I dont know whats wron with me, My husband can the nicest man in the world but there are times when he is the worst person! he makes me feel guilty of everything he is still learning english and he tellos me its my fault he hasnt learned it till now because I dont teach him and that he hasnt been able to use his palm organizer that I gave him because I havent shown him how to use it.. etc stuff like that... I really try my best and it hurts me that he doesnt recognize what I do and have done for him. hes 33 and Im 21.
Is it really my fault? we both have 2 full time jobs. so its not like I stay at home and do nothing like his mother who lives with us for free.
The worst part is that he gets really mad when i cry, and I swear I try the hardest for my tears not to fall but I cant I think im very sensible. what can I do to try to be stronger and not cry and to able to put up with this.
2006-12-12 06:26:04 · 9 answers · asked by ♥*´`*•. mommy♥*´`*•. 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
There is nothing wrong with you. Women are sensitive and it's alright to cry.
(I had a time where my father was dying and he told me that I was not allowed to cry, only he was allowed. That was hard. What helped me not to cry was to sing '100 bottles of beer on the wall' in my head. It is a long song and it kept my mind busy and off of crying.)
As far as the situation with your husband. Maybe he is having problems with the language barrier. Or maybe there are problems at work. You need to sit down (without yelling) and find out what is on his mind.
If all else fails, maybe you should go to a counselor or speak with someone at your place of worship for guidance.
2006-12-12 06:39:57 · answer #1 · answered by Amanda B 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would not want your life for anything in the world. You cry because he is yelling at you and he gets mad? I am angry with this guy just by reading your post. You work 2 full time jobs, and he isn't satisfied? He needs a slap in the face. If he was any kind of real man, he would console you when you are upset, not further get mad at you. Why did you marry this guy?
2006-12-12 06:31:09 · answer #2 · answered by melouofs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband has issues... You need to stand up to him or he will treat you like this for as long as you are married and it will get worse..... You shouldn't feel bad for cryin because he is the one making you do it......
I would tell him to take classes to learn English and read the instructions to learn how to use things he is a grown man he needs to stop acting like a 3 year old.....
You work and do all you can... He is disrespecting you and hurting you so if he doesn't change his ways I would head to divorce court and get rid of his *** and find a man who will show respect and love the way you deserve...
Good Luck and I hope you find the answer that you need...
2006-12-12 06:32:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you married a man who controls you (or tries to) and blames you for everything he fails to do.
It's up to him to learn freakin' English and how to use his stuff. He might be thinking his age difference means he is the adult and you are the submissive child.
You need to be his wife and not his daughter and mother at the same time. You need to develop a backbone and fix this. He needs to do it to.
2006-12-12 06:34:40 · answer #4 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok first of all. the age factors in a lot. your husband should never get mad when you cry even if hes pissed at you. what u need to you is stop feeling sorry for your self and kick your pathetically excuse for a husband in the balls. you shouldnt have to put up with that.
second, it sounds like your trying to get approval from this guy. hes not your dad. you dont have to teach him a damn thing. if he wants to learn english tell him to go take a class.the reason he doesnt recognize what you do is because hes using you. he wants more from you. and sorry but in my opinion your stupid for staying with him. quit depending on him. and im not talking about you depending on him for money, your emotionally co dependent. you shouldnt have to "bestrong and deal" with him. he needs to be a man not a prissy little mamas boy. and if he wants to learn how to learn to get on his palm organizer then tell him this neat little piece of info "IT COMES WITH INSTRUCTIONS IN 3 OR DIFFERENT 4 LANGUAGES!!!!" quit being a slave, hes trating you like a servent not a wife. phu-lease kick this guy in the balls twice once for you and once for all woman. good luck
2006-12-12 06:39:17 · answer #5 · answered by jrs wife! 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Obviously he is very insecure. This is what is called emotional abuse. This will never get better and I suggest you get out while you can. Find a man that will respect you and love everything you do. They are out there, believe me.
2006-12-12 06:34:17 · answer #6 · answered by Sim 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well it not your fault so don;t blame your self for it and in time he will learn English on it own
2006-12-12 06:35:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Go to the doctor and talk to him ASAP you may be suffering from depression .
2006-12-12 06:29:55 · answer #8 · answered by Back Off Jack ! 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
talking helps. email me and i'll be a shoulder to cry on.
2006-12-12 06:54:45 · answer #9 · answered by JACK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋