i would like to know why you got in it and if still are or are not.
Tahnks and be honest.
2006-12-12 06:07:05 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Here's why we got into it.. We were curious. My husband wondered what it would be like to watch me with another man/woman. At first I was totally against it. But after the first time I am loving it. Yes there alot of pro/cons as to why or why not. It takes a strong marriage and you have to be comfortable with yourself. If you are insecure in anyway this is not a lifestyle to be in. If there are any jealousy at all it will not work. It's not about loving the other couple/man/woman you are with. It's about adventure and having fun. There are clubs and websites you can find that can give you more info for your paper. There are ground rules that you and your partner have to set before going into this. You also have to be picky to a point. You have to have standards. There are alot of scary people out there and you have to feel safe and secure. There is one couple that we have been together with and have formed a wonderful friendship out of it. It's not just about sex.. Yes that is 99% of it.. But it's about friendship and respect. People somestimes have a negative view on this lifestyle. But ask yourself this.. Why??? Most feel that if you are married than why be with someone else.. Don't you feel as if you are cheating? The answers are this.. Who said you had to have sex with just one person for the rest of your life. Why do you think people cheat and divorce. If you can be open and trust one another than it's the better.. I'm not saying it's for everyone either. It's a choice you make as a couple. Also discreetion is an absolute must. We feel that what happens in our bedroom is our personnal business and that our family and close friends do not need to know. So all in all it's about curiousity and respect and to enjoy one another. You only live once so why not be open to fun and new things.. And that is why we did and our enjoying the swing lifestyle.
2006-12-12 06:44:23 · answer #1 · answered by codiesmama5 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to define your paper a little more. Are swinging couples ones who go out and pick up some one in a bar and have a threesome on occasion or are they the one who choose it as a lifestyle. There are differences.
As far as the second ones - they are into it because it is a lifestyle, not just an occasional fling. They think differently and have a different view of life. The first type usually end up having a lot of problems and are part of the 50% divorce rate. The second type usually have a very low divorce rate - under 10%. You have to trust your partner to an extreme to allow them to have sex with some one else. It is called unconditional love - some one talked about it some 2000 years ago.
We do it because we have a strong relationship. If you get into to try and save your marriage or think you need a kick start for your bedroom chances are you are doomed to fail. But for those who are strong and comfortable in their relationships it is an added dimension that cannot be achieved any other way. Curiosity is the main reason successful couples get into it. and I have been familiar with it for more than 40 years and was familiar with couples who had been in it for more than 40 years - 40 years ago. Those people who do get into it - probably 90% - stay with it for a long time. The people in it are trustworthy people - they have to be especially because of the rules, and any good club has rules they enforce rigorously. Many times you end up with life long friends whether you continue to have sex or not.
2006-12-12 06:22:01 · answer #2 · answered by bocasbeachbum 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Had Australia taken a a million-zero lead right here, they might consider the direction to comply with might seem beautiful secure as its continuously tough to comeback for the competition staff from a deficit. Australia gave it their all and can consider annoyed via the effect. Its now not handy to participate in like that every day. So England might be very relieved that they blocked a whole force punch from Australia. No query Australia outplayed England within the complete fit however it is going to be England with a extra confident body of brain going into the following scan. I do not believe the truth that England have received two starting fits in final 12 sequence issues a lot, as its a brand new sequence and instances are exceptional everytime. Here it used to be relatively major that England do not supply the sequence result in Australia considering the fact that this Aussie staff is well in capitalising. For the viable alterations - Monty will play, he is the favorite participant of England leadership and via scuffling with out for eleven overs the day gone by, he have to have received many extra enthusiasts. Though his bowling wasn't a lot specified, however then nobody from English bowlers played fine. So he will get a risk. Not certain approximately Broad however yeah he is inconsistent and your favorite Harmison (if hasn't beyond his top lol) must are available in. I learn that he is acting good in home cricket. Australia must cross unchanged. Their bowlers played beautiful good in this type of wicket and Mitchell Johnson is their major bowler, they may not drop him and Lee might not be to be had for second scan. Clark would supply style to the assault however his substitute - Ben Hillfenhaus has had a best fit. So if Australia installed Clark they would choose to take out Siddle. Personally i used to be inspired from Siddle specifically his attacking procedure and the best way he unsettled the batsmen along with his bouncers. (Swann have to be having a nightmare lol)
2016-09-03 13:44:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just a tip: you won't find much reliable information on here. Try SwingersBoard (see link below)
Why did we get into it? Because we can. It's not a need, it's just a really cool addition to our sex life. Also, it has really deepened our relationship and improved us as individuals. It forces you to confront your true nature...and demons. You have two choices: fix your problems or lose your mind. It's not for wimps.
We're currently not swinging right now (3 1/2 years of monogamy, so that takes care of the myth that "you can't go back") but that's just due to life becoming too busy. Hoping to get back into it soon though...gotta get back on the weight bench first!
2006-12-13 14:17:15 · answer #4 · answered by intuition897 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋