Why does my husband not show interests in his two sons...... one having turned just 3 and the other one only 2 months.... He doesnt feed, or change diapers and doesnt bother to hold his two month old...... It doesnt make sense since he is the one who really wanted these kids and at the moment asking to have another child.
2006-12-12 08:31:47 · 6 answers · asked by Katie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
When fathers think about children, they dont' think about babies. They think about little league baseball, football, hunting, fishing, or whatever they wish to re-live when they were a kid. Not saying all men don't love babies, but you've got to remember we don't instinctively possess the ability to change diapers or to hold & feed a crying baby.
It's not that we don't love our kids, I cried like a little girl when I saw my son born and I love him more than life itself; but my wife had the same complaints about feedings, midnight crying, not taking enough pictures, holding, etc. I just didn't feel the need to do those things, but for some reason I can't wait to teach him about football.
Your husband loves his sons; he's interested in his sons lifes; Trust me. But i'm willing to bet that at some point in your kids lifes, it will seem that he is taking more of an active interest in them than you are. I really doubt that if my son decides to play football that my wife will be anything more than a cheerleader on the sidelines as I play the role of coach.
Keep nagging him though; he may appreciate it later.
2006-12-12 08:45:52 · answer #1 · answered by FBWillie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Probably doesnt know how to handle his sons at their young age. Men want siblings but at an older age,like theyre afraid of hurting them or such. If he has never been around young children then this is a new world for him and it scares him. Show him that kids dont break and open a whole new world for him. Tell him that kids at their young age start bonding with both parents now so he better get started. Good luck
2006-12-12 08:50:26 · answer #2 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Need more information really. The one thing I can tell you is that I wouldn't even consider having another child with this guy unless he does a total turn around. I am pregnant with my third child and can't imagine the chaos I am about to embark on, but thankfully my husband is really close to both of our other children and helps me out a lot. Is he depressed maybe? Have you two talked about him doing more? Does he know how you feel??
2006-12-12 08:37:25 · answer #3 · answered by momof3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a feminist, believe me, but that doesn't mean men and women are the same. AS A GROUP (excluding many noteworthy individuals), fathers are not interested in the day-to-day care of children. I tend to think that women are butting their heads against the wall in trying to make them do so. Frankly, I'd rather have them work more hours so the mom can cutback to part time or stay home. I'm tired of arguing with them.
2006-12-12 08:36:46 · answer #4 · answered by silverside 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, find an outlet for yourself like twice a week. Boxing, Yoga, ect..... Let him take care of the little ones for a while. He might feel jealous because of all the attention you have to give them. Stranger things have happened ya know. I say, give him the kids twice a week. He'll have no choice but to hold and play with them.
Merry Christmas
2006-12-12 08:39:15 · answer #5 · answered by Gasman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds immature and not responsible. How old is he? Tell him it';s time to grow up. Why don't you let him have the kids one evening by himself to see how he holds up.
2006-12-12 08:34:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋