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she's not even 18 yet and she keeping the baby..i did and said everything to tell her know that her life is goingto be b fuked up but she stilldon't see it..how can i make her change her mind...help??

2006-12-12 07:59:35 · 19 answers · asked by Am so Curious 4 in Social Science Psychology

no i am not no way in hel jelous of the baby but the baby but the fac is that that she alredy have it hard bbut now it's goin to be 10x cauz her family are not goin to support her..i however will beacause thats the person who i am..but still she no where ready to take on such responsibility

2006-12-12 08:17:06 · update #1

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OK, I assume you didn't mean bf, but...

First of all you can't MAKE her change her mind.


Second of all, why would you want to be responsible for making her murder a Baby? (and you used the word baby)


Third, why is it about HER life being messed up? Its always these selfish ideas that get us in these predicaments. What about the Baby's life, don't you think abortion will mess it up?

2006-12-12 08:05:12 · answer #1 · answered by CP 4 · 0 0

For some women, the choice whether or not to continue the pregnancy may be a necessary one. Not everyone is overjoyed at learning they are pregnant. Sometimes the mother's health determines her choice to terminate the pregnancy. A single mother with children already may decide not to add another one to the roles of welfare recipients. A woman who has already raised her brood and finds herself unexpectedly pregnant later in life just when she's ready to prepare for menopause might decide she is too old to undertake a pregnancy. A teenager with little or no support from family or the baby's father might not be able to see how she can raise a child alone. There are many circumstances that might lead you to decide to end the pregnancy. Whether you think this is right or wrong, the choice is yours to make.

For some, abortion will not be a viable solution, even if you can't keep the baby. That is when you might look into adoption as an alternative. Modern adoptions are much more flexible than in the past. You can go through an agency, arrange an open adoption with the help of a lawyer, or find other resources.

Whether you end the pregnancy, choose to adopt your child into a new family, or raise the baby yourself, you will want to find support and resources to help with your monumental decisions. Often, your doctor's office can refer you to the agencies and support networks in your community. If you belong to a church, you can find information and assistance there. Planned Parenthood can provide counseling, education, and referrals as well. Your local district health office is also a good place to find information and referrals. Many childbirth classes are taught by knowledgeable instructors who know others in the community who can help you.

2006-12-12 16:09:46 · answer #2 · answered by sanfoj@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0 0

Is bf best friend? If she is your best friend, then be her best friend and stop trying to bring her down. You actually told your best friend that her life is going to be f***ed up now?? That is messed up on your part. Just straight up rude. She needs you to be there and support her, instead you are doing the opposite. Yeah, she messed up by having unprotected sex. But she has other priorities now. A baby might be just what she needs to get her life on the right path. Everything happens for a reason. A baby is a blessing. If she can't handle it, then she can give it up for adoption. Or maybe a family member can adopt the child so the baby is still around. Please don't help persuade her to kill the beautiful life inside her. Many many other young mother's have given birth at a young age and been fine.
My husband's mother had him when she was 15. It wasn't easy but she did her best and now I have a wonderful man in my life. My best friend got pregnant at 16. It was hard, but she did it and her 11 year old girl is the most well behaved kid I've ever met. I'm sure you'll hear many other stories because others have gotten through the same thing just fine.
Be a good friend. Blessed be!

2006-12-12 16:18:55 · answer #3 · answered by LadyMagick 5 · 0 0

You think that your problem will be solved by making things be as they were before pregnancy, you do not want to be tied in any way to her... and the baby is a strong tie.

Whether you like it or not, your choices now are simple: you have them both or you have no one. You can simply hide away or disappear of their lives (which is not as bad as it sounds, it is an option anyway and there is a chance it is the best of them), or you can get involved and be helpful and supportive to them.

In the end, have this in mind and let off trying to change her mind: YOU CAN NOT. Move on to trying something else. Good luck man! and so to your girl and son.

2006-12-12 16:18:43 · answer #4 · answered by Guillermo G 1 · 0 0

are you jealous or curious? I think you need to change your name. My little sister just had a baby 1 week before her 18th birthday. Some people need to grow up while raising a child. Be supportive. That's all she needs right now is a group of supportive friends that are happy that she is making a positive step for herself and her family. Volunteer to throw her a shower or something, because if you are truly her best friend you will have her back regardless of any "stupid" decision you fell she will make in her life. But if you fell you can't do that. Just step off now, because she doesn't need people like you in her life.

2006-12-12 16:12:19 · answer #5 · answered by a_nurse2b 2 · 0 0

well, its a decision she made when she had sex in the first place. Now, she should be strong enough to raise the child to the best of her ability. Sure, she won't be able to go out like she used to but her life will not be f*cked up. I had my son right after I turned 19 and would never get rid of him.

I think you have issues with having to share your best friend with a baby. You should be more supportive of her decisions instead of criticizing her for her decision. You shouldn't try to change her mind its her decision to make. Why don't you just go with the flow and help her pick out baby clothes. And make sure you never get pregnant you obviously don't want your life f*cked up by something as wonderful as a child.

2006-12-12 16:09:13 · answer #6 · answered by wunluv06 3 · 1 0

Do you mean your gf??

If you are the father of the baby, you two are responsible to decide whether or not to keep the baby. If she will not have an abortion, then you will also have to pay for the baby's expenses whether you want to or not. It might not be what you prefer or wanted to or feel it is right. But you are still responsible because you got her pregnant.

If you are not the father of the baby, leave her alone. It is her life, her choice.

2006-12-12 16:19:22 · answer #7 · answered by youngwoman 5 · 0 0

okay, i'm going to interpret this question a little bit differently from everyone else...

your "best friend" is pregnant, and you've already been through this yourself? and trying to keep her from making the mistake (as you see it) that you did...

ultimately this is going to be her decision. but let her borrow your child for a few days and see how she handles it. if she's still comfortable raising a child at this age there's nothing you should do to try to force her to change her mind.

there is always adoption too..

2006-12-12 16:13:21 · answer #8 · answered by ~ Mi$fitPrin¢ess ~ 3 · 0 0

Help with what? When you were making out - did you ask for our help?? You took care of your business then - Stand up and act like a man now and take care of your responsibility. Support her and the baby. Next time "Wrap It Up" and I don't mean the Christmas presents!

2006-12-12 16:05:43 · answer #9 · answered by Topez 6 · 1 1

my best friend just had a baby and she is 17!!! she use to hate but now she is the happiest i ever saw her!!! i think you are crazy!!! yea her life will be way different and wont be about her any more but HOW SELFISH OF YOU!! if you were a good friend you'de be by her no matter what her choice was!!! but your feelings aside it's her choice how she wants to live her life and she's not stopping at the challenge!!!

2006-12-12 16:05:58 · answer #10 · answered by Renae 1 · 1 0

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