I figure nobodys perfect so a 50% match is about as good as it gets...I mean everyones got to be flexible and compromise in relationships, right?
2006-12-12 08:36:25 · 37 answers · asked by james l 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Nope..Who in their right mind would? Man.. .half is alot lol..so the other half of it you be spending time arguing, fighting etc...i dont wanna risk that...you gottta think about it in a long run...
2006-12-12 08:40:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are right no one is a 100% match, but we are talking about a life time commitment. You want to have as many similarities as you can. Remember all of their annoying habits you have to live with for a long time. It is okay to be patient for a little bit, but over years it can become too much. You will always have to compromise in a relationship because no two people are the same, but it makes it easier if you have more similarities. Trust me I have been married for 8 years and those annoying habits I thought I could be flexible with are getting to me. If you don't like half their personality I would keep looking. You will be unhappy.
2006-12-12 08:42:28 · answer #2 · answered by Glee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why settle for less honey? you know eventually whatever it is about that person you don't like will become even more apparent once you've been together for a while and comfort sits in. it's kinda of like compromising who you are. you will always have the feeling in your gut of annoyance and eventually the irritating thing may cause you to begin to resent the person. the best thing would be to confront the person about whatever it is you do not like, as they may be totally oblivious to the way you feel about the certain thing or things they do. holding in your feeling will only make them come forth much harsher when they are allowed to be release. be honest with the person and yourself. can you really see yourself spending forever with someone who annoys you? nobody is perfect but it would be just crazy to MARRY someone who gets on your nerves half the time. i can understand dating someone who slightly rubs you the wrong way, because you can kick them to the curb. Marriage is suppose to be an institution between two people who love each other and involves a little more commitment. but if you can see yourself 10, 20 years from now with a person who annoys you 50% of the time, by all means go for it. is there some sort of alterior motives involved? is he paid? great sex? ultimately you have to decide what is best for you but i don't see any happy ending to this story. All the best.
2006-12-12 08:55:34 · answer #3 · answered by TRUTH HURTZ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer is no! You will not be happy in the long run. I was friends with my husband for years before we actually got together as a couple and then got married. Yes it is true that you have to be willing to compromise and be flexible but that goes both ways. If you can sit down and talk out the issues great but if not don't get married.
2006-12-12 08:56:20 · answer #4 · answered by blakkrose1974 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No! A 50% match is not as good as it gets. Believe me when I tell you that the little things that don't bother you too much right now will bother you A LOT as the years go by. Marry someone whose habits and personality compliment your own - someone you RESPECT and don't need to argue with in order to be heard and valued. Marry a man that you can have absolute faith in and who will put you FIRST in his life. THEN, you do the same. If you each put the other before yourself, you will be happy and have a peaceful relationship. If you don't like something now, you will HATE it later - I promise!
I think that you should keep looking. Better yet, don't look, just wait and one day when you least expect it you'll find him. You have all of your life to meet Mr. Right. What's the hurry? Enjoy your life. That's joy shows and will draw him to you.
2006-12-12 09:03:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Right, but can you compromise for the rest of your life about the other 50% or will that person compromise and be flexible to help. That is important too.
2006-12-12 08:38:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you sort of answered it yourself i would expect to comprimise but not 50/50.. u need some over lap though to make it interesting its not mathematical.. u need to work out if the negative things will become a major issue in time in which case even a near perfect match could fall foul because your partner farts in bed and you just cant live with it even if everything else is perfect you find yourself single again!
so take the maths out of the equation n think whats important to you in a relationship and talk with your other half.. make sure you both ticking with the same clock. discuss differences find out more about each others way of thinking and try to understand one another.. it may make those negatives alot more tollerable or even positive and you will find that 50% creep up.
2006-12-12 08:47:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope! Wrong Answer..... NEVER EVER EVER Settle! You are correct in that no one is perfect and you do need to compromise in relationships however, there are certain things called "SHOWSTOPPERS"! Being married is hard work...when you live with someone everyday, the little things that you may not like can become magnified......life is very short, but it can be very long and ugly when you live with someone you do not like....even if you love them....
2006-12-12 08:40:26 · answer #8 · answered by favrd1 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO WAY. Marriage is hard enough when you've got a person whose personality is completely compatible. If you add in the years and the changes you go through. It's a wash. Go for the person who is a 100% match. Any less is cheating yourself out of your soul mate and basically means divorce is in your future.
2006-12-12 08:39:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well i dont like everything about my husband. but like you said nobodys perfect and i'm sure he dosent like alot of the stuff i do. I love him very much and i couldnt imagine myself without him. so what you need to do is close your eyes and think how your life woud be with out this guy. if you can picture things without him he's probably not for you but if you feel like your heart is broke and you just couldnt imagine a day without him then what are you waiting for marry him. just remember no body is 100% perfect. not even you. especially not my husband lol ha ha.
2006-12-12 08:42:10 · answer #10 · answered by tcameron_2004 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nope. i think that is a bad idea. the stuff that you do not like now will only get worse after a few years stuck with them. 50% is not good. in all honesty...if they are things that you can deal with then go for it, but if they are potential deal breakers than don't. if you truly want to be with this person forever then you need to accept who they are and if you truly accept them then the 50%that you do not care for now will be smaller or nonexistent
2006-12-12 08:40:33 · answer #11 · answered by mel2430 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋