I am in a foreign country, I do not speak the language here and need credit on my phone to feel secure-I spend about 10 pounds on credit per month. She is a student and I am the bread winner
we are not struggling-yet she refuses to give me money during the week and to top up my credit??? ps She controls the cash as I am a foreigner and cannot open an account-any cash she earns part time is hers and doesnt go towards our savings. Is this typical behaviour should i accept this?
2006-12-12 08:28:05 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This is not typical, you should be a team and have a system in place that works and which you both agree upon.
2006-12-12 08:34:55 · answer #1 · answered by B 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
No definately not. She is exploiting the fact that you are in a foreign country and making you totally dependent on her! If I was you I would speak to my boss and ask if it's at all possible to be paid in cash, until you can open your own bank account! I am sure he will understand. If she is not sharing her income, then why should you? Obviously as bread winner, certain aspects are yours to take care of, but what remains is surely yours to spend as you wish. You are not a child, so she should stop treating you like one! Perhaps she doesn't want you phoning!! Thats just controlling!! Stand up and voice your rights!! Can you imagine what it will be like once she has finished studying and earning??
2006-12-12 08:45:46 · answer #2 · answered by lynne 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I wouldn't. Neither would my husband. Sure, a marriage is a unity between two people, but if one is being selfish, no, the other shouldn't give in either. This is kind of childish but if you can't agree on sharing, then why mix money in the first place. Seperate money all the way, she can start working part time to pay her share.
2006-12-12 08:33:04 · answer #3 · answered by E! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-18 12:12:27 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well usually in a marriage one person is the "nerd" and always takes care of finances well and the other is the "jock" and never really worries about numbers. BUT if she is withholding something that is a necessity for you let her know that you need a credit amount of money for the basics, or just open an account woth just your money, becuse sometimes sharing accounts doesn't work well for everyone.
2006-12-12 08:52:07 · answer #5 · answered by a_nurse2b 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I am English and have a foreign boyfriend. When he first came to this country he spoke very little English as did his friends but they all have bank accounts (Barclay's bank) i think maybe your girlfriend could be a little insure (like myself) and wants the control and to be relied upon to keep you. It still is not acceptable !
2006-12-12 08:56:38 · answer #6 · answered by Daniella 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
trial, i married a foreigner,he was not trustworthy, he lied to me about the money he was earning, and sent some of it back home to India family, i think you have a good wife , she is keeping you in control of your finances, maybe you are like my husband ,, money flows through your fingers like water, also he was always on the phone to his family running up big bills,, whats your wife's side of the story
2006-12-12 08:54:07 · answer #7 · answered by valda54 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
'A foreigner and CANNOT open an account', why's that then?
You are the main bread-winner? How?..cash in hand?
If you are an illegal, then I would accept what you are given.
If you are not, then I see you have met British women then!
2006-12-12 08:34:21 · answer #8 · answered by Moorglademover 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
T here should be no boss in a marriage, 'sharing is caring' no do not put up with this .
2006-12-12 09:15:04 · answer #9 · answered by MILLION DOLLAR QUESTION 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She loves you, and she doesnt play the boss.SHE IS THE BOSS.Just wants to teach you how to save, ,keep to your word anx be respensible.
2006-12-12 09:13:56 · answer #10 · answered by zu 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋