me and my partner of 7 years have had a row last mon i cannot get hold of him, he has never ignored me like this before, i have texted him and left voicemails telling him to tell me if it is over, why cant he do that if it is??? he actually moved down south and i was supposed to go with him with our 4 yr old but i cannott leave my 16 yr old, he dosent want to go, if he dosent want me anymore why dosent he tell me and put me out of my mysery? or change his mobile number so i cant ring him if he dosent want me??? i am totally gutted and cant get over it!!!
2006-12-12 06:00:08 · 13 answers · asked by ann_jacques 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Hello again. Im sorry to hear that your partner has not been in touch with you. After all this time, it seems to me that he has simply had enough and run away from his problems. I do not know all of your details and I dont want to pry; but surely if he cared he would have been in touch by now? Dont send him anymore texts and leave it open, just like he has. Its very cruel that he has not let you know anything. As hard as it is going to be, you are going to have to get on with your life. You dont know if he still wants you, let alone wants you to join him down south. Even though your son is 16, he is still not old enough to fend for himself as such. If you went down south, do you know what kind of reception you would get, or what to expect when you get there? I think he knows that you wont leave your son on his own, and this was his get out clause. I dont think he has the courage to tell you straight. Try to get on with your life as normally as you possibly can under the circumstances. I know it is the not knowiing that is killing you, but the only thing you can assume at this moment in time is that it is over. Try to make some sort of life for yourself. It is amazing what a lot of difference a bit of time makes. Be brave, make the most of a bad situation and just see what is around the corner. Live each day at a time. 7 years is a long time to be with someone, and you are grieving at the moment. You may not think it now, but in time you could meet someone new, who will treat you much better. I had someone who left me after 5 yrs. I was gutted and thought that I wouldnt get over it, but I did; and I am with someone who I consider my soul mate. Being left by my ex was the best thing that ever happened to me. Your partner is missing out on his daughter, he is being very cruel. Try to be strong, and when and if he does eventually contact you; keep your cool and make it all on your terms. I wish you all the best!!!!!
2006-12-12 06:28:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-23 00:08:28 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe try a calm text message to tell him that you're really worried about him. Do you want it to be over? It sounds like you're asking him to confirm just that,not asking him if there is some way you can be reconciled. If you get clear in your own mind then maybe you can open up a communication he will respond to. Does he have a new job? you could write to him there - but don't phone him there as it will be difficult for him. If you sound angry then he may hide, if you love him , let him know. Talk to your 16 year old, you need him on your side. He needs to understand what is best for the whole family, not just him - or you could sort some way for him to be looked after there if he really won't budge (last resort - so don't tell him or threaten him).
Good luck
2006-12-12 06:09:18 · answer #3 · answered by Em 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I would take the hint. My husband left me recently and I should have done the smart thing 6 months before he left when he stopped calling. I should have called his daughters mother to come get her since he has no interest in his daughter whatsoever. So do yourself a favor and take the hint. You will find someone that is better for you.
2006-12-12 06:03:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let it go. Action speaks louder that words. By ignoring you, he is telling you that it's over. It can't get more obvious than that.
You got bigger, more important issues to handle, like taking care of your kids. Be sure you file for child support and take half his money. You may not deserve it, but your kids do.
2006-12-12 08:26:09 · answer #5 · answered by Sax M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to be harsh, but you really should be with him.
I think you must be a very good mother to put your son first, but what about your four year old too? Does that child not deserve to be with their father?
I think to him, it must look like you are happy to put your child with someone else first, which must hurt him. Of course your older sons needs are important, but you four together are a family, you with your children are a single parent, this is not a good thing!
I think you need to sit down with your older son and explain that he either becomes self sufficent or he is going with you. It will be hard for him, but he will adjust, and he will have his family together to help him.
Hope it works out for you.
2006-12-12 06:08:46 · answer #6 · answered by CHARISMA 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if ya gonna pander to ya 16 yr old wishes then you've no one to blame but yourself have ya really, be a grown up and tell ya kid cos he still is a kid at 16 that what you wanna do you will do. regards ya partner, he sounds as bad as ya 16 yr old.
2006-12-12 07:00:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried getting in contact with his family?
May be he just needs sometime to be alone and think.
Send him a text message and let him know how you feel.
I hope every thing works out well.
2006-12-12 06:06:02 · answer #8 · answered by lovechild 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well since you are the adult you should not let a 16 year old run your life. Now you don't have your partner
2006-12-12 06:02:49 · answer #9 · answered by Eyes of Green 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've asked this before and it was more than a week ago!
In the other one it was your 4 year old "daughter" who didn't want to go....hhm.
2006-12-12 06:04:37 · answer #10 · answered by mark leshark 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋