We've been in a relationship for a very long time. He recently said that his feelings for me changed but he's not sure if it's for good. We've loved each other and always made a great couple. We have similar goals in life as well as similar values and principles. Although he said that maybe our views on life changed lately, which I don't think is the case. He is not sure if he wants this relationship anymore but he can't say he doesn't either. He wants to try to figure it out. I love him deeply. I know he still cares for me and am pretty sure he wants to work things out. He doesn't want to break up yet or see other people but he calls it a break and wants to leave this chance there for us to be together in the future. We've always discussed the future and made plans to be together and I would've never thought things could change. Do you think his love for me can come back as it's the first time something like that ever happened? Do you think we stand a chance in the long run?
2006-12-12 08:08:45 · 4 answers · asked by moonylola 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He said he can't give me a definite answer about it yet. He doesn't know for sure if love will be back, and doesn't want to give me hop. So, he wants to wait and see. When I asked him if he'd break it off with me if he knew for sure we are done, he said that most definitely as it wouldn't be fair to me otherwise.
2006-12-12 08:17:08 · update #1
It seems to me that you know what you want, yet he does not.
Sometimes the hardest you hold on to a person the further they will run from you. Sit your partner down and calmly go over your options. If you intend on taking a break in order to spend some alone time and figure things out it's OK. but there has to be some sort of time frame, it can't be without some boundaries.
Decide how long you want to be apart and ask if he intends to see other people. Have you considered the fact that he might have met someone else already?
Be patient and not pushy, but tell him to make up his mind, after you take this break a definite decision has to be made, you do not want to sit there forever, waiting for him to get his act together while your life is passing you by.
If he is indeed the man for you, it will work out.
All the best,
Irene
2006-12-12 08:18:07 · answer #1 · answered by artist-oranit.com. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it could b a chance 2 come back 2gether but if he loves u as u do why does he wanna a break!!!!!!!!!!!! b careful
GOOD LUCK
2006-12-12 16:14:26 · answer #2 · answered by mene 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SOUNDS LIKE A MIDLIFE CRISIS...YOU MAY WANT TO SEEK MARRIAGE COUNCELING TO FIND OUT WHAT IS GOING ON WITH HIS FEELING...DID HE SAY HE HE DIDN'T LVE YOU ANY MORE? THEIR IS ALWAYS A CHANCE THAT HE JUST NEEDS TO TALK TO SOME ONE AND SORT OUT WHAT HE WANTS...GOOD LUCK....
2006-12-12 16:26:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you love something set it free. if it comes back it is yours,if it doesnt,it was never meant to be..
2006-12-12 16:20:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋