why do i hurt people?

Question

Whenever i need someone to talk to, my bestest friend is the last person i go to. And i always end up telling someone else. But when i do tell my bestest friend...the words just don't come out.And i know it hurts her, i can see it in her eyes when i don't open up to her. And she told me it hurts her but, i can't help it. When i open my mouth to talk to her i just panic..and then i forget what i wanted to say.And i think she thinks the bad memory thing is an excuse, even i would think that but its true. I don't do it on purpose...i'm so confused.But the thing is i think she doesn't believe me when i say something like..i forgot what i wanted to say or i don't want to hurt her. I know me and her want to stick together in life and we can't do that if we aint confident in talking to eachother. I hurt her so much but, i don't mean to.I honestly don't know what to do. I want to change but i tried it once and it went well for about a week but i fell panicy again after i talked to her. help me

Answer 1

dude if she is ur best mate SHE wud understand
sit her down! and tell her wat uve told evry1 here!!
Or write it down in a letter... and u can keep building on it till ur ready to give it to her
be upfront she ll appreciate it!
also a lil pressie may help
like a frendship band or chox

Answer 2

Firstly i think you should try and tell her everything you have just written - she will understnad if she is a good friend - but if you cant do that and just want to start telling her things then practise what your goin to say. Stand infront of a mirror or just simply read it aloud. You could always write a letter and it explain it all for your last option because sometimes letters are good things. I have wriiten letters to a good friend for ages. I talk about everything in them. I dont no why i dont tell her i mean we are always together on a daily basis but i just chose to write it in a letter and then she writes back. Its a good way to socialise and no one will over hear you so no one will find out!!

Answer 3

Try to observe your feelings and ask yourself why?
why do you panic with your "best friend" ?
and speak to her copy paste what you wrote to us and give it to her... wait .. that gives me an idea! when you have a problem write it down like a journal then when your down give it to her so like that you wont "forget" besides the best way to express your feelings is on paper. do this and ask her to read it out loud so when she reads through the lines you can remember how you felt at that moment when you were recording your feelings, it will help you open up to her again.

Good Luck

Answer 4

To be honest, I don't think that you feel you can trust this person, even though you say she's your best friend.
There is definitely a trust issue here, you need to look at this friendship and ask yourself why you cannot tell her these things.
Is it because you think she will tell other people or because you think she will judge you?

Answer 5

well, are you sure you don't have any more feelings for her than just friends? what other reasons are there for forgetting what your trying to say? it doesn't make sense that you two are best friends but yet you never talk to her about your problems and you go to other people that are probaby not as trust worthy as this one your talking about. is she really your best friend?

Answer 6

im in the same situation as you. a one sided conversation will eventually lead to a one sided relationship. tell your friend exactly what you told us. then you can do it together.

Answer 7

first of all u have to figure out why u do that what is the wrong and fix it together u and her