If you worked full time and your wife stayed home with the kids, but she realized she's burnt out from caring for the kids all the time and wanted to return to work, would you resent that? Support it? Let's say she's been doing all household chores at home for a year and a half since your child was born and now with returning to work, she would expect you to start helping her?
2006-12-12 07:57:01 · 15 answers · asked by Jennifer F 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'll tell you that there is no right or wrong. You know what's fair. But. Did you husband want to have kids? Did he want to share cleaning duties?
I don't know what your husband expected, but I know that if you talk to him kindly, and sincerly (you know what u will and will not do) about this problem. I'm sure you will get the best possible results. So as I say, it's all about what you guys decide, and it will probably be different all the time. Find out what each of you needs to be happy, and respect that your partner is responsible for his own happiness. You women seem to enjoy trying to do everything too much. Life balance is lame. Live the way you want to live, and don't apologize for it. The world won't end, whatever you decide to do.
For my personal opinion.... I would have never had kids. At this point in my life (30 yrs old) I'd rather use my time toward improving my ability to earn a living, earning a living, and having some fun. I don't now that I'll ever want kids. To me it just feels like a lot of work for no reward. Lots of people feel differently. Good luck.
2006-12-12 16:09:00 · answer #1 · answered by jamisojo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there, done that. I wouldn't blame her, the house and kids are more than a full time job, and the little darlings can drive you NUTS!!! But the chores would have to be agreed upon, and if you both worked you'd have to share the load or it would never get done. It's all part of doing for each other, a good lover and partner would do anything to make the other happy. If not, one of the two could be just a little spoiled!
2006-12-12 16:27:18 · answer #2 · answered by Mike 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she wanted to return to work, I would employ a nanny to take care of the kids so that she could do what she wanted. Some women are just not born to sit around home all day doing boring old housework.
2006-12-12 16:05:11 · answer #3 · answered by boygenius1938 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off when i have a wife she would make her choices cos shes a human being too but if it was her choice to stay home and take care of the baby it should also be her choice when she goes back to work. And i would definitely help her in everyway i can
2006-12-12 16:01:08 · answer #4 · answered by camden 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife took a year off after we built our new house, but when she decided to go back to work we fired a cleaning service to come in and clean once a week.
2006-12-12 16:23:02 · answer #5 · answered by Todd V 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not mind as long as we discussed this in detail and knew exactly what all the expectations of the arrangement were. Communication is key!! Good luck!
2006-12-12 16:09:53 · answer #6 · answered by slosco 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my now ex wife and myself both took 3 months off from work
she took the 1st 3 i took the next
i think she would have drove me crazy if she hadn't gone back to work
i personally think you should go back to work to save your sanity
and he should understand that you need help around the house
2006-12-12 16:07:53 · answer #7 · answered by seven_ms_man 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would support her decision to go back to work and would help her with the choirs
2006-12-12 15:59:10 · answer #8 · answered by Mike 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it would be great and would cooperate with her as much as I can to make it work for her to have a fulfilling work life.
2006-12-12 15:59:28 · answer #9 · answered by Brent 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my husband wants me to work to help him out with the bills, and to keep myself busy. i have 3 kids.
2006-12-12 15:59:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋