does she not have her own life style?
cannot she decide things according to her will?
2006-12-12 06:35:36 · 43 answers · asked by Aleena 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you are your own person screw your mother in law. you dont have to "obey" anything she says. you can take it in consideration but you dont have to do anything she tells you. and if she insists that you do something and if you dont wanna do it then tell her "im sorry but i am thinking about doing something else" dont be afraid of her.
i thought the same way when i got married and let me tell you, youll be extremely un happy if you do everything she says. yes older woman are "wiser" but sometimes you need to do your own thing. you need to figure your own style and own lifestyle
2006-12-12 06:46:50 · answer #1 · answered by jrs wife! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you serious... You are your own person you do not have to obey anyone. Why do you think so many couples write thier own vows.. The obey part is a little extreme. No one owns another person and to obey makes you feel like a animal. That you have to obey your master.. So here it is.. You did not marry your mother in law. Yes you married into her family but she is not your keeper. What needs to happen is the wife needs to stand her ground. Put her foot down so to speak. The mother in law needs to get a clue and understand that you have and are entitled to your own life as a married couple and that she is not in charge. You have your own mind and therefore need to use it. It is your life not hers. I have a wonderful mother in law who's opionon matters to me but it is my marriage and my life. I respect her dearly but I will make my own decisions when it comes to my family and it's well being. Your mother in law sounds over bearing and off her rocker. And if your spouse condones this they need to get a grip and support you in standing up to the mother in law... You are an adult and there is such a thing as free will... Good Luck
2006-12-12 09:16:53 · answer #2 · answered by codiesmama5 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If wives obeyed the mil the husband should have just stayed with his mother and committed incest. MIL's always think they know what is best. Mine is always making comments but I learned to quickly put her in her place as did my husband. She can't stand it but after 8 years she is starting to realize she has not choice and no say and if she ever wants to have her grand kids in her life she'd best stay in her place. She lost her other daughter in law and her first and so far only grand child because she was such a bi***. She won't like your being in control but she needs to see it and hear it or things will just get worse.
2006-12-12 06:45:09 · answer #3 · answered by Love to Love 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What country are you in? In the U.S. We try to be friends with our mothers in law, but we don't obey anybody. Marriages are like partnerships. We share the work, the fun, and the love. Nobody obeys anyone.
2006-12-12 06:50:10 · answer #4 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No the wife does not have to obey anyone, not even the husband, everyone is equal and should be treated as such. No one owns anyone. The only person we should obey and that is God
2006-12-12 11:07:59 · answer #5 · answered by rockandrollrev 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good heavens, no!! Listen as politely as you can to her advice, or whatever you want to call it, but stand your ground. Try to keep things friendly, tension between you and your mother-in-law would make things uncomfortable all around, especially for your husband. You might consider picking your battles, agree with her on small things that are not really very important to you, but hang tough on the things that matter. Good luck!
2006-12-12 06:41:57 · answer #6 · answered by harlowtoo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A wife does not have to obey ANYTHING her mother in law tells her.
2006-12-12 06:37:55 · answer #7 · answered by mayihelpyou 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Did it say in you're vows that you had to obey...... The mother in law???? I know mine didn't even say I had to obey him!!!! LOL
NO!!! you don't have to obey her, but if you're husband is expecting you to or telling you to, then the real problem is not with the mother in law at all. Is it?? Good Luck!!!!
2006-12-12 06:40:56 · answer #8 · answered by dreamteam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, a decent mother-in-law wouldn't boss you around and definitely should NOT be butting in to your house and trying to control the way you run things. It's your house and your marriage... you do what you want with it... you're married to your husband... not your husband and his mother. The vows only included the both of you. Personally, I would talk it over with my husband, he needs to be the one to stand up to his mother. It is so common for a crazy mother-in-law to ruin a marriage... Don't let it happen to yours.
2006-12-12 06:43:17 · answer #9 · answered by Mar 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who told you you had to obey your MIL? That is a LIE!!! Live your life with your husband as you two see fit. Not according so someone elses guidelines.
2006-12-12 06:41:59 · answer #10 · answered by Poppet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋