.....Anybody else with these problems??
2006-12-12 05:59:38 · 26 answers · asked by Beautiful 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
Hi sweety. Most women won't orgasm until in their 30's because you have to really learn your body and have to be able to trust the guy. It took me that long.
Many times women have them and aren't positive if that is what it was. That is because they vary in intensity and stuff. To me, most of them feel like spasms . Ever have a twitching muscle? Actually they are a lot like contractions. They come in waves of rythmic spasms. Mine are usually like 7 - 10 spasms one after the other and each one brings with it some euphoria or seratonin realease that feels really good and sometimes I shake all over.
You need to masterbate until you get to where you can come easily. Then once you get there, try and hold them back for a few minutes to get better ones. Get the swan or the rabbit ears vibrator from adam and eve or something. Those with clit stimulators are awesome. the others aren't too good so save your money and buy a nice one.
Or buy a shower massage with a long hose (we had to buy the hose separate and change the one it came with) so it is long enough you can lie in the tub or sit on it's edge and use waterplay on yourself. If you need an excuse for it, you like to be able to rinse your hair while bathing.
My experience was that once I learned what I needed, I was trying to figure out how to relate this to someone else. I mean when you are rubbing your clit and it gets too intense you let up, but someone else doesn't know when to let up. They don't know when to rub more to the left etc. So, you have to tell the guy to really watch your face and nipples etc to see when what he is doing is working. Tell him you might guide him with your hand at times when you know what you want and need.
There were so many times before I learned this that I was soooo close but they would change their rythm and I lost it. So, the important thing to remember is... your body will tell you what it needs and when and you have to get it what it needs when it needs it. So if your body wants your clit pinched and he isn't doing it.. do it. If your clit need to arch up and push into his hand do it.
2006-12-13 12:16:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with you! You will be shocked if you found out the statistics of ladies like you who don't orgasm. You are not alone - is an understatement.
The good news is, you are in control to change that! Very much so! It might be worth finding some professional information on the subject by your doctor, library, internet or close people you can trust in your family.
There are even people who say they orgasm when they never have. These people can't admit it so they are only lying to themselves.
Please don't assume that my girlfriend does not orgasm. LOL She does! She's lucky I think!
2006-12-12 06:06:20 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't say that 90% of you can't orgasm from sex alone, but it is a high number. Me personally I think you are all mental. You gotta learn to let yourself go and get into the moment. Stop worrying about other things and enjoy the feeling of intimacy at that moment. Don't be afraid to tell your partner what you like either. If it's good, it's going to be good whether you talk through it or not.
2006-12-12 06:03:43 · answer #3 · answered by LoLo B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It takes time for a lot of women to have an orgasm.
Intercourse is not the solution always.
It's easy for men to have them, and they sometimes forget about the woman!
Foreplay is a better solution. Get in touch with what makes you feel good, and leads you to an orgasm.
If you don't masturbate, have your boyfriend, stroke your nipples, kiss your breast, or your neck, or inside your vagina. Find your soft spots that make you tingle with excitement, before he enters you with his penis. It defenitly helps!
Krazy Libra
2006-12-12 06:04:27 · answer #4 · answered by krazy_libra_from_ac 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Although I don't suffer from this dilemma, I have heard it is a major problem among women. You should try different types of stimulation, especially before intercourse. i.e. masturbation, massage...etc.
Be sure you are telling your partner what is good, and focus your mind on the pleasure instead of the orgasm.
Also, you shoul dbe excercising your kegal muscles which are the muscles that contract during climax.
2006-12-12 06:08:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had my first child before my first orgasm, but once I had the first I learned what does it for me. Sometimes you can't just leave it up to the other person, every woman is different, you have to find what does it for you. Good luck!
2006-12-12 06:23:50 · answer #6 · answered by voidtillnow 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you can't AT ALL, not even for yourself, with assistance from BOB or any other way - you might wnat to see someone. Not so much because there is something wrong but because of what you are missing out on.
There are reasons, and seasons and all kinds of factors.
There are a number of other tatics you could try, mail me and we'll talk -
BOB = battery operated boyfriend for those of you who don't know
2006-12-12 06:05:00 · answer #7 · answered by Journey 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Some women never have an orgasm...its normal.
2006-12-12 06:09:27 · answer #8 · answered by LP's Mommy, RN 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My friend Cicc says go visit him when he gets back from Iraq. In the mean time, try to help yourself out, by yourself or while on top. LOTS of foreplay helps greatly and its fun.
2006-12-12 06:17:13 · answer #9 · answered by deeply interested 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Learn how to give yourself an orgasm and then you'll know what it takes and you can guide your partner.
2006-12-12 06:01:13 · answer #10 · answered by Sean 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋