Whenever i need someone to talk to, my bestest friend is the last person i go to. And i always end up telling someone else. But when i do tell my bestest friend...the words just don't come out.And i know it hurts her, i can see it in her eyes when i don't open up to her. And she told me it hurts her but, i can't help it. When i open my mouth to talk to her i just panic..and then i forget what i wanted to say.And i think she thinks the bad memory thing is an excuse, even i would think that but its true. I don't do it on purpose...i'm so confused.But the thing is i think she doesn't believe me when i say something like..i forgot what i wanted to say or i don't want to hurt her. I know me and her want to stick together in life and we can't do that if we aint confident in talking to eachother. I hurt her so much but, i don't mean to.I honestly don't know what to do. I want to change but i tried it once and it went well for about a week but i fell panicy again after i talked to her. help me
2006-12-12 06:48:33 · 17 answers · asked by ♥ Saммч ♥ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
try therapy
2006-12-12 06:50:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Seems like she really cares about you. I would think a best friend is the first person you can trust before telling others who aren't and could easily ruin you. You need to start paying attention to that. Because one day you are going to trust the wrong person, and then who will be there to help you? Suck it up, talk to your friend, apologize to her, because she's not your friend to hurt you. Maybe you are developing a crush on her. Either way, talk to her!
krazy Libra
2006-12-12 14:56:59 · answer #2 · answered by krazy_libra_from_ac 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Please ignore the negative responses you receive. I understand how you feel and how important it is to you.
You have to find out why you panic.
Is it because you think she will judge you or did something happen to you a long time ago when you talked and the person got angry or left.
Once you identify why you become so afraid you will begin to change.
2006-12-12 14:58:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, next time, whenever you're having a problem, make a conscious effort to tell her about it and ask advice. be there for her as well. if necessary, ensure that you don't go into pleasantries with people (it always initiates a venting ceremony), until you tell your best friend. try it once, and it'll help loads.
2006-12-12 14:52:20 · answer #4 · answered by Luv Docta Jay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people find it easier to write your feelings down, like a diary, but one of how you feel. That way, you needn't tell your friends, and it helps keep problems more private, because we all say the wrong things to the wrong people by accident.
2006-12-12 14:52:08 · answer #5 · answered by BrilliantPomegranate 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
deep down you might be ashamed of the things u wanna tell her
r u scared she might judge u on ur actions?
sometimes it happens 2 me, i really wanna open up to my best friend, but inside their is something that is just preventing me, making me not wanting to do it, its not that u have a secret crush, i think its just a presumption that she has to know what is going on in ur head, its not that bad, honestly, i know it feels and sounds bad, but hey, i can think of much worst things.
2006-12-16 05:34:10 · answer #6 · answered by livinia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
start off by textin her some small stuff like small secrets, then ring her up, sometimes not looking at them sometimes helps, then once you're More confident try talking to her face to face take each step one at a time each one for about a week good luck
2006-12-12 14:53:47 · answer #7 · answered by flieee543 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you think so highly of your friend that you don't want her to think badly of you in anyway. Maybe your afraid of her judging you! Which is pretty understandable!But if she is really your bestfriend she is going to understand you and not judge you, she will except who you are.What you have to do is let your guard down and see what happens...who knows maybe eventually that panicky feeling will go away!
2006-12-12 15:03:08 · answer #8 · answered by CHERYL H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do worry. Start with the littlest things. Try on a daily basis. Talk to her, do not be affraid. Go to her now.
2006-12-12 14:52:06 · answer #9 · answered by samaustinashlee_billiewjr 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Print your question put it into an envelope and give it to her, sometimes it helps to put what you want to say on paper, then let her read it in private
2006-12-12 14:58:28 · answer #10 · answered by El Lobo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depending on your sexual orientation, it sounds like you like this person... .like really like this person. maybe you should look more at your friendship. there's a reson ur not wanting to open up to her... you're the only one that can answer that. just remember, that you're not a bad person.... just a little confused.
good luck, honey.
2006-12-12 14:53:18 · answer #11 · answered by Silver Thunderbird 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋