my husband and i have been togeter for almost 4 years we have 2 kids. problem is his family still has the picture of him and ex-girl from 1999 on the wall. i told him it makes me feel bad to see that pic in his mother and sister house, he saids he doesn't care about the pic, but i HATE to see it and i don't want my kids lookin at it. he said he can't tell people what to do with there stuff when i ask him to ask them to take it down and put it in a picture book. what should i do? stop me and my kids from going to there house or what.
2006-12-12 07:56:22 · 6 answers · asked by Daya 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Don't let the pic or the past cause you and your family problems.He is your husband,and the chick in the pic is a part of his past.If he wanted her as his wife then you wouldn't be there,but luckily he wanted you so hold onto that.As for the kids,,if they do see it and ask questions just tell them that it's a pic of their daddy and a old friend,they don't need to know all the details.
2006-12-12 08:06:20 · answer #1 · answered by missy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
While you have every right to voice your opinions in your own house, you have no right to ask that old photographs with ex be taken down at the in-laws. I've been married fo 11 years to a man who had a child with his first wife. The photos remained in my in-laws house for 9 years, when we moved them into another house. They honestly never noticed the photos, and neither should you. Your children should not feel as if his first marriage is a secret...I'm sorry if the photos make you insecure, but you have to know in your heart that you are the one your husband has kids with now. The less energy you put into it, the better.
2006-12-12 16:05:33 · answer #2 · answered by McBeth 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't worry about the picture, it was way before your time. If you want to give the family a picture of you and him and the kids to put on the wall or to replace. It's just a picture.
2006-12-12 17:28:57 · answer #3 · answered by kitcat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a new picture in a nice frame and you replace it. Tell the in-laws that you feel bad that you haven't given them a picture to replace the one that represents an ended relationship.
2006-12-12 16:01:53 · answer #4 · answered by Brent 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to his family about it. Tell them how it makes you feel. If they don't take it down, then stop going over there until they do.
2006-12-12 16:07:39 · answer #5 · answered by Xena 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
BOOOOOOOO reer fffft hiss
he had a past... get over it
2006-12-12 15:59:50 · answer #6 · answered by Jillary von Hämsterviel™ 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋