If a husband is a workoholic and also likes to stay out a lot....... meaning he just doesnt like to be indoors and he likes to always be out somewhere.............. how or what could a wife do to make him want to stay home more often.
2006-12-12 08:12:21 · 12 answers · asked by Katie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
nothing. if you love him for who he is then adapt or find someone else. if by stay out you mean you don't trust him then leave him.
2006-12-12 08:16:14 · answer #1 · answered by BuddhaDaddy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its tough to balance work and home time because if he likes what he does and takes a lot of pride in his work in his mind he is doing his part being the guy. But depending on the pressures both of you are dealing with family/bills etc. Try to reconnect by doing things that made you both love each other. It sounds like you need some sort of plan to get out from a rut. Try planting the idea in his mind by writing little notes and suggestions that you would like things to go. But remember the fragile male ego, remember planning is the key. Try new things or old things with a twist. The mind is always thinking so plant a idea there and see if it will grow. Good luck
2006-12-12 08:32:34 · answer #2 · answered by chancesare45 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Besides the obvious things like making the home pleasant, there really isn't anything you CAN do. Some guys just like to be on the run all the time. I know a guy that's 65, retired, and still runs all the time. And, he putters around in the yard every day. He does sleep inside, but that's about it.
2006-12-12 08:34:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What I would do is sit down with him and talk to him about how it is affecting your marriage. There will be tension, but you need to be patient and very loving. You need to explain that you are not complaining but are concern of where the marriage is going. You might even need to compromise with him this will let him know that it is very important to you that you are even willing to give something up for him. If argument pursues you need to talk later ask him when it would be a good time. That you are willing to be patient but you also need a time so that you can resolve this. If he chooses not to give a time then he is not willing to work it out with you and you have a bigger problem than you think, Good luck with your marriage.
2006-12-12 08:24:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
People all over the planet like to feel IMPORTANT. Maybe this guy feels that by being out.!! You may have to tinker with him and get feeling the same at home. You know praise, all the complimentary stuff , cos i am yet to meet anyone who avoids it!!!
2006-12-12 08:25:52 · answer #5 · answered by deedubya 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make yourself as inviting as you can be. Romance the hell out of him. Make your home as inviting as possible. Special meals, candlelight, dressing sexy, whatever. Once you start giving this kind of attention to him, don't let up. Keep putting forth your best effort. If it doesn't work after about as month of trying your best, tell him how you feel about it. If you have to, suggest marriage couseling.
2006-12-12 08:24:15 · answer #6 · answered by BigJake418 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's me lol and i was married for 28 yrs. then we had a grand child which i love totally ,but my wife use to work with me with are own Buss. i was all ways on the road working ,but i was home enough ,that she'd want me to go out (get out of her hair ) lol, but then she got another job ,and she'd be home at 5 and then she wanted me to come home as well , but i just couldn't , i tried but i just had too get out ,but when i came home ,it was like boring it drove me crazy i need to do something ,but she just wanted to watch t.v. or on the computer ,and soo i would just go for walks ,go to Tim,s for a coffee ,then she told me one day that if i can't change then she was going to move out ...and i didn't stop her ,all she had too do was just agree to do something once and a while but she was all ways doing something for someone Else...soo take out some time to let him enjoy you ,with him ...Good Luck
2006-12-12 08:38:47 · answer #7 · answered by Bob 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Become his best friend again! Not trying to be insensitive but how is the love life? I think most of the time the wife will lose interest in sex, probably because we guys aren't really that good at it. I wish my wife had taught me better how to please her!
Even us older guys still love sex!!
2006-12-12 08:17:57 · answer #8 · answered by the_pharaoh109 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure you don't nag at him when he is at home. And give him a reason to want to be home with you. Or you might try getting involved with his outdoor activities.
2006-12-12 08:17:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well some times making it a blockbuster night is fun... i always loved it when me and my ex just stayed in and spent time together... also maybe try wearing some lingerie that always makes a happy home ...lol ... good luck
2006-12-12 09:03:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You definitely need to share common interests even now. Try to do things together in his turf and yours. Let him know your missing his attention. Most importantly, give him great sex.
2006-12-12 08:18:37 · answer #11 · answered by Mike A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋