Lately he has been really nasty to me and everytime i go to hug or just touch him he says stop im not in the mood. And last night when he came home he was quiet and didnt want to speak to me at all. Then before he went to bed he went into the bathroom and took a towel and washed something. I am not sure what he washed but it wasnt his face and he imediately put his underware in the washer with some dirty towels. I mean am i being paranoid or is something not adding up? We have been married for almost 8 years now. My gut is telling me something is not right. But i dont want to go and confront him if it is not true. What should i do? I dont want to get into his personal email or his voicemail or invade his privacy at all. But something just seems off. We haven't had sex in almost a month and when he talks to his boss at work on his cell he walks out of the room. I don't know maybe i am just being paranoid.
2006-12-12 07:28:15 · 24 answers · asked by sillymomma 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Oh something else i forgot is he is always erasing his call history on his cell phone he dosent seem to think i notice but i do.
2006-12-12 08:03:28 · update #1
something is obviously up and your gut is telling you that. Don't deny your instincts - they're there for a reason.
If he's at the point where he's hiding his call history, then he's probably covering other tracks as well. Just confront him. don't accuse him of cheating at the outset but tell him about all the changes you've noticed, the lack of sex and ask him if he's interested in someone else. do this directly in front of him so you get a good eye view of his reaction - that should be enough to tell you everything you need to know even if he denies it. Most people that aren't doing anything wrong will either show surprise at the insinuation and concern that you're feeling like this (and will still be looking you in the eye). People up to no good, will be mad, or avoid the situation, tell you your crazy and be looking anywhere but at you.
2006-12-12 08:39:57 · answer #1 · answered by chicchick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello honey, from what you've explained, YES, he sure have some sex partner out there.. I'm pretty sure about that..
BUT, honestly, i couldn't understand is; since you've been married for 8 yrs.. are you not feeding him with enough sex? usually this applies to both either male and female. i.e. if one man/woman had a "strong urge" and didnt had enough sex at home, it'll create a tendency of desperado when opportunity comes.
Knowing that it's not right, but such things still do happen. Especially when either one start to tickle each other, it'll then create opportunity for a sex game..
But nevertheless, just pretend you dont know anything, and try to lure him back for sex, so that he'll get tired of going out and tired of meeting that stupid girl too...
Try you best..
2006-12-12 18:09:17 · answer #2 · answered by Love69 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to be the barer of bad news but he is cheating. Honey that is your man, check his emails, cell phone, time care, etc. He belongs to you and you have every right. I had that same problem back in June and I nipped it in the bud before anything got started even though my hubby claimed he was not interested in her. It is a long story but when someone disrepects you it leads to other things that are wrong. The "gut" feeling is God whether you believe in Him or not. He let me know. Couldn't sleep would wake up 4:30 in the morning everyday until I yielded to that voice/feeling. Check up on him!
2006-12-12 15:52:20 · answer #3 · answered by helives75 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope your not paranoid, I been there honey and he is probably cheating. My suggestion, try to talk to him about it - it will be scary for both of you. Try to stay calm at first and just maybe he will tell you EVERYTHING. It might take him awhile to talk, but eventually he probably will
Good Luck and I feel bad that you are going through this, you will not only need your friends and family - but groups like this, where you dont actually know the person your sharing your feelings with helps too
2006-12-12 15:55:03 · answer #4 · answered by Rosie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds very fishy to me! I suspected my man and started doing a little snooping in his business and found out way more than I ever dreamed!! He hadn't been a good boy at all. Its better to find out the truth no matter how much it hurts so that you can move on with your life and find someone who will treat you right. That is exactly what im in the process of doin at this very moment. Good luck! If you need someone to talk to Im here
2006-12-12 15:41:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, something is definitely wrong. Either he is having an affair or he is leading up to one. If I had paid attention to the subtle signs my (ex) husband displayed, I could have saved myself 4 yrs. of misery. If you fear the worst, keep your eyes and ears open. Talk to him, try to save your marriage before any lines are crossed... he may be just going through a crisis.
2006-12-12 15:50:05 · answer #6 · answered by nuttin'fancy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He could've just pooped in his pants but along with all the other signs, seems like he doesn't want to be affectionate with you at all. All the signs point to yes that he's cheating. Talk to him, try to communicate and if he doesn't want to talk, you have every right to get an answer! Snoop around if you have to.... the truth has to come out!
2006-12-12 15:36:08 · answer #7 · answered by kz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fight fire with fire - stop trying to hug him or get close to him. Come up with mysterious 'errands' that you need to run, and when you come home, jump right into the shower. Start treating him like a roommate.
If he's cheating, he'll immediately be suspicious and it can open up a line of communication between the two of you.
2006-12-12 15:39:21 · answer #8 · answered by dawniedawn67 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This exactly happen to me and continues to happen to me. I'll tell you girl as of right now the world you have as u know it now is changed forever...take some time and think before you act. just think...as for me i'm still in this situation...check out my question in marriage and divorce. Find that one friend or family member you can trust and drain ur support from them. Protect your finanical self as well as your heart...and keep your kid(s) close and happy at this time....this is going to be hard....if you confront him and you decide you believe him(nothing wrong with that, he's ur husband) keep ur eyes plealed and your heart protected...
2006-12-12 15:45:31 · answer #9 · answered by pitnomore 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Watch out! I wish I would have paid more attention to all those signs. When my husband recently (May-July) left me he said he hadn't loved me for over a year and a half. That is when the signs all smacked me right in the face.
2006-12-12 16:20:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋