hope you learned an important lesson.
2006-12-12 09:00:39 · answer #7 · answered by Miriam Z 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a test ASAP... there really is no reason to delay. Have you missed your period? If so, take a test (or even two) just to see if you are pregnant. If you are, it is time to think about all of your options. And you must also tell the man that you have slept with.
You don't need a lecture right now, I know. But there are plenty of men in this world that are NOT married... don't have sex with a married man!!! That's truly disgusting and cruel. You knew he was married and slept with him anyway... that's just horrible. And don't have unprotected sex with any man unless you are looking to have a child.
Best of luck to you.
2006-12-12 08:52:13 · answer #8 · answered by PT&L 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Wow the crowd is pretty rough on you First and foremost find out if you are if not then you have dodged a bullet learn from it. If so you have a lot of hard decisions to make. 1 Do you want to keep the child 2 can you afford to keep the child 3 if you keep the child your going to need child support and there goes his marriage 4 he has to be told. I can offer support and not criticize but you have a lot of thinking and soul searching to do.
2006-12-12 08:59:28 · answer #9 · answered by bigdandsoni 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, bet your loving the insults from these people who act like they never made a mistake when they were young before. Don't listen to them, your going to regret the decision you made without hearing it from everyone else. I would defintly prepare myself for the worse if I was pregnant from a married man. Men can be so inconsiderate and careless during one of the biggest changes of your life. They just have no clue what it's like for a woman. You defintly need to take care of yourself now, certainly if you are pregnant. You will need to watch your actions more too, what normally would effect just you, would now effect you And your baby.
2006-12-12 09:26:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, don't just to any conclusions without knowing for sure. Take a pregnancy test to find out. If you are, you need to inform him so that you both can share responsibility. His actions and yours will affect his family and wife, but he deserves to know if you are pregnant. It might be wise to avoid this type of situation again, I wouldn't go back to seeing him if you find out that you're okay. He's married, meaning he's off limits. If he wants to go behind his wife's back, make sure it's with someone else and stay away from him.
2006-12-12 08:53:44 · answer #11 · answered by kath_08012 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋