He rather spend time with his friends than take care of you when you are sick. He doesn't give a damn even though you call him all night and cut yourself so that he will come and see you. Yet, he still say I love you and say that he is sorry.
2006-12-12 06:07:15 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
First you need to get love and let go. Most importantly you need to learn to love yourself. How can you say you love yourself if you're cutting yourself for another human? If you're sick and he's not coming to your aid its because he wants you to see the bigger picture that it isn't nothing going on and obviously he wants to be free.
Worst case scenario: Seek counseling. Because if you're willing to endanger your self for his attention chances are you're willing to hurt him as well for not showing love back to you. Don't turn into a stalekr chick -- seeking attention from someone who doen't want it.
Love should be a beautiful thing that makes you feel alive not miserable. Find that someone who is going to love you and fulfill your needs.
2006-12-12 06:17:07 · answer #1 · answered by CeCe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy you're with doesnt sound very dedicated to you or the relationship but maybe there are underlying issues here. There seems to be alot of missing information here so when it comes to advice on your relationship its hard to give much. Really you need to start concentrating on getting yourself healthy. Cutting yourself is a sure sign that you are struggling with some serious issues yourself which puts any relationship you're in more strained and difficult. The best way to improve your life and this relationship is to start with yourself. Seek out medical help and a family member or friend you can trust. The only way you can get the help you need is to be completely honest with those trying to help you. This honesty puts them in a position to provide you with the best advice and help they can give. Please understand that you need to love yourself more than you love this guy. Treat yourself as you would him. Be there for YOU! If you really want things to possibly work out with this guy then get yourself together and I guarantee you will at the least up your chances when it comes to this relationship. The funny thing is that once you get yourself straight you may find that you dont really need him like you thought you did. Put yourself first and maybe he will gain a new respect for you and if not then you're much better off anyways. I know you feel weak right now but hold on and find your strenghth to stand up for you and know that if you seek help and treat yourself like you want him to treat you then things WILL get better.
2006-12-12 06:37:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't LOVE you nor is he sorry. Sorry means you won't do it again. Hurting yourself is NOT the way to get anyone to love you. There are mental health centers all across America. Check out your local mental health center, make an appointment and dump him. You deserve better than that, do not let him string you along anymore.
2006-12-12 06:11:35 · answer #3 · answered by SHERRI 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I could never be this pathetic. Sounds like you have no self-esteem or self-respect - no wonder you can't elicit respect in other people. You have to be independent, and live life for yourself. Then you will attract people who value you and treat you well. For as long as you have no sense of self-worth, others will not see you as worthy, and you will be constantly walked on.
2006-12-12 06:13:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well he may like you but he just has a funny way of showing it... but from what i can see is that he could just care less about you. i could be wrong but that is where i am getting it because i used to be in a realationship like that and he could give a damn less about me. and plus if someone is going to force you to hurt your self in physical ways such as cutting yourself then their not worth it. and i know it is hard to get over someone like that but you have to realize that if you dont let go of it now, it will just get harder.
2006-12-12 06:20:28 · answer #5 · answered by Jay C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that we are dating the same person... lol
I know how you feel. I have been there.
I think that if he treats you like that then he doesn't' truly care about. you.
Mine didn't
You have to do what right for you honey and find some one that is going to be there for you...... More importantly someone that wants to be there for you .
Best of luck to you
2006-12-12 06:12:55 · answer #6 · answered by heather_honey_2002hs 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl you need to move on. Hes not worth your time. Find someone who respects you and deserves your love! Good luck!
2006-12-12 06:38:53 · answer #7 · answered by steffo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You stop loving him so much and learn to take care of yourself.
2006-12-12 06:11:09 · answer #8 · answered by lara 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u cut urself to get him to notice u then u have some serious problems and u need to see a counselor right away...nobody is worth bodily harm so that they will notice u...if u have to do dangerous things to get his attention then apparently u need to kick his azz outta ur life and find someone that will appreciate u for who u are...good luck
2006-12-12 06:11:16 · answer #9 · answered by Michele 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him. He is just using you. He knows you love him and will be their when he needs you. But he is never their when you need him is a one way relationship. Stop it and find someone who wants you as much as you want them.
2006-12-12 06:14:06 · answer #10 · answered by harold 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋