A guy who I considered to be my best friend calls me after a month of his engagement and tells me that he misses me. He knows how his fiance feels about the friendship but he risks it any way while I tell him that I am uncomfortable with it because she and I are not friends. I feel like he is trying to keep the friendship a secret. A week later they both call and he denies ever saying this to me. She says that he tells her we are not that close but we have been best friends for four years. I feel like he doen't care about our friendship and he has been lying to me and her this whole time.
2006-12-12 08:39:18 · 5 answers · asked by shuntae28 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Somebody is not being truthful and, for my money, it doesn't much matter which. He's not a good bet for long term friendship and certainly not a good bet for marriage. Kinda looks from here as though he could screw up a steel ball. He probably cares about your friendship but that doesn't get you very much does it? Because, while he cares, he's not able to be truthful to either of the people to whom he's supposed to be close. He's got a lot of growing up to do.
2006-12-12 08:47:21 · answer #1 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He shouldnt be doing what is doing. That is wrong. You tell him to stop, and if he really cares about his fiance he should leave you alone. But dont stop being friends, just keep a long line between you two. You can talk to him, but just dont get into deep conversations. And when he does, change the subject. And if you sense that there is something going on with him (like another girl) you should tell his fiance, otherwise there will be drama, and lots of it. Lets hope they dont bring you into the picture! Best wishes and good luck!!
2006-12-12 08:48:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Handwriting is on the wall...his wife will always come first and friendship or not, he is going to deny it... he has to live with her...but I also think it's unfair of him to have put you in that position.... Time for you to walk away....and find a new friend. Preferably of the same sex as you. Friends of the opposite sex bring issues in one way or another.
2006-12-12 08:51:01 · answer #3 · answered by westfield47130 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He and his fiance better work this out right now. 1. He can have other female friends and she needs to get used to that. 2. He can't lie to his fiance. 3. Neither is being fair to you.
He needs to communicate with his fiance.
2006-12-12 08:43:19 · answer #4 · answered by Phoenix, Wise Guru 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he can't stand up to her and admit your friendship..........I would consider him an "EX" friend. True friends don't treat each other that way.
2006-12-12 08:47:31 · answer #5 · answered by HowdyThere 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋