ok i am 22 an was with my ex for six years until he cheated on me when i was pregnant with our child, i forgave him for that. but it happen again after she was born with the same girl an got her pregnant. I ended it with him haven seen or heard from in over 3 months untill few days ago out of the blue. he was saying how he missed me an loved me. keep in mind he still with the other girl who is due any day now. He is calling me trying get me to meet him somewhere so we can talk alone cause when he calls its never about our baby its always sweet talking me. I think he just trying get in my pants. I need advice on what to do. This is so stressfull on me. Any advice from women who have been in simular situation please help
2006-12-12 06:10:45 · 9 answers · asked by Christy R 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Send him down a tube. All he is looking for is another piece of ***. He is not ready to settle down with anyone. Learn from your first experience and tell him to take a hike.
2006-12-12 06:19:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband of 3 months at the time cheated on me with someone from another country while i was 4 months pregnant, I decided to forgive him and move on.... it has been great... in your case, bc he did it again and basically left you high and dry...... DO NOT meet with him..... get a lawyer and protect yourself and your child.
2006-12-12 06:21:40 · answer #2 · answered by maria p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like to me when things get a little "too real", he runs. If you take him back he'll eventually get freaked out by the responsibilty of being a parent and run off with someone new.
I would take others advice and just get on with doing what you need to do to protect your children. Get support ordered and raise your child by yourself. it sounds like regardless if he's in the picture or not you would be doing it by yourself anyways.
2006-12-12 06:19:35 · answer #3 · answered by snippers72 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, why are you still talking to him on a personal level? He's just trying to juggle you both. Hopefully, you are getting child support from this guy. If not, hire an attorney or mediator ASAP. And tell him to stop calling you unless he wants to speak to your child.
2006-12-12 06:15:51 · answer #4 · answered by Christabelle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I been in your situation big time. Don't take this man back. If you do your going to be unhappy and your not going to trust him AT ALL! If you do I greeted this man is going to run back in forth. From your bed to hers. Right now in his life I bet the realty of a another child and another women in his life is getting to him, so the wipe is trying to get over there with you for he can rest from his problems over their with her and when hes ready to go back he going to leave you again, because you know he has to see the baby and be at the hospital, hes excuses are going to go on and on. And when he tried of being with you he will go back over there too. And him missing you I believe he does but he not going to stay with you frith fully. After 6yrs am sure he still has feelings for you. But girl I am telling out of experience, this man is not right for you. Move on. I know its hard. I stood in a marriage for 10 yrs and the last 2 yrs he keeping cheating on me with the same girl and my first marriage of 10yrs he did that too but he had a girl pregnant and I was 3 months pregnant with our daugther, you see how your situations is similar to my past life. Take advice from someone who been there. He won't change. Leave it alone and go on. You need to tell him look if your going to call ask about your child. Just the other day my ex of 10yrs called me at work and try that ****. I love you, your my family etc... and he knows I have somebody new in my life now, he didn't care, but I told him you cannot call me and say that to me I will hang up, and did. He called back (at my job) about 7 times.I told him if you have anything to tell me it better be about are child, only. Because want he did I can't go back. In don't get me wrong I did take him back like 10 times. That's way am telling you all he going to do is run from bed to bed. Finally I drew the line in the sand and said no more. I finally went on with my life and am in great relationship and his great to my kids. Were very happy. And if you take this man back your going to be unhappy and soon or later your child is going to be walking on egg shells. One day daddy here and next day he gone and on and on please read ten stupid things women do to mess up their lives by Dr Laura C. Schlessinger its easy reading I think you can learn off this book. Your young and I would hate to see or hear that a person as young as you would waste yrs off your life. Please do the right thing.
2006-12-12 06:51:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take advice from a guy that learned his lesson (what goes around, comes around) DON'T go back to him. Move on!!!
2006-12-12 06:25:47 · answer #6 · answered by c w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hun u answered ur own question...all he wants is a piece of azz dont give it to him...plan and simple make him pay child support for ur daughter and tell him to leave u alone.
2006-12-12 06:15:36 · answer #7 · answered by Michele 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go and meet him....with his new girlfriend at your side.
it took some convincing on my part to the new girlfriend, but she really couldn't resist seeing the proof for herself.
2006-12-12 06:17:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont bother with him.... he not worth your time
2006-12-12 09:31:42 · answer #9 · answered by fire_red_fly38 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋