I left my husband due to Domestic Violence. It was the hardest thing I've done. Especially since I don't have a job and not a cent in my pocket. I called all the DV shelters in my area and we're told they are all full. We've been sleeping in the lobby of various local hospitals. We found a place we can eat twice a day, but no evening meals. Because I left in a hurry and did not grab our ID's. So the place will not allow us to eat in the evenings "because we have no ID." How do you tell a 2, 3 year old. We can't eat because mom did not bring ID's. My five month old I breast feed but I can't now because my body is dirty. All they know is they smell food and their little tummies are rumbling. Today we found salvage in a warm library. So we don't have to roam the cold streets. Every where I was told to try... has turned me away because I don't have ID's. Someone please tell me I've done the right thing by leaving and help me not to return to my abusive husband, and that there's hope.
2006-12-12 06:47:45 · 29 answers · asked by smileys 4 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am curious as to how you came upon a computer to ask this question? Anyone being abused is right to leave. Anyone can go to a church and ask for help, too.
2006-12-12 06:54:58 · answer #1 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can the police go with you to retrieve some items and your ID? I would start with that. You stated that you need an ID to obtain any services so you need to be able to get your ID. The police should be able to escort you and keep you safe so you can do that. Then I am sure they will help get you set up at a shelter or take you to a church, Salvation Army, or some other organization that has the resources to get you started.
Best of luck and keep those babies safe. It is hard now, harder than any of us can imagine, but you know you are doing the right thing by taking yourself and them out of a violent home.
2006-12-12 14:56:36 · answer #2 · answered by his temptress 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First--I am very proud of you for leaving a violent situation. I know first hand how hard it is.
Now, to get your IDs...you need to go to the local police station and tell them what happened and that you need to get back into the home to get you IDs so that you can get the help that you need. Ask them to escort your old place and wait until you get the supplies that you need. Get extra clothes for the kids and yourself. Get you toiletries and toothbrushes. Then most importantly GET BACK OUT. Keep asking around for shelters...get yourself on a waiting list.
You are such a strong woman, there is hope in every second that you and your children are out of that situation. Keep faith and as each day goes on, it will get easier to see that you've done the right thing. I am praying for you and your children--God Bless.
2006-12-12 14:56:40 · answer #3 · answered by Heather 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Call the 800# for domestic abuse they will be able to get you some help. Good for you to leave. I was in the same boat. First think go to some local agencies like the food stamp office/tanf that will give you least something for food and sign up for WIC that will give you good also for the younger ones. Also try the local Salvation Army they could probably help with room/board, clothes, etc. Once you get some money, you can get your ID but you can get your social security cards for free. You need to get some help from one of the above mentioned agencies. Good luck.
2006-12-12 17:53:04 · answer #4 · answered by kitcat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
god bless you... you have done the best thing possible for you and for your children. don't go back-it will only get worse.
i cant even imagine you with 3 babies on the street, nowhere to go & nothing to eat. that sorry excuse for a man you are married to should be ashamed of himself.
do you own or rent the house he is now enjoying to himself?
go to your local welfare office and apply for EMERGENCY cash/foodstamps/ & housing. They will have to give you some type of assistance.
immediately!
also go to the court house and file for an order of protection. In some cases, im sure you would see the judge the same day. request that he be removed from the home so that you and His children have shelter. also file for child support while you are there,. not sure if it can be done all together or not. worth a shot.
be strong... your future will be brighter without his abuse!
2006-12-12 15:12:15 · answer #5 · answered by Mikez Bad Girl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've been there sweetie, and I prayed a lot. Everything will work out ok, but do as the person suggested, go to the police, have them accompany you back there to get the id's, if not, you can get new birth certificates from the courthouse. Then you can go to the DMV for another picture ID, or drivers license, you can also go to the Social Security Office to get new cards. Have you gone to the Welfare Office yet? Surely they can also help you with obtaining the papers you need and help in finding shelter. Or maybe they can help you get back to your family for help.
2006-12-12 14:59:10 · answer #6 · answered by Fruit Cake Lady 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You HAVE done the right thing. The first thing you should do is get a hold of your ID's. You either have to go back with a police escort to retrieve them or get yourself to agency that will help you get them for little or no cost.
Regardless, you have to call police and tell them about your situation. You can not be out on the streets with three young children like that. Call everyone and anyone that will listen to you.
DO NOT GO BACK!! YOU ARE DOING THE RIGHT THING!!
2006-12-12 14:52:57 · answer #7 · answered by snippers72 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should report your husband to the local police department/have him removed from your home for domestic violence.Your abusive husband is the one that should be leaving your home not you and your children.Living on the street with your children is putting you in jeopardy of losing your children.You need to report your husband/have him arrested for domestic violence.So that you and your children can go home.The police.The court .The division of family/children services in your area will be able to help you.There is hope.There are people .Who will help you?You just need to pick up the phone call the police?I hope you will take my advice and put an end to this abuse.
2006-12-12 16:18:27 · answer #8 · answered by noga 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is hope! there has to be hope...is there anyway you can get to your Id's while your husband is out of the house? do you have any family/friends near by to crash with for a while?? HANG IN THERE!!!!!!
Try a truckstop...for a shower.....so you can feed the baby...maybe someone will have some compassion and let you take a free shower!!!
GOOD LUCK...I am saying a prayer for you and your babies
xoxoxo
yes your doing the right thing....go to the police as some have suggested here so you can get some things and your ID
2006-12-12 14:52:36 · answer #9 · answered by celeste_moon 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree about enlisting the help of the police to escort you back to your house to get IDs and other personal belongings. Yes, you did the right thing, but I have no idea how you can proceed from here. There's gotta be someone somewhere willing to help you. Do you have no family or friends at all? There's gotta be someone who's help you can count on. I don't know if there's a way to put the kids in foster care until you can get back on your feet. Check your local churches for resources.
2006-12-12 14:56:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I agree go to the police station and have them take you back to get your ID...I am so sorry for you and your babies. There is someone out there to help. Where are you...find a social service office or something of that nature. I am sure there is a cab service that would help you out by getting you to an office. I wish there was a way I could help you, I would. I am going to pray that God will make a way for you and your babies. God Bless and Keep you safe and provide for you.
2006-12-12 14:57:51 · answer #11 · answered by ransdoll90 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋