So I dated a guy over the summer and he broke up with my because he said he "wasn't ready for a relationship." Now, he is dating somebody else. It's about 4 months later. Do you think he was BSing me (like covering up the real reason he was dumping me)? Do you think I'm just being bitter and jealous, or do I have a right to feel a touch angry?
I thought that maybe he would ask me out again if he thought he was ready for a relationship. Why would he suddenly be ready now with somebody else? Why is this person different from me? I think this is part of the explanation why I feel so hurt by this decision.
Please, discuss.
2006-12-12 08:34:11 · 12 answers · asked by drniles81 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
In response to the first answer, I have dated other people since, but I'm not the one that broke up with him. I find it unfair.
2006-12-12 08:38:32 · update #1
You have every right to be angry and hurt, it's natural. But get over it if you can because you're only hurting yourself and maybe while you're feeling bad, there's someone waiting for you! Who knows, the guy he's with now may be saying exactly what you're saying in a few months time. Don't waste your energy - you obviously have a lot to give. Good luck and happy holidays x
2006-12-12 08:41:23 · answer #1 · answered by ladybird 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yeah it is sad, he just wasn't man enough to give you the real reason. I recently experienced the same thing and I felt the same way you did. But some girls cross the lines that some girls don't and men go with what makes them happy. I agree he should have just told you he wasn't feeling you and wanted to see other people it would have made it all the better when you saw him with someone else. When I witnessed it I wanted to throw my drink in his face, but I turned the other cheek because I know I am not hard to look at and just how I got his attention, I will get someone else's. Think positive boo.
2006-12-12 17:09:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, maybe he lied, thinking it was a 'kind' way to break up with you. And it would have been better to be honest about his reasons.
But you still have to move on, and not let it affect the rest of your life. Yes, it hurts, but there are other guys out there, so don't fixate on this one.
2006-12-12 17:01:27 · answer #3 · answered by JBoy Wonder 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might be dating some one else:but is is not in fact the same you two did?
Who told you that he is in a relationship?
He may have found himself a new toyboy.
Don't hate him for it.
It serves no purpose at all.
See to find yourself a guy who is ready for a relationship.
Casual sex is all over the place,so that would not be your problem at all.
You all ready said that you dated other guys.
What if he saw you and hated you for that??
Even if he broke up?
You don't own people,so stop putting your energy in asking why he is with that other guy.
Find yourself a nice dude you can relate to:and maybe...........
Greetings and success to you:Rob.xxxx
In addition to my answer:
BTW:who told you that life is fair???
Mother goose?.
Be prepaired for more bs.
you can and may IM ME .iF YOU NEED TO VENT.
NOT HITTING ON YOU,REMEMBER THAT.
ROB.
2006-12-12 17:13:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes. I divorced my husband 2 years ago, and he recently started to get serious with someone new. It made me sad, even though I have a new someone too. You can still care about someone even when things don't work out.
2006-12-12 16:37:41 · answer #5 · answered by missyhardt 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
nothing wrong with being sad about it, maybe even a little angry but it's just part of the healing process. he may have moved on quicker than you because he wasn't in to you as much as you were to him
2006-12-12 16:40:03 · answer #6 · answered by Ron N 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It is an ego crusher. Just play it cool. I would definatly move on because this guy might just be a flake that you lucked out on not dating!
2006-12-12 17:00:41 · answer #7 · answered by Karrien Sim Peters 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, i would be devestated. Just the thought of her moving on to someone else makes me want to cry.
2006-12-12 16:52:47 · answer #8 · answered by Raynebow_Diva 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He was probably bsing you, but theres nothing wrong with feeling bitter about it. I suggest egging his house. Try to get the eggs somewhere he can't reach too, so they make a pleasant stench. The stench of vengance.
2006-12-12 16:39:08 · answer #9 · answered by KitsuneBoi85 2 · 2⤊ 3⤋
of course you can! but now its time to hit up the dating pool again. helllllllllooooooooo craigslist. hahaha!
2006-12-12 17:15:57 · answer #10 · answered by jurassic333 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋