I was molested as a young child, starting at about 6 weeks old I think. I've had five years of therapy, I've come a long way. But will I ever truly recover? After all this time I still find the idea of sex disgusting some times. I still often pick men who turn out to be abusive perverts. I also still cry fairly frequently whenever I think about my childhood and the fact that my mother let me abuse me. Do I just have to feel glad that I've made some progress but accept that I wil never fully recover from this emotionally?
2006-12-12 08:36:02 · 5 answers · asked by Very Nice Indeed! 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I was sexually abused when i was younger! You never get over it but you can't let it take over your life because when you do that then the ABUSER has won!! Good luck and just remember it was not YOUR fault that this happened!!! GOD BLESS YOU!!!!!!
2006-12-13 05:25:00 · answer #1 · answered by linda bug 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It just makes my heart ache to read your question. You'll be recovering. We have nieces who were abused and are now mothers. It's still a struggle for them--for one thing because the effects are often transferred to their children. It seems to us that you CAN "recover" and be free of the burden. It isn't easy and the therapist is crucial and good friends with whom you can talk or write are very beneficial. Be thankful for the progress and keep working.
It may help you to know that all of us are "bent" in one way or another. We all have things with which we struggle and wrestle and work on. I've been looking for a long, long time for the person or family what has it ALL together and every time I find a candidate that really looks as though they have no problems, a little knowledge will turn up the "bent" in them.
2006-12-12 08:58:44 · answer #2 · answered by DelK 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I only read the first part up to where your stepfather was kissing you in your sleep. Either way.... tell your mom--if not her, a counselor, pastor, cop, whatever. it doesn't matter who, as long as they're a trustworthy adult. That is not appropriate, in ANY aspect. You should NEVER have to be subjected to that or any other form of molestation. Medication is an excuse, seizures are an excuse, it is NOT ACCEPTABLE. NO; THIS IS NOT YOUR FAULT! This is the evil doings of a sick man who is using a "handicap" as an excuse to inappropriately act with a minor. He needs more help than any anti-seizure medicine can give, and you need to be taken out of this abusive environment immediately.
2016-05-23 15:37:02 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although damaged by past experiences you can recover if you concentrate on your life now and in the future and forget about the past - as best you can. You have to put that behind you and not use it as an excuse for every thing that goes wrong - whats past is past look ahead not back.
2006-12-12 08:40:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes you can i am living proff it takes alot of time understand people and group therapy, God and you have to learn to forgive and forget.. god will deal with it. and stop feeling sorry for your self. you can not change the past but you can make today better..
2006-12-12 08:57:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋