What do I do? Dump his butt?
The women have no clue he's done this.
He spends like 3 to 4 hours a day on porn. He only gets an hour for lunch, but is supposed to be working the other 2-3 hours. He's a courier. They don't know how long it takes to make his deliveries. He's posted exotic chat ads, he's played games in email with his receptionist at work, he lies and lies. Is it time for me to lay down the ax? Even after he got busted on all this, he still plays me, and says he's afraid I might "hurt him" with some of this stuff.
2006-12-12 05:46:35 · 33 answers · asked by a_lot_smarter_now 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You can either leave the relationship and prepare yourself for the seperation for yourself or you can stick with him and accept this behavior that is not going to stop. It takes courage to leave. To stay, it takes a lot of stamina. You will have to play political wife and look the other way if you choose to remain in this type of relationship. It does not appear that he has any intention of stopping. You may want to consider your options and what is best for you.
2006-12-12 05:52:58 · answer #1 · answered by ☽☮★♥ Alphα Fєmmє Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-07-18 20:02:07 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds as if you have already made up your mind. He does not sound as if he wants to change. At this point, you are technically complicit in his enterprises. Should he get busted you carry a partial burden, whether legal or moral.
IF you want to salvage what is left, talk to a lawyer about how you can leverage him into treatment. Or:
Get a lawyer and file for divorce.
If you file for divorce on these grounds, he will have little choice but to sign the papers.
Again. . . . Get a lawyer. Get some legal advice. In the meantime, document everything you can. If you can copy files off the computer do it. Get all the URLs of where he goes. If he is selling "up-skirt" or other pictures of women who are unaware of being photographed, he is probably breaking the law big time.
The more evidence you have, the better. when you talk to your lawyer, s/he may suggest that you report him to the authorities. Why? There are other people who are being invaded, exploited, abused by this guy.
Good luck
2006-12-12 06:29:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OH Dear…..That is really disgraceful on his part and completely unacceptable by any wife on the earth. You have not disclosed for how long he is involved in this practice and also what kind of relationship do u actually share with him. In my opinion, he is having some serious psychiatry problem. However, no one can sympathize with him as he is clearly spoiling innocent girl’s life. In my opinion, not only you should dump such a sick person but also complain against him to the Police Station. Else, he should be sent to mental asylum…simple !
2006-12-12 06:03:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your husband is an addict and you cannot be in a healthy relationship with him until he seeks help for his illness. That is sick, not to mention against the law. I say you give him the ultimatum of getting help and getting rid of everything in your home (including the computer) remotely related to any of it. If he refuses, then you report him to the police for the gross intrusion of those women's privacy (how would you feel if YOU were on some pervo's computer) and you report him to his boss for the misuse of the computer. C'mon, he needs to be held responsible for his actions, he's your husband, not your child, start acting like the strong independent, respectable woman that you are and not like a scared little girl.
2006-12-12 05:56:11 · answer #5 · answered by Princess~C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Intervention time. I'd suggest "cleaning" his computer and where ever he keeps the porn. Then confront him. Since he doesn't stop, you probably should tell the ladies he's doing this too. Some police action and minimal jail time may be in affect if they complain. Then divorce him and find a better guy.
2006-12-12 05:51:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's got a problem. Have you considered counseling? If you love him put your foot down and give him an ultimatum. If you don't love him leave him. And someone better tell those women he's making porn movies.
2006-12-12 05:58:40 · answer #7 · answered by blastabuelliac 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, he should be taking pictures of you. However, what constitutes PORN? How could he be taking pictures of women without there knowledge? If he's making deliveries...? Well I'm missing something. Please provide more information?
I can see your justification for being mad about him taking photos. I'm just not sure what he's doing beyond that.
2006-12-12 05:54:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to force his "bad" side out into the view of other people. He could lose his job for what he is doing.
I think you need to dump him and make his life a living hell
2006-12-12 06:52:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please don't tell me you have children in the house. Insist he stops cold turkey. Help him get rid of all the porn. Have him join a sex addict group (males only) or seek therapy. If he refuses, dump him and see a lawyer. Your marriage is over.
2006-12-12 06:10:33 · answer #10 · answered by Raven 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋