ok well i have many problems as usual....but i have to rant on about it otherwise il get dperessed....my bf mum is highly fashionable and always in the gym....and im a size 14 [uk] and losing weight at the moment
anyway she was saying to my bf that saras abit `fat` well she didnt say those words [i dnt think he wouldve told me even if she did] but she was saying to him why dont i become more fashionable and also why am i not slim etc etc....she said sara needs to look nice and smart and slim on her wedding etc i can understand why she said it but i couldnt help but feel really down about it...he didnt tell me anything rude even though he wouldnt have told me anyway cos he knows itl hurt me....but i feel so inadequate now...i feel like im not good enuff for her son and im gettin paranoid that he will think im too fat too..even though hes never said it before but when i said il lose weight he didnt exaclty discourage me from it either....
i just feel down about it and because i feel bigg i tend to stick to wearing black and browns and so his mum was also saying why am i not fashionable enuff why dont i wea rbetter clothes...i know she doesnt have a right to say it maybe but she is right...i do want tod ress my age more im 22 but i dress like im 40. cos im so conscous of my wieght....
i need a makeover...[my face thank god is pretty enuff ...lol] but im feeling low about it all and dont know how to do a makeover, i tried wearing makeup but my bf said i look better without makeup on me, so i dont know what to do...im really feeling stuck.
ps...sorry i dont want to post another message my computer is very slow and frrezes often so hope you dont mind me having a rant about him here too...he used to be very possessive and wouldnt let me talk to guys or hang around with them.....now that hes maturing and chaging i find he lets me go out with mates as long as i dont associate myself with guys i just stick with the girls even if guys come with us...[i know you guys are thinkihng thats still posesive] but its not....he wouldnt let me breathe on my won before and now he is, im feeling bit left out and like he doesnt care anymore...though his possesiveness was not good, it showed atleast something that he was jealous and cared now hes abit more laid back im finding it hard to adjust amost like he doenst care anymore even though i think thats not the point....i almost wish he was back to his obsessivenes before [i used to complain about it all the time to him, and now i dont like him changing]
i dont know what to do about it im feelin paranoid as well as fat and just want to look better as well as feel better and i want my own life not always thinking about him and obseessing over what he is doing ......
2006-12-12 05:37:56 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Own your feelings!!!
Nobody can make you feel anything without your permission: Happy, sad, superior, inferior, smart, stupid...it's all with your concurrence.
If you like you as you are, don't change. If you don't like you as you are, do something about it.
For goodness sake, though, don't blame this conflict on your prospective mother in law. Feel the way you feel, own it and act on it as you see fit.
This is your life. You're driving. Pick a direction.
2006-12-12 05:39:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi, you're not bad, you're a good person, and you're definitely a beautiful girl, that would make you feel better, this is true if you believe it is, no one in the world could tell you the opposite, if your mum is mean then just ignore her, and focus more in the good things you have in your life, like your friends and mates, try not to get her attention when she's around, when you're home do something useful and never go near to her unless she changes her attitude, studying is a good thing in your case, show your dad how responsible you are, and that you are full with good thing, I know it is hard to be just that good when you're teenager, but i kind of been there , not in your circumstances, but that what done and it worked, I've got support from my friends and i avoided to be broken mind
2016-05-23 00:05:56 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A positive self image comes from you...no one else. No, his mother has no right to say things like that, but in our society, its very common. You need to focus on the stuff about yourself that does make you feel good. And being a person who recently lost alot of weight, I can tell you that it will make you feel alot better about yourself. So give it a solid try to lose weight - even 5 pounds will change your attitude.
2006-12-12 05:41:52 · answer #3 · answered by Super Ruper 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be yourself if u start changing to please his mom u will be doing everything she criticizes her way , and that's not u, just tell her that's the way u r and u r not changung it for nobody,and y should she care , is she tring to impress someone with how u look ,let her know love is not based on looks and if it is that way for her , too bad she only sees the material world and not what the world is really about, who cares who has money and looks good , good looks and money isn't what it's all chalked up to be , at least u r not a snob
2006-12-12 05:49:52 · answer #4 · answered by cc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
young lady ,god made everyone differrent ,if we where all alike we all would be bored ,look 1st u must love yr self ,before u can love and trust other people ,and as far as mum goess u need to know that no one is ever good for her boy... its just how mums r about there sons. but u dont live with her and if you know that yr boyfriend loves u ? talk with him and see? and work on yr self ,fine god and have it all....thinking of u in fla. god bless u and yr bf and his mum, forgive her and go one with yr life and be happy
2006-12-12 05:53:43 · answer #5 · answered by crosses_3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey you are friggin thinking about this wayyyyyy to much you need to realize you are dating him not his mom and obviously he likes you for you or he WOULDNT date you but seriously cmon get over it. yea i understand that it would upset you and all but dont let it make you have a 5 page rant on yahoo. if this action continues i would say go to a shrink OKKK.
2006-12-12 05:45:51 · answer #6 · answered by Kitty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW. THATS ALOT OF INFO.WELL I COULD UNDERSTAND THE WAY YOU FEEL AND SORRY. BEING A BIT OVERWEIGHT IS HARD. I'M ACUALLY WRITING A BOOK ABOUT IT.ANYWAYS. IT WASNT GOOD THAT YOUR BOYFRIEND OVERTAKING YOU.I REALLY DONT THINK YOUR BOYFRIEND IS LOSING INTEREST IN YOU.BUT I DONT UNDERSTAND IS WHY YOU EVEN FGOING OUT WITH GIRLS AND GUYS WITH OUT YOUR BOYFRIEND. THATS WEIRD.IF YOU HAVE CONFIDENCE IN YOURSELF IN WHATEVER YOU WEAR PEOPLE WILL SEE IT. DONT LET PEOPLE KNOW YOU FEEL DEPRESSED. LET THEM SEE THAT YOU MAY BE A BIT BIG BUT YOU LOVE YOURSELF. AND BELIEVE ME THERES NO STOPPING YOU.EMAIL ME IF YOU LIKE SUZULUVS@YAHOO.COM
2006-12-12 06:34:39 · answer #7 · answered by unique 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off whatever you decide to do, do it for YOURSELF not his mom. Consider everything you do to improve yourself a gift to yourself. You are with your boyfriend/fiance NOT his mom. Quit being so hard on yourself. You sound like a sweet girl who just wants to please everyone and that's impossible. Please learn to love who you are a little bit more. Give yourself some credit. I wish you all the love and luck in the world.
2006-12-12 05:47:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were big when you hooked up with your boyfriend and he loves you. Sure he wouldn't mind if you get in shape, but he's not critical and his is the opinion that matters. Get out there and shine!
2006-12-12 05:41:35 · answer #9 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nobody can make you feel inferior without your permission. Sweetie...be happy with yourself no matter what you look like. We all can use a little improvement, but don't let it rule your life.
2006-12-12 05:42:22 · answer #10 · answered by elfkin, attention whore 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋