Ive been in a wheel chair now for 3 years just getting used to it realy and Ive found that there are not many non handicapped women that are interested in me any more , every thing works below the waist , and I am not conceded at all but Im not an ugly man . I guess I just wonder if I have a romatic future at all.
2006-12-12 05:29:54 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Oh goodness no! A friend of mine is in a wheelchair and he has a wonderful, beautiful girlfriend. Sure there is some women, who very immature and only thinks with their genitals, who will not want to be with you, but you don't want those type of women. You will find that special someone. Give it time.
2006-12-12 05:33:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello! I will attempt to answer your question to the best of my abilities. I am a woman & I work with woman & get to listen to all of their drama, it's actually part of my job.
1. There are women that it would matter too. They simply would not be attracted to a man who didn't have use of his legs. Or they wouldn't want to put up with what they would perceive as the hassle of going out together. Or they wouldn't want to deal with any outside attention they would get by going out with you.
2. There are woman that are rescuers. And will be more attracted to men with any kind of handicaps, so they can feel like they are doing something to help them. Rescuing them, gives the women a sense of power & control. Perhaps they have lower self esteem, or something as well.
3. Thirdly & lastly there are woman like me. I think that most of us fall into this category. I would not be opposed to dating a man in a wheel chair, but I wouldn't go into the relationship lightly. I would have to really like the guy. Enough to ask questions I'd find uncomfortable asking & adjust my lifestyle to accommodate their needs. The man would have to be open & honest with me about what's going on. I mean really weather or not the gentleman is fully functioning is a big deal, and asking that question can be rude & very uncomfortable not to mention hinting that he might be getting some action when in reality I'd only want to know for much further down the line.
There is a future you just now have more obstacles. Have you tried inviting any of the girls you like out? You might be surprised at the answers. Wish you the best of luck!!
2006-12-12 05:51:28 · answer #2 · answered by Little Nell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem isn't you. The problem is that people tend to steer clear of that which is different than them. This problem is amplified by american culture and the ideas of the "trophy wife" or "trophy husband." You'll find that the mass of women that are attracted to you will likely turn you down because of social pressures, these may come from friends, television, or movies.
The point that I am trying to get at here is that things may seem bleak, but you do have a future. Just wait, you'll come across someone that rejects the idea that everyone has to fit the media stereotype. On this, I can speak from experience.
2006-12-12 05:37:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You absolutely can have a romantic future. The right woman will have no problems with you being in a wheel chair. Even if nothing worked below the waist, there would still be many ways to have a fulfilling intimate relationship (ever see "Coming Home?") so don't give up.
2006-12-12 05:32:41 · answer #4 · answered by kja63 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it is more out of fear of the unknown than anything.....I'm married now, but I used to work with a handicapped gentleman....I would talk to him quite a bit, though it was always informal casual conversation in passing....I really was "attracted to him".... I never let on tho' because I really didn't know what he was thinking.... I think that you will probably just have to let a relationship "develop" this way....Unfortunately, you have some shallow women who would really never consider the idea, but others would....after getting to know the person....It's really about what's on the inside....I hope you find someone special that appreciates you for who you are..... God Bless!
2006-12-12 05:36:55 · answer #5 · answered by favrd1 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Patience!! My best friend (female) is happily married for 20 years to a wonderful man in a wheelchair. He has been that way since birth due to polio, but she adores him anyway. In fact, this is her 2nd marriage -- the first, to a non-handicapped person, just did not work out for her. So, there ARE folks out there who can love in spite of what may seem to be insurmountable problems. Keep looking!
2006-12-12 05:33:21 · answer #6 · answered by Yahzmin ♥♥ 4ever 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you have a lot of money like mucrisoft's chair man, you will get a romatic future matter-of-course. because we all know that money make world go a round.
2006-12-12 05:38:09 · answer #7 · answered by Eiffel Tower 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I worked with people in wheelchairs for years and have found that yes they do discover a partner. We used to find out quite often that one of our clients would appear with someone new accompanying them and would be introduced to the girl/boy friend or even fiance. My best advice to you is to not think of yourself being in a wheelchair but get out to places to meet people the same as non-wheelchair people do
2006-12-12 05:43:36 · answer #8 · answered by whyme? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the wheel chair has nothing to do with get out more plenty of women looking for guys out there dont put your self down
2006-12-12 05:36:53 · answer #9 · answered by sam i am 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You do have a romantic future. It takes people who are not in wheelchairs many years to find that special someone. But they will come along. Don't worry.
2006-12-12 05:32:20 · answer #10 · answered by ~*RaMpAgE*~ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋