are your kids close in age??? any positives about it???

Question

my son is 3 months old and i have a feeling i may be pregnant again. i mean....all those years of birth control and not even a single scare and then i marry my husband it's like WHAM! pregnant with #1 and now maybe #2!!!
i've even been taking my pills more religiously than ever before. EVERYDAY at 7 am!!!

anywhoooo...
if i am, then what kinds of good things are there about having 2 kids close together??

all i can think of is lots of diapers and lots of bottles, 2 cribs, highchairs etc....

yikes!

so gimme some positives please!!
thanks!

Answer 1

well me and my two sisters are all 1 year apart (about) and there are alot of positives. They can share clothes. They will probably go to the same school so if one is sick the other can bring in his/her stuff and collect their homework. They will be learning the same stuff or one would have already learned that stuff so they can help each other. they can talk to each other about boys/girls. get the other one to talk to the boy/girl they like. they might have the same friends. there are a lottt of positives and a lot of negatives but dont worry it will work out. good luck.

Answer 2

My first 2 are 22 months apart. The second and third are 2 1/2 years apart. I love the spacing. I think it worked great in my case because my kids are girl, boy, girl (so less rivalry between the sexes). Yes, it was a bit hectic at the time. But pregnancy while potty training a toddler works out very nicely. And the older child (ren) always loved to help with grabbing wipes or diapers from the other room. Close together also means that I got years of use from our double stroller. And that saving clothes to pass down didn't take up my entire storage room. They all interacted very well and still do. At 8 1/2 , 7, and 4 1/2 they all still play well together. They are all 2 grades apart, which helps with school extra costs (think proms and class rings). I know several people that have had 3-4 kids with 2 year spacing and also loved it. Its hectic for a few years, but its nice as they get bigger. I love how close my kids are to each other.

Answer 3

My kids are one year and two weeks apart and while it is hard, I really wouldn't have it any other way. My son just turned two and next week my daughter will be one. I think back to a year ago, and all the tears I cried because all I could think of was how I was taking away from my sons "baby time", and all the money we were going to have to spend. But now looking back, I couldn't imagine life without Phynix,!

Yes, there are double the diapers, double the clothes, double the crying, and they already fight. But, they also play together, they look for each other when the wake up in the morning, they kiss each other Bye, Bye, they just look at each other and I know they know they belong together! I would not trade my kids for anything and I have heard from others that as they get older it only gets better. So, don't stress. and if you are pregnant...get ready for all kinds of looks and all kinds of comments. But, this is what I had to say to everyone that looked down on me..."There are thousands and thousands of people out there that would give anything to have just ONE baby. And look at me...I am being blessed with two in one year, how awesome is that?"

Good luck! and remember if you are pregnant it was meant to be and you will adjust and do a great job at it!

Answer 4

Playmates! When my daughter was 8 months old I got pregnant with my second. She just turned 3 in October and my son will be 2 in February and they are the best of friends and very good playmates. I think my 3 year old would probably quite lonely with no one in the house her age to talk to and play with all the time. The younger one will learn a LOT from the older one. My almost 2 year old has been speaking in complete sentences for a few months now because my 3 year old motor mouth never stops talking and he learns from her :). Now I'm 6 months pregnant with the third and last baby. Yes I'll have 3 kids 3 years and under, but I'll get all the baby making raising out of the way within a 5 year span. It works well for our family. Good luck!!

Answer 5

My kids were 18 months apart. At first I was unhappy because I felt like I was being robbed of my first child's babyhood. But it really worked out well, I have a boy and a girl. At first the diaper thing was a little much because you have to buy two different sizes, but that didn't last long, and my daughter went to a youth bed so we didn't have two cribs. I never had the bottle problem because I nursed both my kids for a year and then they went right to sippy cups and regular milk. They became very close as children and were good to each other, they didn't fight like I did with my brother. We got through the diaper bags and car seats and potty training, and then it seemed like they went through everything together, learning to ride a bike, going to school they were a year apart, learning to drive, etc. It ended up being a great experience. Don't worry, things always have a way of working out.

Answer 6

I'm not a parent but me and my two siblings are close in age. My brother is the second child and my sister is the last one. When we were little my mom said it was kinda hard taking care of three small ones, but it is worth it. I think we get along more better because there isn't such an age gap so we like most of the same things. It's easier on my mom because i can help my younger siblings with things that i had just gotten done with. I think when they are a few months old it might be kinda hard, but it gets past those rough times and it's benefits will come.

Answer 7

I had 5 by the time I was 22, I started when I was 16,do the math. Maybe I was lucky and lived in a very nurturing neighborhood but it wasn't too bad. I also had a wonderful mother-in-law that helped me out a great deal. For me it was kind of like having my own preschool. We did a lot of things together, crafts, swimming, hiking, scouts and the kids also went to a preschool that I helped to organize...it was hard work but we had a lot of fun. We didn't have a great deal of financial resources so we had to be creative but it always worked out. now I'm glad because my kids are grown up and doing with their kids the same things I did with them. And would you believe, they are not materialistic...no designer labels in this family even though we can easily afford it now. By the way if you don't want anymore kids , it's time to consider sterilization for either you or your husband.

Answer 8

My daughter is 5 & my son is 4... (they are 14 months apart)... I got pregnant with my daughter while I was takin the pills & prgnant with my son while I was on Depo Shots... Now the only form of birth control I trust is the IUD... It's good having 2 kids close in age because as they are young they always have each other to play with... It's best for the kids because they are interacting with each other instead of playing by theirselfs... It helps out when they start school or day-care... hopes this helps

Answer 9

There are many positives in having your children close in age! They get to grow up together and teach each other new things, they dont demand so much of your time because they have a play mate. When they get older and start experiencing life they will get hurt and lose love but at least have someone to talk to that won't contradict what they say.

Answer 10

well you want close try triplets, my wife and I had triplets about 4 years ago (2 girls and a boy) it can be a bit of a handfull at times. I know thier will always be a tight sibling rivalry (especialy between the two identical girls) but I think its easier in many ways. 1 they understand eachother in many ways that kids farther in age dont understand. 2. You can get through those "ockward conversations" in one shot. 3 you dont have to go through the rougher years more than once (teens and todlers to be spesific) so while its a pain while thier little, as they get older kids closer in age are easier.