Ok a friend of mine her son cam home and said he was gay she asked me how to to respond what do I tell her
2006-12-12 06:02:48 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If she has to ask you how to respond to this news, I'm kind of sad for her. The kid just made a big scary leap of faith in his mom's ability to accept this and she basically said "I'll get back to you."
No, I wouldn't get mad. My son is my son, whatever he is or chooses to become or whoever he loves. He's stuck with me.
And if your kid comes to you with stuff like this, it's a vote of confidence in you as a parent. Deserve the vote.
2006-12-12 06:06:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why would she get mad?
How old is the son? If he is under 16 or 17, I would say that he may be confused b/c he is going through puberty and maybe is attracted to some other boys and experimenting.
If he is older than 16 or so, he's probably pretty sure of his homosexuality. She shouldn't get mad, she should figure out her best way of coping with it and be supportive.
2006-12-12 06:06:26 · answer #2 · answered by duritzgirl4 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, I wouldn't be angry. Your friend has to let her son know that there is nothing he could say, do, or be that would make her stop loving him. That it will take time but they will work through it together so that everyone involved has the life he/she wants with the family intact. Talk to him and let him know it's going to take some time for her to "wrap her head around it" and come to peace with it. I'm sure there is a type of "grieving" that a parent would go through. Kinda like losing the life you THOUGHT your son would have, and the life you thought would be once your son reached adulthood. Grandchildren, for example. Maybe they would need some counseling. I just know that although I never dreamed this for my children, I know there is nothing that would stop me from loving them or make me push them out of my life. Good luck and God Bless.
2006-12-12 06:19:00 · answer #3 · answered by N0_white_flag 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No ... never. Whatever sexual preference my child chooses ... does not change who he/she is ... my child, who I love more than life itself.
Tell your friend to tell her son, that she loves him ... and will be there for him, no matter what. Being a gay male is looked down upon much more so, than being a lesbian. When/if he "comes out" he'll need her support. If one can't rely on their parents for support, in their time of need ... who can they rely on?
When we give birth to our children ... the unspoken rule is that a parent loves that child unconditionally ...
2006-12-12 06:12:23 · answer #4 · answered by ♥Carol♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
getting mad will only hurt the parent child relationship.
try to understand and no matter what keep the lines of communication open.this may be a phase and in the end he will always need his mother.and she will always love her son if this is just simply the way he is well learn to deal with it talk to each other this could be a chance for them to grow closer than ever
2006-12-12 06:13:32 · answer #5 · answered by nichole k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-30 11:53:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no reason to show that you are mad, if indeed you are. You can potentially lose your child for forever if you don't at least try to support there decisions. My daughter told me she was bi and we discussed it like adults because I figured it was not easy for her to approach my wife and I. We did not want to make things more difficult than they already were for her.
2006-12-12 06:50:19 · answer #7 · answered by familysport 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone's opinions are going to vary on this one. Personally, I think the important thing is that the child is leading a happy, healthy life, regardless of who they choose to be with. Sexual orientation is really minimal in the big scheme of things.
2006-12-12 06:06:48 · answer #8 · answered by Duckie314 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her be supportive and loving. He is still her son and being gay or bi doesn't change that at all.
2006-12-12 06:04:44 · answer #9 · answered by momofmodi 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She observed every detail about him and had to know before he did, so the only reason she is asking you, is because it's a passive way of informing you to see what your reaction will be.
She wants to have her circle of friends to be accepting of her son.
2006-12-12 06:06:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋