after 10 months me and my boy friend broke up about a week ago, and his best friend was going out withMY best friend but they had allready broke up in september. that was her 1st love and she still do love him but he said he has no feelings for her any more, and he came forward and told me he likes me a WHOLE lot. he keeps calling me, and trys to talk to me in school. then on top of that my best friend be wanting me to go back and tell him stuff for her so that makes it even harder to avoid him. i dont want to tell my ex or my best because i know it will hurt her badly. what should i do?
2006-12-12 05:31:01 · 9 answers · asked by Iesha B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
going out with him will really hurt her feelings. guys will come and go in your life - best friends are priceless!
2006-12-12 05:34:31 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
WELL SWEETIE, THIS IS A HARD CHOICE TO MAKE, BUT YOU GOTTA DO WHAT IS RIGHT UNLESS YOU LIKE HIM TO AND YOU STILL HAVE TO DO THE RIGHT THING. IF I WAS YOU AND I HAVE BEEN , ID TALK WITH HIM AND TELL HIM THAT THERE ID NO WAY THAT YALL CAN MAKE A GO OF A RELATIONSHIP B/C YOU CARE ABOUT YOU FRIEND AS WELL AS YOU EX, WHICH IS HIS FRIEND AND YOUR NOT GOING THERE. OR IF ITS WHERE YALL BOTH FEEL THE SAME AND NOTHING HAS HAPPENED THEN DONT LET ANYTHING HAPPEN B/C YALL ARE HURTTING 2 PEOPLE THAT YOU SEEM TO CARE ABOUT AND HE DONT, FEELINGS CAN BE OVER POWERED BY OTHER PEOPLE THAT YOU LOVE AND IF I WAS YOU ID EXPLAIN TO HIM IF HE DONT STOP YOUR GONNA HAVE A TALK WITH BOTH OF THE, AND EVEN IF YOU CARE ABOUT HIM YOU GOTTA PUT YOUR GIRLS FEELINGS FIRST, AND SHE'LL THANK YOU IN THE END, DONT FREAK OUT JUST YET, TALK THINGS OVER WITH THIS GUY AND IF HE DONT SEE IT YOUR WAY GO TO THE EX AND THE FRIEND.. HAVEING A FRIEND MEANS BEING A FRIEND... IF YOU DONT WANT TO LOSE HER MAKE HIM BACK OFF B-4 SHE FINDS OUT HE LIKES YOU AND SHE FEELS LIKE YOU LIKE HIM BACK.. SAME WITH THE EX. HOPE THIS HELPS YOU HUN, I KNOW AT 24, I GOT THE SAME ADVICE FROM MY OLDER SISTER AND IT HELP'D ME... :) GOOD LUCK .....
2006-12-12 05:49:19 · answer #2 · answered by JANICE R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is she really your best friend? Well, if she is then she fall into the treat her like a sister category. Would date your sisters ex-boyfriend? No, right? Because there are certain boundaries that you don't cross. Now, if you don't give a crap about your friend then by all means date the boy.
2006-12-12 05:43:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you care for any one involved just tell the guy that you cherish your friendship with your best friend. And the fact that he doesn't care about her or his friend to talk to you means he is not a good person. So just step back you'll meet someone else and you can all move on.
2006-12-12 05:35:14 · answer #4 · answered by Lovely Lady 27 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to wait until your friend has lost interest in him. First of all you should tell him to back off - straight up. Then I'd go to her and say, "listen girl you don't need to be worryin about that jerk. You two haven't even been broken up a bit and this bas*ard has already started trying to get with me. I told him to FO. Honey, he don't deserve you. You deserve someone SO much better than him."
2006-12-12 05:36:24 · answer #5 · answered by ScubaGuy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever You do... DO NOT DATE THIS GUY. TRUST ME!!! That will not end well. Tell the guy flat out that you are not interested... PLUS, he broke your friends heart. Whatta jerk! Right?! So be there for your friend, Tell her you cant relay anymore msgs. Why tell your ex anything? He is your ex.... He probably doesnt care anyways. Good luck to you!
2006-12-12 05:37:23 · answer #6 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if youu like him you should wait a bit to tell them so that you
can see if she ever gets over him ... but after a while you will have
to tell her because she is your best friend and shes supposed to
understandd ... for your boyfriend screw him because you guys
broke up and your allowed to go out with other guys ... and if you
dont like him just tell your best friend right away .. its the best
thing to do and you would feel better about it ... it may even help
her get over him !!
2006-12-12 05:35:11 · answer #7 · answered by Taylor M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him to fall back!!! tell him you arent gonna go there & to plzz stop coming at you like that b/c its not gonna happen!!!!
2006-12-12 05:33:50 · answer #8 · answered by kimmiegaddy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait untill ur best friend is over him!
2006-12-12 05:36:18 · answer #9 · answered by gala-day 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋