i've already asked some questions about my husband cheating with my best friend. but he claims that all they did was make-out and he said he touched her boobs and she touched his penis. should i believe him? i mean they did these things on several occassions while me and her husband were asleep. they had every opportunity to go all the way. and i just can't see two (they are both26) 26 year old adults just making out. i would buy it at 15 or something but for two adults to stop and not have sex? do yall think he is lying to make it sound better? did they have sex u think?
2006-12-12 07:31:31 · 28 answers · asked by adi23 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
and the bad part is on two occasions we had all been drinking and i tried to get my husband to go to bed with me and do stuff and he said he was too tired and later i found out after i passed out him and her messed around.
2006-12-12 07:49:56 · update #1
It is possible for people not to go all the way. Maybe guilt kicked in, or someone felt it would be cheating ONLY if you went all the way, etc. There have been times when I was single I only made out with a person and we didn't have sex. For me I was not ready or uncomfortable about taking things a step further.
If I found out my husband was kissing another woman, I would be very angry at him. Also touching each other inappropriately would just make me flip out! Making out could be a reason I'd use to get a divorce, because it is a form of cheating. Sex doesn't have to be involved, but sexual behavior can still be a reason for me to divorce my husband.
2006-12-12 07:38:00 · answer #1 · answered by Erica, AKA Stretch 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It seems to me you are looking for a way of justifying that you have also cheated on him! He did what he did while her husband and you were asleep? Kindly explain how that scenario played out. Be honest with yoyurself and just admit that what you are secretly interested in is a foursome, wife-swapping, or swinging experience. You claim that they ar 26 year old adults and that the explanations he has given you are childish. Aren't you being childish by wanting to half believe him. C'mon, cheating is cheating,whether it is just making out or going 'all the way'.
It seems to me that the ralationship you have with this other couple is friendly enough for you to sit down and work out a feesible agreement on what it is that you all really want; hot, sexual; action with your friends! It would be your best course of action but considering the immaturity you have demonstrated through this posting, I seriously think you'd be able to come to grips with the patience, tolerence, acceptance, respect, responsibility and all the other qualities needed for undertaking such a stance.
I am sorry if my bluntness is not particularly what you wanted to hear, but you did ask for advice, and believe me I am giving it to you from a first person perspective. My wife and I have been married for 20 years and have sustained an exclusive open marriage for the past 14. We have been able to indulge in our shared sexual fantasies and enjoyed every minute of it without it affecting our marriage, family life or social standing.
2006-12-12 07:58:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
They both need to grow a spine and tell the truth.
That sounds like, "We kept lighting and lighting the fuse on a stick of dynamite and it got shorter and shorter but I swear to god it never went off." YEAH RIGHT.
They f*cked like hungry tigers - they are just too ashamed and scared to say so now that the secret is out, hoping that lessens the impact. It doesn't.
Demand full, 100% accountability. If he says it again, tell him, "Stop bullsh*tting me. It can't get any worse - I just want full disclosure. How many times (not did you or did you not) did you f*ck her? 20? 100? 500? Just give me the number." Don't give up. Keep asking. He'll crack sooner or later.
Don't believe him for a second. Guys don't cheat for a little make-out action. They cheat to get some fresh p*ssy. PERIOD.
2006-12-12 07:40:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What ARE you thinking, hon? They are doing things that only a married couple do. You don't need any more opinions on cheating---- your best friend and your husband are fooling around. Why would you even put up with that? You don't have a marriage, hon, you have a roommate, and you know that this is inappropriate behavior outside of marriage. Get some help, get some self esteem, and read some of my stuff on just what a marriage is. Think you'll agree, you don't have one. Sorry, for you hon.
2006-12-12 07:37:24 · answer #4 · answered by April 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Could possibly have not had the room or something or was afraid at that time they would get caught. But it's hard to buy that two 26 year olds didn't have sex.
2006-12-12 07:36:56 · answer #5 · answered by MiMi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe it matters if he had sex or not. Your husband put himself in a position where he could have. Do you believe you were in his thoughts at the time? Don't you have a mouth to kiss and a hand to rub his penis?
Your husband was looking for something else and it wasn't you. You may wish to give that a little thought.
2006-12-12 07:45:14 · answer #6 · answered by Nick Danger 3rd Eye 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Does a woman "just touching your husband's penis" sound better? What they did is horrible - they probably did have sex but even just what they admit to is enough to leave the jerk.
2006-12-12 07:35:17 · answer #7 · answered by orionsgirl76 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Intimately touching someone other than your partner is cheating..it's worse because she was your friend ..do buy into the bull..cut him losse and tell her husband what a cheating slut he has for a wife..then don't even look back
2006-12-12 07:37:11 · answer #8 · answered by lost 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What they claim to have done is already cheating anyway. But I'd be willing to bet they did a lot more than that. Don't be a fool, drop that guy. He will keep doing it, no doubt!!!!!!!
Some "best friend" you have, by the way!!!!! So sorry.
2006-12-12 07:35:33 · answer #9 · answered by Sara 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In any event, whether they went further or not, he cheated....I would have to believe that they didn't stop there....If they thought it was okay to "just touch" what would stop them from thinking that the complete sexual act was okay?
Minimizing the situation doesn't make it any better.
2006-12-12 07:38:25 · answer #10 · answered by Hestia 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋