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im only 14 years old ill be 15 in 4 months but i just found out that im pregnant...he's not that much older than me...hes only 17...i think that it would be better to move in with him for the baby's sake...but he lives about 45 minutes away...would it be illegal? would my parents have to go to court over it? do you think its a good idea?

2006-12-12 05:40:49 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting Adolescent

im only 14 years old ill be 15 in 4 months but i just found out that im pregnant...he's not that much older than me...hes only 17...i think that it would be better to move in with him for the baby's sake...but he lives about 45 minutes away....he does have a job && i wouldn't be moving in with just him...i would be moving in at his parents.....would it be illegal? would my parents have to go to court over it? do you think its a good idea?

2006-12-12 05:56:11 · update #1

24 answers

YOU NEED TO STAY AT HOME WITH YOUR PARENTS. Besides you have no business being 14 and pregnant and trying to move out. Your still a baby yourself your gonna need your mommy to help you alot. If it for the baby's sake have him move in with you! Don't leave the only support system you got for an unstable one 45 minutes away.

2006-12-12 05:48:45 · answer #1 · answered by lovelittlelulu 2 · 3 1

Moving in with him would NOT be good for the baby's sake!!! Some guy's are all talk while you're pregnant then it's completely different once the baby arrives, it's easy to take care of a pregnant belly, but a live child is a different story. I suggest you stay with your parents.

I know in my state (Oklahoma) 16 is the age of consent so if you are over the age of 16 (17) and you sleep with someone the age of 14 it is most definately illegal, not statutory necessarily but until you hit 16 it's not your decision it is your parents so they decide on charges and whether or not it was rape you wouldn't have any say in that situation.

You're too young to have a baby, but talk to your parents for heaven's sake don't move out with a guy..at least wait until a few months after it is born. Good Luck

2006-12-12 16:36:50 · answer #2 · answered by whitney h 2 · 0 0

At 14 and 17 you are not ready to make all these huge decisions for yourself. Also, you are going to mature quickly after the baby is born and you may not feel the same once this happens. I am not dissing you when I say that the decision making skills of a 14 year old are not up to par with that of an adult.You are still growing and maturing. Our decision making part of the brain keeps developing for awhile until we are in our mid 20s. I don't think you should move in with him yet. I think you should stay and let your parents help you, if they are willing. When you are a bit older and can make better choices for yourself, then you can decide if you want to marry this guy and go live with him. Raising a baby is hard. You need all the good help you can get. Trust your parents. They love you best.

2006-12-12 14:24:08 · answer #3 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 2 0

If you live with your parents and they are helping you then stay there, at least for a little while. You will need all the support you can get, emotionally, physically and financially.
You should all sit down and talk about what you plan to do, don't try to make this decision on your own.

There will be plenty of time for you to live as a family later, concentrate on doing whats best for all of you right now.

Good luck x


EDIT
If you will be living with him and his parents then this is a different situation, this is a good idea but only if everyone agrees. I don't know if it's illegal but I think that if your parents agree they will not go to court over it. I still think you should all sit and talk about it (you and your boyfriend and all 4 parents).
xx

2006-12-12 13:54:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

It depends on what state you are living in. I New York I know that there has to be more than 3 years age difference for Statutory Rape. So that person who said that he will go to jail is probably wrong. I know other states have stricter rules, so look that up.

As for it being illegal to run away from home and move in with your boyfriend it's probably illegal because you are so young. If your parents approve that is fine though. You have to look up the rules for your state, they are all a little different. Being pregnant you may be able to become emancipated from your parents.

Go to your school guidance counselor, he/she will know what the rules are for your state. Talk to your parents, they may be more understanding than you think. And keep in mind that if things don't work out with your boyfriend you don't want to burn the bridge with your parents.

Good luck, you're so young, but you'll be okay. And if you can't handle it you can also give the baby up for adoption to a nice family. You can make an infertile couple very happy if that's what you choose.

2006-12-12 14:58:57 · answer #5 · answered by kadan 2 · 1 0

Honey, I don't think that's a very good idea AT ALL. You're stilla baby yourself, and how are you and your boyfriend going to survive? Does he work? Do you? How will your medical bills get paid? Do you want to graduate high school? There are so many reasons you should wait. I hope your parents would be supportive during your pregnancy. Have you told them yet? I would stay at home and go to school. You're going to need your education to take care of this baby. While you and your boyfriend may love each other very much right now, you are both still growing up. What's going to happen to you and ther baby if you two grow apart? Where will you go? I don't know if it's illegal to move in with him where you live, but it's definately not a good idea. I hope you think about all these thigns before you make your decision. Best of luck to you.

2006-12-12 13:51:05 · answer #6 · answered by ? 2 · 0 1

In most states, it is illegal because you are under 16 yrs old. Your parents would probably need to go to court over it. I don't think it is a good idea yet, because you are a bit young and a lot of things will change between you and your bf in the next year or two.


Good Luck

2006-12-12 14:07:31 · answer #7 · answered by iloveeeyore 5 · 0 0

As a former teen parent I do NOT think it's a good idea, unless you do not have support of your parents. But it will put additional pressure on the relationship and you don't need that right now. Right now and for he next 9 months your baby won't even know his parents don't live together.

It would be illegal unless you are emmancipated. Be warned if you are emmancipated your parents no longer are required to support you in ANY way..

2006-12-16 06:32:45 · answer #8 · answered by Proud to be APBT 5 · 0 0

AT the age of 14 even 15 you really cant get a good job. I would wait to move out of the rents house Im sure they will be a big help with the baby when it comes. Just get child support and wait and see what the boyfriend does. They say one thing when your pg and do another when the baby comes.

2006-12-12 13:46:09 · answer #9 · answered by Catie 5 · 0 1

Well first off, you have to have your parents' permission to move out before you're 18, otherwise you're considered a run-away. But it sounds like you're in WAY over your head...and you NEED your parents more than anything right now! At 15, you're not ready to raise a child on your own, or even with your boyfriend. Nor are you old enough to move in with your boyfriend. So you need to tell your parents what's going on and figure out what you're going to do.

2006-12-12 21:05:53 · answer #10 · answered by jellybean24 5 · 0 0

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