My husband has started watching and downloading a LOT of porn. Our sex life is not what it used to be. We don't have sex as much as we used to. He says it is because he is getting older and it is his horomones (he just turned 37). He told me not to worry and that the porn is nothing. He is always at home so I'm not worried about that..YET. I just found out that he actually lied to me about how much he is watching so now I'm even more upset. I really just need an honest man's perspective on this. Thanks.
2006-12-12 06:14:00 · 25 answers · asked by glittrgrl69 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
YES... you have cause to worry! There is a name for what might be happening in your situation. It has to do with a man ( or woman, but I wouldn't think this would happen as often to a woman) who watches so much porn that they lose the ability and desire for the real thing! Let your husband know that you are concerned, and you might suggest counseling. That may sound extreme to some, but if it isn't nipped in the bud, you may lose your husband and marriage to the internet land of porn. Good luck with this.. it's an addiction just like drugs or gambling. It may not be easy for him to stop, and it may take drastic measures such as shutting off the internet to your home, but with support from you, he should do fine.
2006-12-12 06:23:18 · answer #1 · answered by themom 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋
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2016-07-24 11:26:15 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every husband will look at porn. Its not an indicator at all actually because even if i was married to the most beautiful woman in the world, i'd still need my "alone time" where i can just go at my own relaxed pace and think etc. Porn is just there to make it easier because how else do you masturbate as a guy wihout visual stimuli? 1 once a week sex however is a little concerning...
2016-05-23 00:11:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My b/f is 39 and our sex life is GREAT as long as he leaves OUT the porn! If he j*cks off then he can't get an erection for a while later...sometimes not till the next day! At first when we met he could 3-4 times in a 24 hr period...but now (4 yrs later) I'm lucky to get it 3 times a week! He lets his emotions rule his sex drive. Perhaps if he just looked at the porn he would be "up" for more sex with ME?! Men, and boys, are hooked on the sight of naked women...what can we do about that? We, as women, are hooked on an attractive man telling us how sexy and beautiful we are. --and attractive is in the eye of the beholder. Try posing for some of your OWN porn and give them to him for Christmas! Good luck!
2006-12-12 06:24:30 · answer #4 · answered by wintermiss 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well let me just tell you what happened in my situation. 4 yrs. ago when I met my husband it was just a few magazines once in a while. Then he started tearing out certain pics and hiding other magazines that he knew I didn't like him looking at. From there it went to buying movies and hiding them as well. All the while, lying about the whole thing and being deceptive. Now he has graduated to registering for about 10 different online dating sites(that i know of at this time) and he has a "my space" with (at last look) he had 68 "friends" All of which are VERY slutty and to which he gives comments that no married man should give to another woman! So i guess what im sayin is that in my case (and many others i know of) one thing leads to another. Im probably not going to stay married much longer and I hope your situation doesn't lead to this. Try talkin to him if possible but if he's lying about it theres probably more than you know.
2006-12-12 07:24:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Good Question! My husband watches a lot of porn, but we also have a lot of sex often 3 or more times a day and I can still find him watching porn. However, I watch a lot of porn too and often I just join him when I find him watching it. I find it is easier to get him to be with me if I walk in naked and start ummm, doing what I see on tv. Hormones my a**. If he is interested enough to watch the porn and jack off he is lying to you about something. Most likely his interest has changed and therefore things need to be shaken up on your marriage. That is what my husband says. I bet if your actions changed and you started making yourself feel sexier and started dressing and acting differently or let him catch you watching porn and even masturbating it would light a fire under him that can not be quenched!
2006-12-12 06:34:27 · answer #6 · answered by Love to Love 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Since you are married to him, I would hope he would be able to be satisfied by your sex life alone. I would suggest talking about any changes that either of you may have had in regards to your outlook on sex with each other. I wouldn't be worried about a tiny amount of porn, but if it truly is a lot on top of the fact that your sex life is not going so well, I might suggest getting some help from a professional.
2006-12-12 06:20:54 · answer #7 · answered by Danielle 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Girl...if you don't want him watching porn...then get your thoughts across him. Nag if you must, scream if you must, lecture if you must, give him the silent treatment if you must. Just because the whole world thinks that it's alright for your spouse to watch porn doesn't mean that it's okay. Stand up for what you believe in. If you want a honest husband, make sure he knows how big of a deal it is for you as well as him watching porn. Don't settle just because you don't want to have problems in your marriage life. Make him see that you won't tolerate that stuff. I don't understand why husband should be watching porn when they have their wife. How I see it, when they watch porn, it's like they're desperate for another women's body. Where's the love in that? It's alright if you watch it together...for fun or to learn different moves but not because one of you wants to be fantasizing about some other women. That's just wrong in my book. Good luck to you!
2006-12-12 07:51:39 · answer #8 · answered by pangfvlx 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I'm not a man, but I am a 42 year old woman and I can tell you that a man watching porn is very, very common. I wouldn't worry about it. The more you presure him about it, the more he is going to try to hide it. Watch it with him, and be more accepting, it just may work out to both of your better interests, if you know what I mean!
2006-12-12 06:34:07 · answer #9 · answered by kandekizzez 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You want an honest man's answer here it is.If he's getting older & blaming hormones, that's B.S. He's still wondering if it still works. Talk to him about seeing his doctor & getting some Viagra or something like it, he's at that age where E.D. comes into play. Also, maybe start watching with him, you might be suprised at the results. When you're married for awhile, sex is never what it used to be. You have to find ways to spice them up, as long as you both agree on it. Good Luck!!!!
2006-12-12 06:29:03 · answer #10 · answered by dumbdago 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋