In the early hours of Sunday morning, two of my school friends were killed tragically in a car crash. Dom and Trist were on the way back from a party, when the driver lost control of the car and crashed. There were six passengers in the car, the other four have all survived. The Rector at church told me in the morning, and as Sunday was my 16th birthday, it didn't properly hit me then - i was too happy and excited. But yesterday school was awful. I spent the whole of first lesson (an hour and 10 minutes) in tears, and i thought i was calm until i got to the church that morning: i had a rehearsal for the service that night. I was in floods of tears, and everyone was so nice to me, which made it worse. The service was so hard last night, but i managed to get through it... my greatest thank yous go to Simon for getting me through it. Now i think i'm all cried out, although i still feel really down...so i was just wondering: what would you do to cheer me up?
2006-12-12 05:34:26 · 5 answers · asked by Little Miss Helellena 3 in Education & Reference ➔ Primary & Secondary Education
Our headteacher has let us write messages on the sculpture at the front of school, and we've written in "memory books" for the boys; which has helped a lot. But i knew them well, especially Dom and it's really hit me hard...
2006-12-12 05:35:54 · update #1
I have lost 2 really close people to me since July, and i still sob now.
You wont just get over it and you will certainly never forget, i keep thinking how last year was their last Christmas, and sometimes even feel guilty for getting older, i know that sounds silly but its part of grief.
I'm pretty sure that soon you will feel angry with them too for a while, and then you will come to the realisation that you WILL NEVER see them again, and that bit really hurts.
Just give yourself time and don't rush the grieving process, its long and its very, very hard, but you will learn to cope, and you will move on.
Of course you will NEVER forget them, but you will realise that your life is special and you must live it to the full.
They will be looking down on you and willing you to do this, so just take it one day at a time.
Good luck and you will smile again - i promise.xx
2006-12-12 05:42:20 · answer #1 · answered by Cherry 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to get closure on their deaths in order to be able to move on, that means saying goodbye and accepting that they are never coming back. it is sad but you have to think that they would want this for you, they want you to live a happy and fulfilling life. Never feel bad about talking about them, feel free to say something like Dom would have loved this because it is a nice way to remember someone. To cheer yourself up you could do something nice, try something completely new and unrelated to the times spent with either of them. Sport helps as a way to release emotions.
2006-12-12 13:39:21 · answer #2 · answered by pink_angel_pie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry - but it can't have hit you that hard as you say that you were "too happy and excited" becuase it was your birthday for it to register when you were initially told of this sad news.
I hate to sound hard but it seems as if you're enjoying all the extra attention you are achieving with this mourning.
Get on with your life.
2006-12-13 05:27:06 · answer #3 · answered by Safety First 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i'm so sorry to hear about the accident, you will probably cry a few more tears before you are - cried out- but just try to remember all the fun times you had together, that made you all smile,
2006-12-12 13:44:47 · answer #4 · answered by Weed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so sorry bout it they are happy now i am sure to cheer you up if i could i would get the sadness out of you :( so sorry
2006-12-13 13:37:34 · answer #5 · answered by PaIgE c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋