My dad and my mom want me to listen to them at the same time but its hard when there are two different types of rules and everything else.
2006-12-12 07:34:09 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Education & Reference ➔ Higher Education (University +)
You are in a tough situation. You should try to remember that they both love you and want you to succeed, but obviously they dont agree on a lot of things - that's why they got divorced!!
OK, so try to keep relaxed and have some fun with both of them. Remember that they are probably pretty angry with each other and jealous about the time you spend with the other one. Pretty soon you are going to be off at college and you can follow your own rules.
If I were you I would concentrate pretty hard on my school work and then you would have a really good chance of getting into several different schools. You might get a scholarship and it will be easier to convince them to let you go away.
Try hard not to be angry with them, and take good care of yourself. Just because they messed themselves up it DOES NOT mean that your life has to be messed up. Be kind, be mature, be respectful, but be your own person.
2006-12-12 07:46:04 · answer #1 · answered by matt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being the child of divorce is hard. Rule of Thumb: When in each parents home, follow the rules of the house that they have laid down for you. Then you can't go wrong. If it's something that both parents are telling you to do (and they want different things from you) you need to tell them that they need to decide jointly what they want because you do not feel comfortable following two sets of rules. Parents need to make it easier on the child, not the other way around. Depending on your age, you could talk to your school counselor, tell him/her that your folks are pulling you in two different directions and you don't know who to listen to...they could call a conference w/ your parents and maybe get it resolved that way. You seem like a very bright individual, so I hope you choose what you know is the "right" thing to do always. If you are on good terms w/ both parents and the parents are civil to one another...you could also call a family meeting and tell them your concerns over this issue yourself.
2006-12-12 15:44:25 · answer #2 · answered by singlesolitaire1957 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just follow the rules at their house. If the rule is be home before the street lights come on at Dad's house and the rule is no going out on school nights a mom's house...you can remember that.
2006-12-12 15:42:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋