My husband has 2 kids from a previous relationship and I have 1 from a previous relationship. I moved 100 miles south of my hometown & family so that my hubby could live near his kids. We have tickets to a ballgame and will be out of town for a couple days and we need someone to keep my son overnight while we're gone. My parents don't get to see my son much and they want to keep him so I asked my hubby if he'd take him there and he said no, it was too far. Ok, I work about 8 hours a day and have to drive 1 hr & 15 min. to get there. My hubby only works about 5 hours a day and gets paid for his driving time. He is home much earlier than me. He says he has to be back home in time to take his son to ball practice which I offered to take him cause i'll be home by then. He says I'm just feeling sorry for myself because he won't help me out. I thought in marriage you were suppose to help one another?
2006-12-12 06:29:02 · 20 answers · asked by rideabanjopicker 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm glad he doesn't have to work hard and long but i just wish he'd help me out when he could since i don't have it as easy as he. Am I wrong for feeling this way?
2006-12-12 06:32:44 · update #1
yes, i know i asked this question before but i explained it a little better this time. Earlier everyone thought that I needed a full time babysitter that was 100 miles away. I just need my mom to keep him for a couple days while we're out of town.....that's why i asked this question again
2006-12-12 06:36:16 · update #2
Yeah marriage is completely a partnership. Did he miss the boat on that one? That's unfair to you, since you are the one in this situation who works longer. I think that you need to tell him its really he who is feeling sorry for himself. You have obviously given him the more "logical" approach to the situation. You should def talk to him about this. It seems as if he wants you to make all the sacrifices.
2006-12-12 06:33:34 · answer #1 · answered by steffo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that's a great idea since they don't see him much n yes in any relationship u need to work together and learn to compromise and he is being unfair.I would be upset as well.Try once more and tell him u want your son with your mom say exactly what u have said on here and if he doesn't then i believe he is the one with the problem n it should be dealt with.If he doesn't like your mom or whatever his problem is he needs to deal with it and move on or this can very well be the beginning of the end.It goes both way and u r very willing to take his son but honestly I would go to your moms and maybe stay there with your son n let him go on his own.Do that if he doesn't compromise with you.
2006-12-12 07:05:14 · answer #2 · answered by too4barbie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't seem to be unsuitable for feeling the way in which you do. However, you're unsuitable for those who count on your husband to difference. If he refuses to support together with your son too then there relatively is not a wedding there. When 2 households mix in combination, each dad and mom take accountability for all kids worried. He appears to be skipping out to your son. You have got to ask your self if that is the way you wish to are living considering the fact that he is not budging in this. Your husband will hold telling you that you're feeling sorry for your self so long as you place up with what he's doing and ***** approximately it. Either positioned your foot down, or kick him to the diminish. Good good fortune.
2016-09-03 17:41:13 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is a loser, sorry you picked him. He is only out for himself, and doesn't even care about you or your child. I had one like that too, so don't feel bad. You are right, a married couple should help each other out. Married life is not a one sided thing. It takes two to make a good marriage, both giving and receiving. He is only taking from you sweetie. I have a feeling you don't even get to see your parents as much as you do his if at all. I would be interested to know what your parents think of him as well.
2006-12-12 06:41:54 · answer #4 · answered by Fruit Cake Lady 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, if that is all he has to do, I do not understand why he would not wish to take your child to your parents. Marriage is supposed to be a working partnership and if all is as you say...sounds to me more like you are willing to compromise and he refuses to with a pretty slim excuse. As far as your comment about him getting paid for driving...that is for his work, not his personal commitments. Let that part go. Sounds like money is the issue there. Sit down and talk (not yell) with him regarding your feelings. If worse comes to worse, seek a marriage counselor as a neutral party. You both seem to have issues that may become worse over time and need to iron them out before they become battles which end in divorce.
Hope this helps you.
2006-12-12 06:36:31 · answer #5 · answered by ladyemberrose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should refuse to go with your husband to the ballgame and spend some quality time with your son. Or better yet, spend some quality time with your parents and your son for a couple of days. It seems to me that your husband doesn't understand how to be in a relationship.
2006-12-12 06:48:42 · answer #6 · answered by kandekizzez 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You`re not feeling sorry for yourself, you have a husband that doesn`t or won`t help out. I can`t see things changing, but they have to for your sake.
You need to try and talk to your husband to see if you can work this out, If not then you`ll either have to put up with his selfishness or go and stop with your parents for a few days while you can think what your next move is, perhaps this may give him a wake up call.
2006-12-12 06:47:40 · answer #7 · answered by Tatty 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think this is par for the course with this man. He really doesn't give a damn about you son, he cares about his kids only. Did he ever try to talk you out of moving YOUR kid 100 miles away from his father? Or was he just happy that he could be close to his? You married a selfish man.
2006-12-12 06:32:21 · answer #8 · answered by Princess~C 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i ahte to tell you this , but your husband sounds like such a jerk. what a person i am telling you. a marriage is a comminment to help each other out, in good time and bad. it does not matter what child needs the time or the attention it should be done by both parents, not with favortizied because of who's child it is.
you really need to talk to your husband, i dont like what i am hearing. if he honestly thinks that you are just being helpless well then he is just being selfish for his own actions.
2006-12-12 06:34:55 · answer #9 · answered by lasalle_1986 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No I don't see why he can't do this for you. After all it is only a practice that he will be missing not a game. Unless the mother of his children has an issue with you about taking there kids someplace without him.
Maybe this is the reason why he isn't with his ex anymore.
2006-12-12 06:40:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋