I hate being how i am around people, can anyone help???????

Question

Ok, I'm a bagger at a grocery store over christmas (I need money for books). I'm 20, and most of the cashiers and other baggers that I work with are around the same age. I just can't be a social person around people (i'm a horrible conversationalist), and for that, most of them aren't even bothering to talk to me anymore. Once and a while I try to start a conversation, but i guess i'm too boring to keep it going. What am I to do? I can't really practice talking to people if they don't want to talk to me! Outside my family there really isn't anyone I talk to that I don't feel awkward talking to. I chat online with a few people, but that hasn't helped, because I can be myself when I'm not face to face with people.

By the way, I don't really have any friends except for a couple online and a couple family members (I really don't want my problems to be public in my family).

Answer 1

Obviously you are well read and intelligent. I'm sure there are many people who would love to have you as a friend. Only thing is - where to get to know them? What about finding something you like and join a club or society. It's easier to get over the shyness if you have a topic which all of you are interested in.

Answer 2

Often when we try hard to accomplish what we're not, we become incomplete. Relax and be yourself. You can enjoy the company of friends and family just by being there taking part in the group. People can tell if you're the reserve type and that's more than okay for most of us. A smile, a kind gesture, can make everyone's day.

Answer 3

honestly you have it made cause there is so much freakin drama in the world now that it is irritating. as far as making friends you should try going out to a club or local bowling alley or something just to be around people for a while. you don't even have to play or do anything just become a people watcher for a while and i bet within a week or two you will find that people can be nice and will just talk with you. good luck, merry christmas and happy new year=)

Answer 4

Hey,lighten up a little.
Bagging groceries is not so bad,plus it's not
really dirty work like plumbing.
It's hard to have a conversation with somebody that just wants their groceries so they can get back home.

you don't have to fake a smile or anything,but even a smile can go a long way in taking away the shyness.
People will generally always respond positively to
an upbeat expression.Good luck.

Answer 5

i think you should not get so excited when someone is talking to you.What i mean is that you should just not think so hard about what you are trying to say. We are all equal, so don't be afraid to talk to someone. Maybe you should brake out of your shy mentality. There is no need to be shy!
Some people do like shy people thoguh...

Take a deep breath before speaking, and remain calm

Answer 6

relax man n stop judging urself all the time watch wt others r doing if u stop being the judge of urself all the time u will relax n be able to be urself infront of people. it doesnt need rocket science to start a conversation the only thing u need is a relaxed n confident self.

Answer 7

try going to parties at night after work and getting tore up from the floor up drunk and then strike up conversations with people you think may be interesting. as for in the morning before work, go to a starbucks or some random coffee house and get caffeinated, then strike up conversation with some random person.

drugs always augment conversation for shy people, while already extraverted people tend to become shy/recessed when using drugs. but thats just a general rule ive noticed.

Answer 8

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