My mate is very moody. When he gets mad, he will not hold a conversation with me for days. Here is the thing... When we are out in public, he is every person's dream. Very attentive and only has positive things to say. He says that the only way to motivate me is to yell at me. He is like my drill sergent. Is this normal?
2006-12-12 07:43:31 · 17 answers · asked by hh 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This is not normal at all. He is controlling you by manipulation behind closed doors and gets away with it by appearing to the world as "God's gift to women". You need to either get out of the relationship or seek help with a marriage counselor. You need to stick to your guns and show him that you can defend yourself against this.
It looks to me like the only way to motivate him would be a good beatin.
2006-12-12 07:54:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your dating my ex. Is he a taurus by chance?
He's passive agressive. How long have you been with him? I would warn you to be careful with this. Most men that display punishment type behaviors and emotional abuse are often violent. Mine was like this for the first 2 years of the relationship. Then he started hitting me. Abusers often are two different personalities too. Charming in public and Moody and agressive in Private. If you stand up to him and he escalates or gets too agressive (either verbal or physical) my advice it to run like the wind. Hes probably an abusive man just waiting to explode.
2006-12-12 14:32:02 · answer #2 · answered by chcknbizkit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My EX was this way. In public she was everyone's dream woman. In private with me she was manipulating, controlling and most of the time just not very nice. Pay attention. You both need counseling. If he won't go with you get some for yourself to find out why you put up with this crap.
God bless.
2006-12-12 07:53:47 · answer #3 · answered by Brent 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it is not....it is emotional manipulation..... The only way to motivate you is to yell at you? That is truly quite sad....Why would he want to be with someone that he has to motivate by yelling at them.... This is very immature behavior...it wouldn't surprise me if you have some other concerns too....a person that acts like this has a few other "querks"....be careful, and get away from him....He's bad news!
2006-12-12 07:48:21 · answer #4 · answered by favrd1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it's not normal, communication is a very important part of a relationship and without it the chances the relationship will last are extremely low
2006-12-12 07:48:29 · answer #5 · answered by Mike 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No.
This is a disfunctional relationship called Passive Aggressive. It's a sure receipe for divorce. You can not change him.
Divorce him immediately and find someone who treats you well in public and private.
2006-12-12 07:48:37 · answer #6 · answered by Gabha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nope. me and my ex went whole days without talking to each other, which we did at work, but as soon as we got home nothing was said. probably a major factor in our breaking up, besides the fact that he's an a$$hole.
he doesn't have respect for you. i would tell him to find it quick or i'm gone. there are better people out there for you that can appreciate you.
2006-12-12 07:54:43 · answer #7 · answered by pikachu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think this is healthy. You need communication in a relationship. I think he is being abusive. You are his partner not in bootcamp training!
I tink you two should gto to counseling and if he doesn't then at least you should go to sort this out.
2006-12-12 07:50:47 · answer #8 · answered by Andrea 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. It sounds like he sees you as one of his children. He gets off on control, and this will never, never change. Your question now is how long to put up with it before you leave him
2006-12-12 07:52:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband sounds passive/agressive. He is trying to control you. You need to get marital counseling. If he doesn't change, you should leave him. Your self-esteem will suffer if you stay with this type of man and you will lose your identity.
2006-12-12 07:50:49 · answer #10 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋