im 16 and shes 14 she just called and shes pregnant. her parents dont care and im gonna be a father but what do i do im only 16 and im not eady to be a dad
2006-12-12 05:44:08 · 42 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
I have a 16 year old son and I KNOW he is not ready to be a father either. First and Im sure u have already heard this 100 times- you should have used protection when having the sex and u wouldnt have to worry bout it. My son and I are very close and I, as his mom, actually bought his condoms for him JUST in case the time comes around he needs them. Its a little too late to worry about it now though. I have a hard time believing her mom doesnt CARE just too late to stress over it now. I know if my son were about to be a dad I would want to know! Its my grand child! I would talk to your parents- let them know. FINISH school! Education is most important! Find yourself a part time job and be sure to offer financial support for your baby if she decides she is keeping the baby. BUT its not all about money! Even if u r not quite ready- guess what? Ya gotta get ready now! Be a part of your childs life. This is a life u created! I know Id be upset with the situation BUT id also love my grand child and want to be in the babies life! Take things one day at a time and remember- this girl needs you now more than ever- dont desert her and the baby now when they need u most. I do NOT recommend you get married! But u can support finanacially as well as emotionally! Get your diploma and education at the same time! Its not easy and the next 18 years of your life you will be someones dad! Good luck to u - my heart is with you both
2006-12-12 05:53:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Calm down, you aren't the first guy to ever have a baby and you won't be the last. You've got nine months to study up on this "daddy" stuff, read information on the internet and any books you can get ahold of. I will tell you right now, get as much sleep as you can now because in nine months you won't get much. lol You sound like a decent guy sticking by your girlfriend's side, a lot of guys would just say "see ya"! Your girlfriend will need you more than ever after the baby comes. Do you have any friends with a baby? It's not the same, but talk to them to find out what it's like and how it has changed their lives, they might even let you change a diaper or two. lol Having a baby is a really big responsibility and very expensive. Before the baby gets here you'll probably go to prenatal classes and doctor appointments with her. Start saving up your money because you're going to need a lot of things for the baby. There will be no "you" anymore, it'll be all about your girlfriend and the baby. When the baby gets here in nine months your girlfriend will be "pooped" so make sure you're there to lend a helping hand, change diapers, make up bottles, if it's bottle fed" , get up in the middle of the night to tend to the baby, wash laundry, do dishes, straighten up the house, etc. Be very patient because tempers will flair due to lack of sleep. Also, when your girlfriend gets "gigantic" her back will hurt, be there to rub her back. Have I scared you yet? Just kidding... you'll do fine. Good luck to you and your girl friend.
2016-05-23 00:06:50 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've got 9 months to figure it out!!!
Obviously you know what you should have done and if you did do that it isn't 100% so if it was an accident....well your still too young to be having sex and so is she, in my state there would be charges since she's not even the age of consent and you are!
You both know you're not ready to be parents, that's a given. Think about your options make sure you don't take it out on her it IS NOT her fault alone. Be there and support her and take part in decisions you two are not just thinking about yourselves anymore you have a little life on the way. Talk to your parents they usually have some pretty good advice....
Good Luck!!!
2006-12-12 08:24:06 · answer #3 · answered by whitney h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guess what unfortuanly you don't have much of a choice. She isn't ready to be a mom yet either but both of got your selves into this and the man thing to do here is to be supporitve of her and be there for her and your child. Thats the important thing right now. Please don't run away and pretend this isn't happening...thats not fair to her nor your unborn child. You are going to need to tell your parents and take the steps in the right direction to make the best decision for the both of you. If SHE has decided to keep this child you are going to need to get a job and finish school and help her in anyway you can. Play time is over! The most important thing is that you encourage her to finish her education as well as yours so that both of you can provide a life for your child as well as give them some one to look up to!! Please Please Please do not desert her she needs you more now than she ever has! There are many books you can pick up to prepare your self for father hood!! This is not just her problem dont' do the norm and take off on her please do the right thing step up and take responsibility you owe it to your self, your gf and your unborn child. Hopefully you will have the support of your family behind you cuz it doens't sound like her family cares too much about her or her well being. Good Luck
2006-12-13 08:39:20 · answer #4 · answered by MLP 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well your 16 you sold know that unprotected sex could lead to this! even the withdrawl method is nto useful one bit! (i assume the was the "birth contorl" method you were using) there is still prec um, she probably got pregnant from that. you both knew the consequences of sex, protected or not. you were taking that risk. and you both lost. she is now pregnant. im sure she isnt ready to be a mother either! shes 14! you will both have to make a decsioson as to what to do. and tell your praetns too. i dotn see how her parents just dont care.....you will probably need to put up the baby for adoption........
for now just be there for her. comfort her. she will be having a harder time than you....carrying around a baby and being sick for 9 months. jsut be there for her and comfort her for now and then give the babay up for adoption
and next time use a condom!
2006-12-12 06:31:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't do abortion! Don't do adoption! Do some research on the kids that grew up through the adoption program(s), and you'll see how miserable it is for them! A lot of those kids get abused and start using drugs and stuff. You're not ready to be a dad, but you're gonna have to be one anyway. Don't stick someone else with your problem, just try to deal with it the best you can. Get parents' help and help your girlfriend. Don't mess up the baby's life! Best of luck to you. I feel for you and your girlfriend. I truly hope it all works out for you! :)
2006-12-12 13:04:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even though it is true what every one else has been telling you....and I agree with it 100%.....I am not going to tell you the obvious....
You need to both talk to your parents and decide what is the best thing for you to do....Whether it is to get an abortion, put the baby up for adoption or have the baby....
You are very young....even at 19 I can't imagine having a child.....I don't know what I would do....but I would definitely tell my parents....
Hopefully next time you will be more careful and more responsible.....
Good Luck....
2006-12-12 08:04:51 · answer #7 · answered by Shlooby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get ready for hell, 'cause you're gonna be a dad. And you really should have used protection, and I don't there'll be a 'next time' for you for a LONG time. so adopt the baby, because it needs a father, and tell your parents, ask whether or not they can help. once they're done with disbelief and a little anger, they're the only support (other than the girl) you have, and financially, they'll play a big role... P.S. diapers are costly
2006-12-12 09:41:26 · answer #8 · answered by Francesca 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay buddy, i understand where you are coming from and i don't want to preach to you. But you should have worn protection and should have took some precautions and obviously you didn't so i think that u should step up and be a real man I'm sure she is not ready to be a parent as well and she needs you. there are alternatives and that is abortion and adoption. But you both need to sit down and and talk about it together. Hope i helped and good luck.
2006-12-12 06:12:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should both talk to a school councelor, who is a neutral party, and will tell you about options that you both have. If you decide to keep the baby, then consider getting a job, and talking to your parents about living arrangements. You should continue to stay in school, and look for programs geared toward teen parents who can help assist you in schooling while caring for a child.
Goodluck with whatever you decide.
2006-12-12 05:50:48 · answer #10 · answered by *Logan's Mommy* 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋