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I am 16 weeks pregnant and 5 feet tall. I am gaining weight now , about 8 lbs, and I have a co worker that say things about my weight gain. Having had an eating disorder in the past - this really hurts my feelings. What can I say to her?

2006-12-12 06:30:12 · 28 answers · asked by #1mommietwice 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting Pregnancy

I said something to her and she apoligized.. I think my hormones are getting the better of me. :)
Thanks

2006-12-12 08:49:03 · update #1

28 answers

Kiss my a$# only after you have put ex-lax in her coffee.

2006-12-12 06:32:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3 0

Hi honey. First of all do they mean to be nasty or is it your hormones playing havoc? Especially as you've suffered from an eating disorder, weight's a very sensitive issue for you. I know when I was pregnant, I liked hearing I'd put on weight, it made it seem more real and I quite liked the attention if I'm honest. Could they be trying to comfort you by implying the baby seems healthy? If they really are being horrible then make a complaint. It's hard enough being pregnant without having to put up with bullies at work. Do they say things around other people or only when you two are alone? Good luck, hope things get better for you Xx

2006-12-12 06:41:43 · answer #2 · answered by Velvet_Goth 5 · 1 1

This happened to me, but only in a [slightly] funnier context. I have morning sickness really bad. One day after we had all gone out for lunch, I came back and threw up (it happens nearly every time I eat). So, these girls gave me a really dirty look, like they thought I was bulimic. Once they found out I was pregnant, they felt like total jackals. Does your coworker know your pregnant? If not, a subtle stab at her might be to wear one of those obnoxious t-shirts with "baby" written on it and an arrow pointing down. Or you could always create your own at cafepress.com that says "I'm not fat, I'm pregnant". That'll get the hint across!

2006-12-12 07:26:09 · answer #3 · answered by poohb2878 6 · 0 0

well tell them you are pregnant NOT fat and if they don't stop report them to your boss. seriously they can't talk to you that way. its rude and uncalled for. me i'm 5'9" and last month when i went to the dr I was 25 weeks and had gained pretty much 21 pounds. I am now 166lbs. Lets see first visit was like 5 then 5 more then 11 now this last time 6 pounds in one month! from here n out i'm supposed to gain like 1 pound a week. and i have already wet over my weigh amount. i'm not big at all its all baby so tell them to kiss your grits!

2006-12-12 06:39:35 · answer #4 · answered by Kimi is 31 weeks 1/7 w/#2! 3 · 0 0

Just say " You know, I really would appreciate if you would not make comments about my weight". Let them know you are pregnant, that's why you're gaining weight.

It not a wise*ss comment or anything and probably if you are around other people when you tell the coworker that, it's going to make them feel 3 inches tall.
Remember, you're better than them, so you don't have to say anything rude back. Don't stoop to their level.

2006-12-12 06:35:58 · answer #5 · answered by cajun24 5 · 2 0

i will see the two aspects of the situation... i will see that this woman is in order that excited and wound up approximately her being pregnant that she is in simple terms bursting to tell all and sundry approximately it all the time, and her exhilaration over her very own being pregnant is inflicting her to ignore approximately your chum Mary's situation... on the different hand, she is an grownup who must be giving some concept into what she is asserting. it incredibly is nice to be excited and happy, yet once you're complaining, or interrupting artwork, or being insensitive to somebody else, she needs to earnings. i think of you would be able to have been purely slightly too harsh, yet reckoning on her character it incredibly is precisely what she desires. If this woman is quiet for right here couple of days or so, then what you have stated would have sunk in. My wager is that her exhilaration made her oblivious to the different co-workers and their circumstances. although, if she comes back and is greater stressful than ever than perhaps she knows she's been stressful from the get-pass. i'm hoping she gets greater effective approximately this. in case you spot that she will become quiet or looks style of down, you ought to to talk to tell her there are not any annoying thoughts and perhaps even think of of offering an apology to your tone. you will in simple terms would desire to play it by using ear! even nevertheless i think of you have been harsh, i do no longer think of that the action itself replaced into incorrect. If I had my zipper down, i might opt for to comprehend! If I have been being stressful and did no longer comprehend it, i might opt for to comprehend. perhaps you have achieved her a choose!

2016-10-05 05:40:01 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0 0

Speak to her and tell her that your weight and its management are not up for discussion, debate or speculation by anyone at anytime. If she persists, go to your immediate supervisor and lodge a formal complaint because this is not only an invasion of your privacy but constitutes harassment and a hostile work environment.

2006-12-12 06:41:59 · answer #7 · answered by Holly 2 · 0 0

Bill had a good answer! Ask her if you gaining weight due to your pregnancy which uncontrollably happens.....if that is what your work concerns of then tell her you will gladly take her to discuss it with your boss.
If you ahve asked her to keep her comments to herself and asked her to stop, that is harrassment in the workplace...go to your HR department and turn her in for harrassment on you being preggo.
I was in a job that was stressful like that the first 2 months of my pregnancy....they were horrible and it puts stress on you which you DONT need. They made sexual comments towards me the whole time i worked there and one guy even drank out of drinks i had on my desk for lunch...i asked them to stop and they never did so techniqually if i had money i could nail them to the wall. i let it slide and jsut got another job i wish now that i would have stuck up for myself ...they caused me to stress and loose weight in my first trimester....please dont let them do that to you!!
Stay eating healthy and taking your prenatals...stick up for yourself and let them know you dont have to put up with their crap!
This is a happy time! Congrats

2006-12-12 06:39:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

ingore her and be happy with ur baby! :] dont let her make u feel bad, she probably jealous u are pregnant! dont worry all woman are pregnant are beautiful as always no matter what if loss or gaint weight, remember stay happy and dont listen what people else said to u and make ur baby healthly. Good luck

2006-12-12 07:00:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

if she tells you weird things that means either she is a moron or she is just jelous since u r preg and people around you and her care about u.
tell her off and she will never tell u anything.

my manager was a little weird in the start when i was 12 weeks preg but once i told her and from then she cares about me. now i am in my 5th month.

so try it...

2006-12-12 06:35:47 · answer #10 · answered by farah2968 3 · 1 0

Go to your manager or human resources person and request that something be done. That is technically assualt and your workplace will be legally liable if they do not help you to make your coworker stop.

2006-12-12 06:48:47 · answer #11 · answered by jenn_smithson 6 · 0 0

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